ok heres the story. me & friend big fight, about a year. just started talkin. now shes sayin that my boy is cheatin with some girl she doesnt talk to. i have proof that he didnt. but im not sure, cuz hes cheated on a whole bunch of other girls. he says he loves me. its almost been a year we've been dating. plus my friend DOES NOT like him! then his friend said that he told the girl we broke up...and blah blah...idk wat to do! i need advice! who should i trust!?!?
2007-10-22 09:34:18 · 19 answers · asked by Sad.Depressed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're seriously dating a known cheater and you're "not sure" if he's faithful? That's not good.
Either you have proof he didn't or you don't. It sounds to me that you're not sold about him and are just happy to have a boyfriend. You're selling yourself too low.
Talk to the girl yourself in question. Maybe your argumentative friend is right and just isn't a gifted speaker. It's YOUR heart that's in jeopardy so take action.
2007-10-22 09:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't care who the person is you never put anything past a person. Everyone is capable of doing wrong. If your friend has advised that your boyfriend is cheating, you ask him. Only thing you can do is Watch, Listen and Observe what he does and you make your judgement. By the way you sound young so he will not be the last boyfriend. Enjoy life and do not be upset behind no boy!!!! You also say you have proof that he is not cheating than maybe you need to find a new friend. A friend thats on your side.
2007-10-22 16:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by Law Lady 08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? Sweetie, please take some time and type that out coherently! It should read the way you would say it, well, so that someone not in your head can see what you are saying. If you're talking about "he said, she said" stuff, that's a waste of time. Cheaters tend to continue to cheat whether they say they love you or not. There is no way to have proof that someone didn't cheat, he could have done it at anytime you weren't looking! Maybe she's telling the truth or she isn't, but if he's cheated on a "whole bunch of other girls" and you know this, it's time to move on!
2007-10-22 16:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um i have some bad news for you, your boyfriend is cheating on you...your friend is trying to help you. I know because i have seen this happen time and time again. Also, if he has cheated before you should leave him. Once a cheater always a cheater, and I'm sorry but if you are still with him than your not the sharpest tool in the shed are you? When a cheater says they love you think of how many others they have said that to. This is how it starts sooner or later he will hit you and tell you, you made him, and you will believe it... again I've seen this happen over and over.
2007-10-22 16:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by peanutbutterjellytime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go with your gut. If you trust your friend, confront your guy about the accustions. If he denies them, then start to look for little things that seem odd. Does he leave the room to talk on the phone? Or seem distant at times? If he's cheated before, it's a high chance that he'll cheat again. Just make sure to keep your guard up and look for anything suspecious.
2007-10-22 16:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by Sable M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that she really does not like him?
She might be right OR she might be the one you have to worry about. Sorry to tell you that.
If he has cheated with other people, what makes you so sure he won't do it with you? You want to think that he would be reformed and be an "angel" with you. That might be possible, but he sounds like a player to me. She may not like him because he may have come on to her at some point and does not want to tell you for fear that you might accuse her of coming on to him. Open your eyes. How long have you known each of them? Who do you think you can trust?
Real friends shouldn't be fighting over guys. It's not worth it in the end.
2007-10-22 16:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by L M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be with a boy who you know has cheated on girls before. That's a BIG red flag right there. No one can really answer this question for you because they don't know your boyfriend OR friend. Sounds like a bad soap opera to me.
2007-10-22 16:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by MeLikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having the proof that someone is cheating is easier than having proof he is not. He may not be cheating with the one your friend says but that does not mean there is not someone else. Besides if he has done it before with other girlfriends what makes you think he would not with you. It may just be his make up. That he can not be committed to just one girl.
2007-10-22 16:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by debbie f 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think in this situation, I'd find the girl your friend said he was cheating on you with. Do this in a nonconfrontational way: tell her politely that you heard your boyfriend was cheating on you with her, and you want to know if it's true. Tell her there are no hard feelings, you just want the truth.
2007-10-22 16:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would trust your friend. first the only reason she would have to try to brake you two up is if she liked him but you said she doesn't, and he has cheated on girls in the past. So I would trust your friend.
p.s. you could alway ask your friend to show you who she thinks your boy friend is going out with
2007-10-22 16:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by musicluver73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