Family & Relationships - 22 October 2007

Do you guys think that if a breakup occurs real love can never bloom between both people? My girlfriend broke up with me and yet after 2 days she txt me asking to see how I was doing, then 2 days after that she called me to see what was going on and if I was alright. Sort of like a "I was suppose to see you today and I didn't so I called to see what you were doing" type of phone call. So what do you guys think? could real love and marriage ever occur between us two?

2007-10-22 09:39:07 · 16 answers · asked by Class 4 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-22 09:37:06 · 1 answers · asked by t.t 1 in Singles & Dating

he says he does! every day! but sometimes i wonder. hes very picky w/ his gfs. im just one of those luky ppl that he likes. then i say if i cut my hair really short he would still luv me. he said yes...but i need more proof...how do i no?

2007-10-22 09:36:46 · 12 answers · asked by Sad.Depressed 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-22 09:35:12 · 27 answers · asked by shoya 2 in Singles & Dating

ok heres the story. me & friend big fight, about a year. just started talkin. now shes sayin that my boy is cheatin with some girl she doesnt talk to. i have proof that he didnt. but im not sure, cuz hes cheated on a whole bunch of other girls. he says he loves me. its almost been a year we've been dating. plus my friend DOES NOT like him! then his friend said that he told the girl we broke up...and blah blah...idk wat to do! i need advice! who should i trust!?!?

2007-10-22 09:34:18 · 19 answers · asked by Sad.Depressed 1 in Singles & Dating

he want to go farther with me. i want to and all. (i'm old enough dont worry) but like he always talks about and i keep saying yes... but he'll be my first and i'm not his( and he knows that) ....and like I'LL HAVE NO IDEA HOW! lol i seriuosly dotn want to be known as the girl who sucks at sex. lol . help pleazzz

2007-10-22 09:32:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband and I have been married for one year. I told him from the beginning that I hate his smoking, but I kind of just let it go. Now, he's talking about wanting kids, but I said I don't want any until he quits. I just don't want my kids around cigarettes, especially from their father. He keeps saying he will quit once we have kids, but I don't believe him. Is it wrong for me to say this???

2007-10-22 09:32:07 · 80 answers · asked by Damon ♥ Elena 6 in Marriage & Divorce

i've grown up with very religious parents and i've been taught that you should remain a virgin until you are married. my b/f and i both know we're READY to have sex, but i feel like it's a sin. he doesn't believe until saving yourself until you're married. i've always wondered would oral sex/fingering count as "sex before marriage?" i guess that it depends on my definition of sex and i don't believe that oral sex is "real sex". what is the actual definition of "saving yourself until marriage"?

2007-10-22 09:31:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im 40 and she is 28, im not sure if she fancys me but i do her, is the age gap too much?

2007-10-22 09:31:06 · 52 answers · asked by chris m 4 in Singles & Dating

I broke up with my boyfriend because I wouldn't have sex with him.He got very mad. I can't get over him and it's hendering me from starting another relationship with someone else. What do I do. I still love him dearly but I know that I must move on?

2007-10-22 09:30:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i really like this girl in high school. we walk together, talk, and phone each other. there were many times i could have kissed her. but i always paused and just said "see u later". this always happens. im afraid that she wouldnet want to kiss a man with acne. i have mild around cheeks mostly. im trying everything. also i dont want to be in the friend zone because i havent kissed her. what should i do about it? i keep thinking, "ok, she likes me for me right? and the acne should not be a big problem" but it is...any help please?

2007-10-22 09:29:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was at one of my really good friends house yesterday (i've known her for 7 years) and she asked me to do weed with her. she said " you should do weed with me.. everyone is doing it
want to?" i said "no, i don't do drugs" she said "come on.. EVERYONE is doing it.. you should do it with me" i said "well if everyone is doing it.. ask them to
do it with you.. because im not" then she said "well fine then leave" i said "i'd be glad" then i left.. she's sooo mad at me.
I tried it when i was 13 and i almost died from it and i don't want to die so i will NEVER do drugs again..did i do the right thing?

i'm 16 and she's 15..

