Family & Relationships - 14 October 2007

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In marriage, if both partners are waiting to be loved/respected/served in order to be willing to give love/respect/service, how do these things ever get started?

In other words, if our love is contingent on the love of our spouse and they do not love us first, how will love be perpetuated?

2007-10-14 11:42:45 · 3 answers · asked by atomzer0 6 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I just moved in together the end of july. We have struggled to sleep in the same bed ever since. He's used to sleeping alone- I am not but do fine either alone or not. He likes the tv on with noise and the fan going - not to mention he snores. I have stuck to sleeping in the same bed regardless of these distractions and talked with him about ways to alleviate them.Originally the issue was that I was crowding his space in bed- rolling towards him. Well, it doesn't take a genius to figure out that he is a big guy -his mattress bowed and now we have switched mattresses. Now the complaint is that my mattress is too small and I hog the covers and the bed. He sleeps hugging a pillow- he doesn't hold me(not a big deal- it comes with time) although I hold him as much as I can. He doesn't seem to want to sleep with me. Often I find the bed empty in the morning and him in the spare bedroom. To add- he doesn't initiate sex anymore either.
I just don't know what to do....

2007-10-14 11:41:32 · 4 answers · asked by mattysgal 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I screwed up and wrote her a letter apologizing, promising to do better and even see a counselor. Now, i just hope she calls back.

2007-10-14 11:40:02 · 10 answers · asked by wheremindsmeet 1 in Singles & Dating

I FALL IN LOVE WITH THIS GUY, I REALLY CARE FOR HIM, BUT THE OTHER DAY I WAS WALKING BY THE STORE, HE PASSED BY, I LOOK AND IT WAS HIM WITH ANOTHER GIRL,SITTING NEXT TO HIM, IT BROKE MY HEART, BUT LIFE GOES ON, I KNOW IT IS GOING TOTAKE TIME, MAYBE THERE SOMETHING I CAN DO SO I DON'T THINK ABOUT HIM SO MUCH. I GIVE HIM MY HEART, AND HE JUST PLAYED WITH IT.

2007-10-14 11:39:12 · 1 answers · asked by kambriabella 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

my bf has been going through a stressful 2 yr divorce. i've been with him for 4 months. it's over this week so i had planned a get a way to the beach this coming weekend. my intention was to celebrate and give him a nice relaxing weekend after all this stress. i didn't book anything but when i mentioned it to him he said "thats the weekend after my court date...i'll prolly be hating women by then" well i asked him a month ago and things have been rocky lately. i haven't talked to him for a week now. should i book it and go by myself or with a friend...so when he calls next weekend i'm at the beach...the trip he could've came on but was too stubborn. sorry i sound bitter...i'm hurting by his actions right now but starting to get a little pissed off with the lack of contact. I don't even know if he plans on pursuing our relationship or not, if i was used, or if he's just being a typical guy wallowing in self pity. he'll have to call sometime if he wants his house key back i guess?

2007-10-14 11:38:16 · 9 answers · asked by Jax 3 in Marriage & Divorce

ok well my dad is being really nice to me he hasnt before when i was little he didnt respect me and called me names like fatty
ya i lost weight but he still acted mean

well anyways he changed his way when he found out my sis was pregnate and she was only 17
so i am not sure he is buying me things and respecting em more
so that i wont make the same mistake as her or what do u think
also i am the only one in my family
( just the brother and stister)
that is trying really hard in highschool
do u think that is y he is acting really nice to me
or it could be something else what do u think

2007-10-14 11:34:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I've noticed (I'm positive I'm not the first to, either) that women have a tendency to naturally gravitate to the men that treat them like crap, and even while they know that they can do better, they don't. They go out specifically looking for the guys that will treat them horribly. The funny part is that they turn around, when asked how they want to be treated, and exclaim "Like a princess, of course!". Even more comical is when the guys who do treat them right come along, the guys who treat them with respect, maturity, and the like, they walk all over the poor guy. Why is this?

2007-10-14 11:32:40 · 20 answers · asked by Mr. Booker 2 in Singles & Dating

Like is it just hugging someone or staying close to someone or what...

2007-10-14 11:32:33 · 15 answers · asked by problem_girl 3 in Singles & Dating

is it ever ok to hit a boy in the balls? if so when? and when have you done it and why?

