Okay, so long story short...my bf and I had a fight Friday night/Sat morn. We talked on Sat. afternoon and he said we were okay but, "shaky". He said, "Remember when I said I didn't want you to live your life around me? Well, that's what it's been feeling like lately." I explained that I was sory for being so clingy lately and that I'd work on it. He wanted me to live my own life too. His work schedule has really been screwed up lately and he hadn't slept in 22 hours or more, so I went home. He said that he'd call later.
So, I went home and started contimplating what he said and what I needed to do with myself. I invited friends over for the night and invited one of MY friends from back home. 'Cept, it's a guy...who knows I have a bf, and my bf knows about him but has never met him. I thought it would be okay...it wasn't. My bf flipped out mostly bc he was so tired and wanted to sleep. His phone is out of min. and I haven't heard from him since Sat night. Am I doomed?
2007-10-22 08:17:59 · 8 answers · asked by marigoldkelly95 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, I took my friend home and caught up with my bf at his house. He didn't want to talk to me but I made him give me 5 min. He said he was angry bc he hasn't slept and I've woke him twice today. He was mad about my friend too but said he didn't want to talk about it...he just wanted to sleep. I asked him if he was going to call me and he said yes, but didn't. His friends were calling me to find him all night last night - so he evidently didn't want to talk to anyone. Do you think that he just needs some space and time? Am I doomed? Do you think that he hasn't called bc his phone's out of min and he hasn't been home all day? Did I really f*** up? I just wanted to hang out and have a good time - intro my friend to my bf 'cause he's heard a lot about him. Please help!
2007-10-22 08:24:26 · update #1
P.S. How come he can invite his GIRL "friends" over and I supposed to be nice and okay with it? I should know that it's NOT a one way street when it comes to that stuff.
2007-10-22 08:27:10 · update #2
I don't think so. If he wants his space then let him be the one who calls you. I can see what he means when he says you need to live your life. He doesn't want you to depend on him for emotional support. Don't spend too much time wondering if he is mad. It's your life too. If you have a group of friends over and one of them happens to be a guy then your b/f will just have to deal with it or find someone else to control.
2007-10-22 08:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Joly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, How would you feel if the boot was on the other foot?
I know this guy is just a friend but your boyfriend seems stressed at the minute!!!
I think you need to let your boyfriend be for a little while, he probably didn't even mean what he said.
When his phone goes back on call him and tell him that there was no Need to flipout and that this guy is just a friend!
I don't think your doomed though!!
Plus i really don't think this boyfriend of your is upset about your friend i think its more to do with bein tired, just let him sleep!!!
2007-10-22 15:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sam T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, your bf wants you to not be so clingy, to give him some space, but when you do, he gets mad. He can't have his cake and eat it, too. Either he makes a commitment to you, or you are free to date others.
Men fear commitment, and truly need some space. Women need words of encouragement and tend to be too close at times. Women really do need to focus on more than the bf, but in this case, he unlocked the door for you to be in your own space. Now, is he to tell you how to fill the space, even though he doesn't want you to tell him how to fill his space?
Run like crazy if this doesn't get compromised and talked about. He is in controlling mood, and there is no worse type of man to be in any relationship with...be it a male parent, boss or bf. Women have the right to be, just as men do. He can have friends over, and you can have friends over.
This is such a classic sign of behavior to don't want to marry into. If you like this, move to Afghanistan or somewhere women have no rights. But if you stay in USA, don't go back to last century. Women have come to far to be equal. Don't sell out!
Go to hitched.com and see what the relationship experts are saying today. Good article on men/ women and space. Good luck.
2007-10-22 15:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to meet with him in person and have a talk. Explain that this guy is just a good friend and that's all. Have them meet if possible.
Stress the fact that you want to work things out. Relationships take a lot of work and compromise, and some people don't realize that and break up for silly reasons. He has to understand your side too, though.
good Luck!
2007-10-22 15:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by BeachBoarder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drama queen! First and foremost, your bf is frustrated and tired. Let him rest, he'll come back to you, just be patient. If he really loved you, wheather or not having minutes on his phone shouldn't matter. You're doomed if you smother him and not letting him rest.
2007-10-22 15:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Pharm tech 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nah, he's probably just upset about the situation, he just needs time to cool off trust, ive done the same thing before sometimes its just to fill the guys ego, not too much to worry about.
goodluck
2007-10-22 15:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jason J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep...sounds that way. Nice going dummy. Why not pour alittle more gasoline on the fire seeing as how you enjoy getting burned so much?
Honestly woman.....try thinking of consequences before doing something stupid. Fail to do so and one day it may be fatal.
2007-10-22 15:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
give him sleep. guys seem to need that for some reason.
2007-10-22 18:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by molly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