2007-10-22 09:28:39 · 14 answers · asked by Emma M 1 in Friends

I work in an office and am a loans manager for a large company. Im 47 years old and been divorced for 7 years i have 2 sons aged 10 and 12, they live with their mother. The thing is a new secretary started at the firm recently, she's 23. She has an amazing body, very curvy and wears some sexy outfits. She was in my office the other day and was looking for a file for my colleague she stretched up and i was looking at her breasts i looked at her and she was looking at me! I immediately looked away, i felt very embarassed. Though she still smiles at me and says 'hello', in fact she's started chatting with me alot more since then, she's very intelligent. She's only been with the company 3 months and seems a lovely girl! If only i was 15-20 years younger id ask her out. I do fantasise about her. I just hope she understands i didnt mean to stare at her, will she? I dont look too bad for my age but feel she must think im a dirty old man. I wish i wasnt so attracted to her.

2007-10-22 09:28:12 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Is it normal for a married couple to only have sex twice a week? (Sometimes 4 times a month) I'm 22 and my husband 23. We had had serious problems before I had a LEEP done on March 2007 and I had 2 miscarriages one on Feb. and another in Sep. He said he doesn't want to hurt me. And I found out he watched porn......What is normal?

2007-10-22 09:25:47 · 26 answers · asked by Lule P 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My Boyfriend and I had a fairly quick moving relationship. We have been together 3 years and have a 2 year old. He is a wonderful father and treats me really well. I love everything about him. ... here comes the dreaded BUT. He wont hold down a job... my parents have bailed us out of $$$ situation numerous times... he lies about why he isnt working anymore.. and then sits on the couch for weeks before he finally gets another job which he seems to get the "3month itch" I dont know what to do!!!! I am so indebt because of him.... and i stomache aches from being so stressed.... is it pointless to keep trying with him regardless of how much I love him?

2007-10-22 09:25:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Holds your hand

Gets jealous when other guys are around

Really needs you to answer his phone call even if he is not coming over

Says, lets keep this to ourselves and then romantically kisses your cheek in front of ten people??

Its like he wants a relationship in the back of his mind but cant get think of it in his life or something...

This is too much AND not ENOUGH...

SUGGESTIONS...??

2007-10-22 09:24:06 · 5 answers · asked by old_soul_945 3 in Singles & Dating

I'm cape verdian and dominican and I come from a family of many different races. I was raised not to see "color" or be very judgmental towards people of a different race. Anyway My girlfriend is a latina (puertorican) she says that her parents like me but sometimes I get the feeling that they would "love" me if i was puertorican! What should I do?

2007-10-22 09:21:51 · 7 answers · asked by ~$~Ace~$~ 3 in Singles & Dating

so I took a girl out two weeks ago, she was really excited and the date went very well, I waited five days to call her and thanked her for going to dinner with me and asked her out again, she seemed excited and said that would be verry good. I told her I would take her to a movie or to a party (i wasn't sure how comfortable she was with me). She took a very long time to respond (txt) as she usually does, but when she did it said "I just got a boyfriend so dating isn't an option any more, but I would love to hang out sometime if that's cool.

I know I got shot down and there's probably not another guy, but I'm really shook up about it. Her X treated her like crap and to think that someone would go out with him and then shoot me down kills me. (not to be self-centered)

I know you guys don't know her or I, but what do you guys think? what went wrong?

2007-10-22 09:20:23 · 4 answers · asked by Nate 6 in Singles & Dating

We have been going out for 5 months almost 6 months. It will be 6 on the 24th of october. He always gets me flowers and cute stuff like that and i have no idea what to get him...?