2007-10-14 11:31:11 · 17 answers · asked by Mary 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my ex broke up 3-4 weeks ago and while it was difficult at first we decided to try and stay friends. He has been making almost all of the contact and phones me etc quite a lot. Hes made a couple of comments that have made me think he wants to get back together but when I asked if he felt that way he said definitely not, he just wants to be friends etc. Hes always asking am I ok etc, almost if he wants me to say no, I'm not (which I don't).

I know he likes to keep in contact with his exes, and i also think that he is missing me a lot - as in actually having a gf. So my question is do you think he is maybe confused about what he want or is he just being friendly?

I'm not sure if I would want us to get back together anyway unless things changed quite a lot, but I like to know where I stand so any advice would be good thanks!

Fx

Oh ps we were together almost 3 years and went through a LOT of things together like family deaths etc

2007-10-14 11:29:12 · 9 answers · asked by Fiona A 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-14 11:28:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-14 11:27:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i am curious to know what men think about marrying a virgin!

regardless about what anyone will think, i am sticking to my decision of not "doing it" unil i get married someday, even if it means till im 30!!

but men...im curious....just tell me with honesty....how would you feel about marrying a woman who was still a virgin??

2007-10-14 11:26:55 · 38 answers · asked by ILoveGreen ZipZapZop 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My ex and i were great friends. key word. were. we hung out and did a bunch of things together. however, i pushed to know what he thought of me and if he even did. well. he flipped and barely talks to me. i really want our friendship back more than anything. I keep having dreams about him everytime i try to hate him. why? why is it killing me to not talk to him and he seems to be fine with it? and he knows my grandfather is in the hospital and he still hasn't called to see how i was doing. Why? is there something wrong with me. Why cant we just be together, why can't i get over him if that is the case. and why isn't it killing him to not talk to me? i don't get it. help please?

2007-10-14 11:26:49 · 9 answers · asked by Fallen from Faith 2 in Singles & Dating

Okay my best is pregnant she's almost 20 and she's married and has a 1 year old with her husband by which those two haven't been getting along at all , she's threatened to divorce him all the time . But he won't let her cause he loves her tooo much ... There marriage hasn't been good at all ... One night she came home and found him having sex with another women in her bed .. This was a month after they were married that it happened. She made the mistake of cheating on him like a month ago . She hasn't had sex with her husband is 4 months .. She took a pregnancy test and it came back postive . What should she do ? She knows it's the other mans child . She told the other man that she's pregnant with his child and he goes it can't be mine i'm fixed and she's like well it is and he's denying it... help us ... Please ...

2007-10-14 11:25:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 14. I have really close guy friends. I like one of them, and heard like last month he kinda liked me, do you think if I hugged him, he would like it? Or get kinda freaked out. I dont want him to get the wrong idea like Im so in love with him or anything. Even though I kinda am =]

2007-10-14 11:24:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-14 11:23:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Growing up all 4 of my grandparents ignored me and my 3 siblings. I was always jealous of grandparents that act like parents. Mine were more concerned about money and never came to see us. What makes it worse is that my family was struggling financially with 4 kids and my moms parents are very wealthy. They never gave us money to help with school,clothes,class rings and pictures, etc. I always notice good grandparents who do things like taking kids to doc appointments,helping them with college, buying them their first car or just showing up for graduations. My grandparents were deadbeats.....How are yours?

2007-10-14 11:21:49 · 21 answers · asked by Pssssh Whatever 4 in Family

My birthday was last Friday, and my husband didn't even acknowledge it, and I know he didn't forget because I reminded him on Thursday. He said, "oh yeah, I forgot to get you anything” I waited all day Friday thinking he would get something while he was out or at work, he works 2nd shift, 3-9. I was a little surprised he didn't get me even a card, or say happy birthday. I wasn't expecting much, cause he's never really gave gifts and stuff because of his culture. We went to bed and after midnight, he said "your birthday came and went” I was a little upset that that was all he said, and it meant he didn't just forget. I said "yeah that's what they do". Like it was no big deal, and it really didn't bother much till today.

2007-10-14 11:21:00 · 32 answers · asked by DeAnna 5 in Marriage & Divorce

It has been a few wks since he officially broke up with me after 4 years b/c he was unhappy... should i send a book da vinci code he always wanted to read (ordered on amazon for dirt cheap), and a plain card that just says happy bday... i won't wrap the present up, just send it in plain manila envelope. of course, i'm not gonna lie, i would at least hope he will say thank you, but even if he doesn't, i would feel i have done my part. at the same time, i don't want him to think this is another ploy to get him back.

