Should I give up this life and finish them if I know I will forever be alone?

Question

I am just really bad in this game.
I can’t make the impression that is needed to seduce woman. I can’t talk a fancy talk; I can’t make a girl laugh.
I can only be my self. And I am afraid that it is not good enough. My self is a really poor self, lame self.
Once I thought to my self every loser will find his loser to live with. But I am even too lame for that.
It seems people don’t fall in love any more.
Only make cold calculations.
No one but stupid me. And I can’t keep up with this time.
I can’t do the things that are necessary to impress woman.
I am 22 years old and alone, for god sake.
I am good enough to be a friend. I was called:
Helpful, kind, caring and a good hearted person.
But these are not the qualities that are good for finding a girl friend…
So I guess I will have to spend my life alone.
Should I except this fate and try to live with it.
Or finish it now? Its just looks so hopeless…
And I don’t want to die or something.
I have ambitions. Big ambitions! But what dose life achievements are good for when you are alone in this life.

Answer 1

The best part of what you have said so far is that you are good enough to be a friend and that you are yourself. In answer to your question about love;

People fall in love everyday. It is not old fashion. It has always been in fashion since as long as we have records in history and I believe like many that it will always be in fashion. Queer thing is; sometimes it hurts for the lack of and sometimes it hurts because of a loss.

I'm not trying to read in to much to what you have shared. But I would like to make a couple of observations to a person whom appears to be a genuine loving good person.

You suggest that you think you need to impress women. That you are bad at the game. Women, real women are not looking for someone to impress them. They are looking for the genuine being inside of the body. They are looking for a connection. A feeling. As people we look at other people and it is what they present to us about ourselfs that makes us want or not want to connect. Real women are not in it for a game. Real women are out there just like you. Trying to survive, have human contact, make friends, find love, and give back to this far out crazy place we call earth.

A good question for you is: "How might you put yourself out there where you would possible meet people of similar ideas and possible connect?" So now I would like to ask you a few questions for thought. How do you like to spend your free time? The beach, the woods, the mountains, biking, hiking, swimming, reading, site seeing around the world? What is it that makes you tick? Start ticking, be you. Continue to be the best you. Stay happy. Happy attracts happy. Get up in the morning and take care of you. When you leave in the morning to face the world, be everything you can to be the best you. Go after your ambitions that you spoke of and while you are achieving in life look around and see who is with you. Love will happen. It just happens at different times for different people. You sound sincere and real. Sincere and real is a lot more rewarding and sometimes harder to find then the common fake, talk the talk, walk the walk wanna be but don't real know what love is shakers and movers. If you want to share more, and or ask more just write. ciao

Answer 2

Why do you have to impress women? Why is not being yourself good enough if you are helpful, kind, and caring? You are only 22, why is your life over?

I didn't meet my husband until he was 32, and he had never had a serious relationship. We are happily married, and I am so glad he waited for me.

When I was your age I thought I would be alone forever too. I think a lot of people think this way. But things can change quickly.

Perhaps you are worrying so much about finding someone, that you are not just living and being happy? There are so many people who just hook up to not be alone. But you don't want that do you? I would hope not.

The only advice I could give you is that you need to gain some self-confidence. And go out in the world and do things that make you happy. The rest will fall into place.

Answer 3

You are still young man! I am now 36 and when I was your age I felt the same way as you. I pretty much married the first so called "decent" guy and after 20 yrs of a terrible marriage, I just got divorced! I wish I could be "miserable" at 22 again. God, I'd do half my life over right this time. Live life one day at a time, take what comes at ya slowly . That's all we can do dude! We all have a different purpose in life. Have you tried accepting the Lord as your Savior? Pray and ask for his guidance. He will help you. Buy a King James Version Bible and just read! Maybe start with the book of Romans.

Answer 4

You know what? You sound a really good duy to me, a real catch... I don't know what you look like, I always thought this BDS was people who thought they were grossly fat or ugly, and yet I can't believe you are either. You have got a problem though, and theres no point in denying it. You HAVE to speak to a professional person about this. You have got a severe problem that is ruining your life. There will be a reason somewhere why you are the way you are, and you have to discover it and get rid of it. There are loads of people who can help you, and your first port of call has to be your doctor. If you find he/she not to be sympathetic, then find another. You have an illness as real and as deserving of treatment as cancer.... so please get out there and reclaim your life... for me?? I'm nice, I'm a woman, I'm probably old enough to be your mother, so as your adopted mother, I am telling you to go and see the doc..

Answer 5

Boo Hoo Hoo!!! Life sucks, life is over. Grow up!!!! you are a young kid yet, the qualities you say you have are exactly what you want to attract a quality woman. Of course, being a crybaby over being a "loser" will turn them off everytime. You should have a good 60 years yet before you have "spent your life alone". Stop crying and just be yourself. If they want to be friends, be friends,,,,that can develop into something more, but stop sabotaging yourself by acting like a schmuck.

Answer 6

Unless you're claiming to be God, you can't know the future. I thought I was doomed to be alone when I was 22 years old - and I'm now happily married.

If you kill yourself, you will only make this depressing future come true. If you live, however, you never know what it will bring. Let life surprise you!

Answer 7

You are only 22. Give it time. Im 31 and alone. I have been in relationships and have been married. Just havent found the right person for me!

Answer 8

all the qualities are great
it doesnt matter if you cant sweet talk, all that matters is a good heart
my bf isnt attractive, or romatic, but i still fell for him for who he is!!
try asking god to help you, mayb go to church there is plenty of nice girls there
good luck

Answer 9

Just because you don't have a girlfriend, it doesn't mean you will never have a girlfriend. You just haven't found her yet. I am five years older than you, yet I don't have any girlfriends. But, I am doing just fine. Relax, buddy. No woman, no cry :)

Answer 10

don't give up. im telling u i've felt like u have b/4. cant say i know everything u're going thru, but i kinda understand. it might not look or feel like its gonna get better, but just keep going, if u're down, then u can only go up. hope dis helps :)