2007-10-22 09:20:13 · 19 answers · asked by pear~bear 2 in Singles & Dating

I am having one of those moments, one of those days that creeps on you when you don't expect it, years after the separation, and on the brink of finalizing the divorce about my kids. I have been told I am one of the best as I see my kids every weekend, call every day and talk--they live near by. I just sometimes look at their pictures and think about how the life circumstance of not having mom and dad under one roof will effect them later in life, and how it has already. They are well adjusted, doing well in school, and know the love comes from both parents. They see us as parents involved in their lives and work together as a team on any decisions that concern them. We compremise well enough regarding issues about them and mostly agree to begin with. Still I feel guilty at times as a father...anyone else been through this in this way?...

2007-10-22 09:19:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-22 09:19:09 · 47 answers · asked by sunshine36 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We are seperated (3 months). I went out Friday night. The next day he saw me and told me...

"There are 2 things in life I regret, you and our daughter"
"I feel like spitting on you"
"your a whore"
(if the cops werent aroudn the block i think he would have)
---he told my daughter (who was in the back seat)
"i hope when you grow up your not a slut like your mother"
"your going to have a new daddy"
(later on she was crying about that too me saying she didnt want a new dad)


he went to a rehab yesterday and i scene him, tryed to forget all he said to show my SUPPORT? but now i feel like a fool because i hung out with him AFTER all that crap he told us.

Should I FINALLY get this divorce and serve him papers in rehab?? (is that too cold blooded??)

2007-10-22 09:13:14 · 21 answers · asked by None 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I cannot tell this woman that I want to get out of this affair. I love her too much, but at the same time, cannot walk out of the marriage. How do I deal with this situation and woman. She wont accept that i want to call it off.

2007-10-22 09:12:21 · 21 answers · asked by jamesjopio 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My bf has been fingering me for a few months, and the last 3 times, i got blood on his sheets and his hand. It also hurts now and I tell him to stop but he won't. I would tell my mom, but she'd kill me, and my stomach hurts when i leave to. He is really changing, more aggressive, like he does'nt ask, just sticks like 3 or 4 fingers REALLY far up and i tell him it hurts, but he dose'nt listen. Is this a rape? Do i break up with him? How do I get him to stop being so aggressive even if i already told him?

2007-10-22 09:09:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-22 09:08:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i was really annoyed at her,that dress would have made even a stripper ashamed.When I asked her,she told that everyone of her friends was wearing one like that and she had to do the same so that she was not left out.do u think women r under pressure to wear scanty clothing.Recently the cloths have got even outrageous,Can u tell how to advice her politly to wear something modest ?Why are'nt girls ashamed to wear such scanty clothing ?
Don't u think it time parents took notice of it?

2007-10-22 09:06:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-22 09:04:19 · 8 answers · asked by inay 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay so i have high self esteem, most people tell me i am quite , i am shy around hot cute guys especially the ones i don't talk to much, when i am around my guy friends i am pretty loud towards them i mean i am more outgoing towards them, i think i am cute and nice girl to get along with, now what i have found out is that one of my guy friends liked me and he didn't dare to ask me out. Now i am a nice girl and i can be a great girlfriend, but i am wondering why do most guys go ask out those loud, fast, want every guy type of girls but don't ask me out even when they like me. They wait till it wears off and move on. Is there any reason for that?

2007-10-22 09:02:54 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

She said that she likes me, but deep down inside i know she likes another guy too. She tells me she does not know who she likes and she feels confused. i like her too i dont want to let her go. wat do i do?

2007-10-22 08:58:55 · 1 answers · asked by HITCH 2 in Singles & Dating

my wife is 21 and has a few male friends whick is ok with me. There is one friend that is 43 years old and has been her parents neighbor for about 11 years. They have recently started to meet up at some local clubs on Thursday nights. They are never usually alone they meet up with some other friends. My question is that I am worried why they are friends. i asked my wife why she is friends with him and if she is attracted to him. She says that she seems him as a brother and that it would be gross to hook up with him since he is so much older than him and since he saw her grow up. I am friends with this man too and do not get any funny vibes from at all. He is currently in love with another woman and does not date any woman under 30 and he only loves ethnic women. Why am i so insecure about this and am i wrong for thinking this

2007-10-22 08:57:36 · 6 answers · asked by iamconfused 1 in Singles & Dating