Boys--What would you do if a woman............................................................................

Question

I'm going to give a scenario and then please tell me what you would do:
There's a woman, who was your best friend when you were in high school, and for almost a year after high school. After high school she got into a bad relationship with a guy everyone hates, but she was tricked into marrying him, and ended up having a baby a year later. You've been talking with this woman, and are still distant friends, and now she's divorced and moves out with her son back to the city you're in. She's independent, supporting herself, and comes to you with a question. She loves being a mom and wants another baby but doesn't want to wait because of the horrible relationship experience she had, and trusts you, and wants to know if you'll "donate" so that she can have a baby. It would be yours and hers, but you have the choice to be totally unconnected and it's mainly her asking so she can have another baby. You know she's a good mother, and attractive. Maybe you even liked her in high school. WW u do

Answer 1

No way, ever. I would never ever do something like that.

1. I'm not bringing a baby into this world unless I'm prepared to be a father to it -- and that means more than just financial support. And I can't do that job properly if I'm not in a loving partnership with the mother.

2. Once you're pregnant, I'm powerless. When you have the child, you can hit me up for child support and there's nothing I can do about it. Legally, it doesn't matter what agreement we had before you got pregnant.

3. You're creating new life because you want a baby -- the baby has no choice in the matter. You must ask yourself what this new life is getting out of the deal. Wouldn't you like for the child to have a real father instead of some surrogate? And if you find a new man, can you trust yourself to select a decent one? I'm sorry to hear that you were tricked into marriage, but if you chose a guy whom everyone hated, who ended up betraying you, you need to take some responsibility for choosing that guy in the first place. You need to wonder, "Am I in a good emotional position to be a mother to a second child?"

Answer 2

Wow. That's pretty deep. Well, you don't go any farther than creating a new life with someone, so this should only be entered into after one **** of a lot of thought. She might be attractive, but do you LOVE her? And even if there's "no strings attached" there's still an attachment. Growing up without a dad is no way to grow up. If you have a good job, and can support her and your child, and truly love her, then do it. But don't even think about doing it if you're not totally sure.

Answer 3

I would "donate" so that she can do what she wants, but only if i knew that she had enough money to support the child and had decent mothering skills. I would also consult a lawyer and make sure that you wouldnt be obligated later to help the mom with any costs of the child and stuff like that. i would Make her sign something that says i wouldnt need to pay any child support or anything. Hope that helps!

Answer 4

I would tell her, absolutely as long as she doesn't hold me financially responsible, and allows me all the time I want or none at all if that's what I want. I would tell her no strings. But the only way I would donate, is the natural way, I' not going to go J.O. into a jar. Would definately make her sign a contract. I know it sounds mean and cold, but I've been through enough with children and their mothers to make sure I'm not used again.

Answer 5

Make sure you have a good job so you can afford to pay the child support payments in a timely manner for the next 18 years and avoid a trip to the iron bar hotel.

Answer 6

Wow. She may be a good mom, but to have stable children, it takes 2. Dude, don't do it--lots of things can go wrong. You have been friends, and that would be problematic in the future. It will be your child, too. How would you feel if another man came into her life? and of course, the childs life?

Answer 7

I would give her a kid after she gave me one. I am gay and would love to have my own child. BUT i can not do that alone so I would want the first son born or the second child if the first is a girl. (I do not know how to raise girls so I would prefer a boy, but if the second child was a girl also then I would have to call mom and Grandma alot. :)

Answer 8

A child needs a mum and dad, no a separate relationship. a child should be brought into the world with love not convenience.

Answer 9

I'd decline. That's nothing but problems for everyone involved, especially the baby.

Answer 10

Hmm, confusing to declare. i assume legally, you're a guy/lady as quickly as you're over 18. i think of adult adult males want to become adult adult males as youthful as achievable, yet females want to stay females perpetually! i think of a woman will become a woman while she has her first infant, yet a boy will become a guy as quickly as he notices his first pube!