My bf has been fingering me for a few months, and the last 3 times, i got blood on his sheets and his hand. It also hurts now and I tell him to stop but he won't. I would tell my mom, but she'd kill me, and my stomach hurts when i leave to. He is really changing, more aggressive, like he does'nt ask, just sticks like 3 or 4 fingers REALLY far up and i tell him it hurts, but he dose'nt listen. Is this a rape? Do i break up with him? How do I get him to stop being so aggressive even if i already told him?
2007-10-22 09:09:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you just answered your own ? is he is being more aggressive then that is why its happening, and if he doesnt know what N O means then yes get rid of his *** he doesnt respect you
2007-10-22 09:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by switchmistress 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you bled more than once i suggest you visit a doctor.
Those things are not funny and maybe cause you some permanent damage.
But to reassure you, i believe that (if you were a virgin) the first bleeding came from the hymen and the next from the extreme stretching (4 fingers are many for young women).
ps One of the things you should check is the proper lubrication of the area. If the area is not properly lubricated then bleeding may occur. Also check his nails (he may cat you unintentionally but the risk of an infection is high).
2007-10-22 09:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by ponemenos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off lets address the rape issue,.....Yes it is rape if you tell him not to do it and he still does.....but you are a juvenile and I suppose he is too,..Now lets address the bleeding, you say he is using three to four fingers, this indicates that he is either being rough with you and tearing your tissues or that you may have a vaginal cyst of some kind that is being aggrivated by the fingering thing,......I'd consult your local doctor, your school nurse and then I might go as far as telling your mom about whats been going on, if you're old enough to be doing this, then you're old enough to be telling your mom about it,....I know this is tough to deal with but it aint gonna stop unless you stop it and if you dont stop it, it's just gonna get worse and worse and you might end up sick or with indometriosis as a response from your body insisting that you are too young to be sexually active......here's an idea,...if you have a chruch, go talk to the pastor's wofe about it!.....if not, then go to your local "MHMR", every town has one.
2007-10-22 09:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by theoregonartist 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop again and be sincere about it if he doesnt stop then leave him. Becasue that is rape if you tell him no. second you are probably bleeding because the vaginal area is not used to his rough fingers it is made for soft layered things such as a mans penis. It has a soft protective coat on it that doesn't tear the walls of your insides up so that is probably why you are bleeding and on top of that he is being so rough.
2007-10-22 09:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by maybeeoneday 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe the others. the 1st time is painful and definite, you do bleed. He could have ripped you which of them might clarify the quantity of blood. by way of fact it grew to become into your first time, it relatively is puzzling to be comfortable so which you in all probability tensed up. Which motives ripping while he thrusts. So i could get some lub from the save. reckoning on what form you like, it ranges from $5 - $25. tell him the subsequent time to be uncomplicated and softer with you. Take it slower. and then over the years, you would be purely nice :) so a ways as him being distant, he in all probability feels undesirable. He could have felt like he injury you. tell him it relatively is okay and reassure him which you're happy it occurred and tell him you desire to do it back
2016-10-07 10:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with this guy, he doesn't resepct you at all, you should never do anything you don't want to, and if you want to stop then if he really respected you he would stop right away. the reason there was blood was probably because he broke the hymen, which is what generally happens when he becomes rough and aggressive
2007-10-22 09:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you bleed i would think its the "cherry" but you have bled more than once so thats odd. [btw: my ex also did that i wonder if they realize that 3 and four fingers dont feel good?] any way if you told him to stop and he didnt i think its molesting. he didnt have sex with you which is rape. tell him that hes hurting you and if he doesnt stop your not going to let him do it anymore.
2007-10-22 09:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by Veronica K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother IMMEDIATELY (you may also need to see a doctor) and definitely stop seeing the creep who's force fingering you. Sexual assualt is a crime and if you say "NO" and he does anything anyway, then he's broken the law.
If yours is a real (true) post, take action now.
2007-10-22 09:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Break the fawk up with him he's a moron, friggin sticking his prickly fingers all over the place. He already caused you somekind of harm and you'll need to go see a doctor, break the fawk up with the moron.
2007-10-22 09:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain what the word NO means. If he still does it then yes it is rape. Kick him in the nuts as hard as you can,if he says to stop then do it again. See how much he likes it.
2007-10-22 09:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jim C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The blood is probably from your hymen breaking - that's normal. What ISN'T normal is your boyfriend's behaviour. This IS rape and you need to split up with him immediately; I'd also advise you to get your parents and the police involved - he's sick!
2007-10-22 09:13:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