I took the break up badly and I did ask him back before but he said he wants to be single, feels stress-free, tell me to not have hope, find another man. i haven't called him in a couple of weeks and don't plan to.

If you had to put your money on the possibility of him calling back or even think about getting back, would it more likely to happen if i didn't send him gift or card on his bday OR if i do send him gift on his bday? Plz answer this.

2007-10-14 11:19:52 · 9 answers · asked by GirlinTrouble 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am planning to get married this coming March and have no idea where to go for honeymoon. I want a romantic time and somewhere oversees to have a good and forever lasting experience. Also, any 5 star hotels anyone knows about would be nice to know. ;)

2007-10-14 11:14:29 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Here is the scenario. Your husband/wife has to go to an event that is related to what ever their job is. You are not in the same profession. The event can be a conference, fair, hair show, an award dinner, open house, museum tour, etc. Basically ANY SOCIAL AND CASUAL EVENT THAT CARRIES the THEME of your PARTNER'S CAREER. For the sake of argument, let us say the event happens on a weekend and you do not work weekends. Do you tend to go or do your own thing? Why do you choose to do this? What do you think this says about your marriage?

I believe that the husband/wife should go with their marriage partner to their career event.

Please share a story. Describe freely. I got the time to listen.

I am writing a research paper on love. So any feedback related to this would be great!!!

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

2007-10-14 11:12:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Would you consider dating a guy for his money? Let's say for example, you kinda/sorta like a guy, would the fact that he has money push you more into going out with him?? And if so, would you expect him to keep buying you stuff??

2007-10-14 11:11:54 · 27 answers · asked by cooldude11000000 3 in Singles & Dating

Ive heard she could make alot more money doing adult XXX films

2007-10-14 11:10:39 · 1 answers · asked by KhrisB 3 in Singles & Dating

my daughter always throws a fit because i wont let her have a boyfriend.She is only twelve.Do you agree or am i being to harsh.?.?...

2007-10-14 11:07:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

she has a girlfriend she claims to be dating

2007-10-14 11:06:53 · 6 answers · asked by peglar 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm in my early 20's and got circumcised last year (under her insurance) for medical reasons (balanitis&phimosis). My dad, who I just started talking to again last May, asked if I had gotten circumcised yet. I told him yes and he said "good." He IS circumcised, too. He says he wanted to/would've done it when I was born but I was born with other health issues to deal with. Him and my mom don't talk (divorced), but he told me I should tell her about it now "so she knows."

Should I tell her about it? And I'm curious if she wanted me circumcised, too, at birth. Would it be weird to ask her that? And to also ask her why she didn't do it as I got older? Should I ask her all these Qs?

And girls, would you find it weird to know this info about your brothers, father, etc? DO you know this info about them?

Also I pretty much know 98% she does NOT know. Bc by law Kaiser said they cant say stuff to other ppl w/out my permission.

N I paid the copayment of $20 so no need to send bill 2 house.

2007-10-14 11:06:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I'm 17 and I have a 10 year old sister. We both have different fathers and now my mom has left them both. She kicked out my stepfather because he was an ***. My mom used to take a lot of crap from him and I had to do the same for years But no matter what he did, she would love him. He'd hit me and I even got send to my grandparents for 3 years becuase that's what he wanted. Now my sister is doing the pretty much the same thing that her father did and my mother defends her like she did with him. Now, if I get mad or say something I'M the bad guy. My mom suffers a lot but she still treats her like a queen but when I do something bad, I get hell. I need to know what can I do because I'm going crazy and I tend to be a bit of an angry person and I don't want to do or say anything that I might regret.

2007-10-14 11:03:49 · 6 answers · asked by Ketsuban 2 in Family

2007-10-14 11:02:16 · 4 answers · asked by TRANSLOPEDIA 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

Yesterday was my homecoming dance; I was searching for my group. Eventually a few minutes later, I gave up look for group. So I searched for my friends instead. Then my friend who is a girl asked me to come and show me that she kisses a girl and then she touched her breast. I don’t bother to watch it. So what should I do and should I ask her to stop and I didn’t know she a lesbian.

2007-10-14 11:01:47 · 4 answers · asked by Syaoran Li 4 in Friends