Family & Relationships - 14 October 2007

It all started 9 years ago, when my mom first married this man. He started out having very little money, no house, and the only thing he had was green card. He took advantage of my mom because she was a successful woman who ran a restaurant partnership.
When he moved in, he caused a lot of grief to my grandparents that lived with us so they moved out. Then awhile later, he brings his nephew to live with us. I ended leaving for college so he brought another person from China to live in the house. From what I understand my mom didn't get any sort of payment to take care of these boys, but my stepdad apparently accepted payment but kept and used the money for himself. He also forced my mom to quit her work to create a separate restaurant. By doing so, he had access to all the money and stole money. He also had 2 kids with my mom and he never takes care of them. I am currently commuting to my college so I can come home and take care of my brothers. They got a divorce last year.

2007-10-14 10:59:21 · 17 answers · asked by rurah 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Due to circumstances beyond our control, my fianance and I can't openly get married. We would like to elope but not tell anyone and in a few years have a ceremony where we are married. When we get married for the second time we do not want anyone to know we are already married except the preacher. So we would want to have a license to sign at the reception. Is this possible?

2007-10-14 10:58:09 · 17 answers · asked by Renee 1 in Weddings

2007-10-14 10:56:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

what would you do?

2007-10-14 10:56:36 · 9 answers · asked by snozzberries 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

my dauguters called the dcfs on me and thier father because they cant have thier way teenagers we let them go to socail partys ect take care of them they tried to sneak boys through out windows this scared us so bad they my husband talk talk talk to them till he had enough so he whipp them and they had the school to call on us all the things we do for these kids they act like they deserve it these kids are out of hands these days especially these teens 16 17 im bout to run away from home my dam self if i cannot control them and raise them the way we see fit i take err thang i can when they mess up im not gonna have lirs and boys crawlin through the window we dont let them even see boys they see them at school they just not ready yet education is there resort not boys or sex we want the best for our children the case was unfounded and they are gonna seek counsling but it hurt me i feel like leaving i cant take this

2007-10-14 10:53:18 · 10 answers · asked by mcgloson@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family

its my mom i dont like it when she kisses me and stuff and she embarresses me a lot and i dont know what to do. am i a bad daughter if i dont want these things to happen?

2007-10-14 10:51:32 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Why is my bf taking so long at the grocery store? He was only supposed to be going to get something for lunch..now lunch is about to be dinner and I'm not very happy....he's in for it when he gets back!!

2007-10-14 10:50:29 · 4 answers · asked by Aneres 3 in Singles & Dating

ok. here it goes. me and my sister hated each other since like i was 11 and she was 13. but we had a werid sibling relationship lik u fight and 1 hr later your friends. but now saince she hit me and got me in trouble and lied,,,,, so i broke her computer and were like enemy . really hate each other kind.but shes doing most of the hating and consantly following me around harassing me n doing what ever she can to bug me and make me feel uncomfortable. my mom has a whole lot of stress n all so i can't go to her and we've fought physically and it always ends in her favor.( shes fat) n i don't wanna do that . its got to the point where i have to run away from her when she is home. its pretty much affecting my life life and im tired of it. any suggestions?

2007-10-14 10:49:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

im wit my boyfriend 7years now and have a great relationship and sex life but wen were out he cant help himself he stares at other women i dont say anything him as its not tat big a thing but more annoying than anything i wish he could have a little respect for me and jst close his eyes to resist temtation

2007-10-14 10:46:14 · 25 answers · asked by sexy cat 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-14 10:45:05 · 4 answers · asked by alainagrnt 1 in Family

My fiance and I broke up, he got my dining room suite, washer dryer, my living room suite, (witch belonged to my late sister in law.) he got my computer, household items. I feel like I have been violated. I am embarased that I let him do this to me. He was always on MY computer and I found he was writing to other women.
How long will it take for me to get my self esteem back? I feel like such a loser.

2007-10-14 10:42:48 · 20 answers · asked by marisia 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Ladies can offer advice too if they'd like.

Okay, here's something about me. I like older guys. I'm 19. Now, the thing is, I do not partake in pre-marital sex and I will not. Now, guys, if you fell for a younger girl who would not do that, generally would you respect her stand?

I know a lot of older guys only like young girls for what they can get, meaning sex.

2007-10-14 10:34:00 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

should i really wait till i get married

2007-10-14 10:32:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

five years ago i met a beautiful woman through an overseas mail order bride service,we married on a beach in mexico my wife is a mexican latina,she lived in mexico her entire life untill she met and married me,now we own a beautiful home in florida.i have a great job and i make a lot of money and i have given my mexican wife the good life.i will admit though i am 25 years older than my mexican wife.two years into our marriage i realized that my latina wife was not satisfied with my sexual performance.i was sad about this,but i came up with a great idea,i have a son from another marriage who is the same age as my latina wife.i asked my wife if she would be willing to have sex with my son,at first she was reserved about the idea,but i told her that if she did not do this i would have her deported on numerous immigration violations.i also told my wife that i would stop sending money to her mother who still lives in mexico,i told my wife that her mother would starve to death if she did not

2007-10-14 10:29:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We are both truck drivers. He is from MI, US and Im from SC,US. He dosent want to leave his friends to be with me and I cant move up there because of my career and child. I love Him with all my heart and I know he Loves me, so what do you all think?

2007-10-14 10:28:31 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-14 10:24:12 · 8 answers · asked by Paige H 2 in Marriage & Divorce

when i gave birth to my first born she did not call to congratulate me. she doesn't seem to like me.

2007-10-14 10:23:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Please list as many reasons as possible.

2007-10-14 10:21:16 · 4 answers · asked by Michael F 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I went on a date on friday, and I do realy like him. (his my sisters bf's mate)

But the thing is I've neva had a bf b4 or like properly kissed any1 let alone slept wiv them. and he has 4 kids, been married, but hes the nice person and the only person ive reali like nd he feels the same way bk.hes 28 and im 20.

i realy dont want 2 tell him this, but im worried bout wot he will expect caus he wanted me 2 stay round his.im a shy person, and i wuldnt no wot 2 do. wot would he think if he new this?ur prob thinking wot a wierdo i am?...

2007-10-14 10:20:39 · 8 answers · asked by me 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok, back in high school i dated this one girl on and off. the first time she cheated on me and we broke up. the second time she just dumped me for no reason. its been a while since all that and we just started talking again. and the past two weeks have been tough because i figured out this other chick really likes me and we have actually been good friends for a while. but then i get drunk and have sex with the old ex and we are kind of together again lol. i never stopped liking the ex but i think she makes the worst choices and i cant really trust her. but this other girl has been my friend for a while and i trust her alot and she would do anything for me. i just dont know who i want to be with. i need someone elses opinion.

2007-10-14 10:18:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my family seems to disrespect me and my things. first and foremost i do not mind helping them or sharing with them however i do not appreciate that they disregard everything i say. then when i tell them they get ignorant calling me names and putting me down. for example, my vehicle. my mother needed to use my car a few times i had no problem with this but i told her if i lend it to her then she is the only one who drives it i also told her not to worry about the gas but just b careful w/ it. which brings me to my sister and my vehicle. i learned early on not to lend my car to my sister. she would go to the store w/ it (a normal 15 min trip) and would come back hours later w/ a half or 3/4 tank of gas missing and not an offer to replace or an explanation as to y it took 4 yrs to get a loaf of bread. she also has leant my car to her bf (he wrecked hers bc he went 'mudboggin') well i later found out my mom had given my sis my car (she gets it alot when i loan the car to my mom)

2007-10-14 10:17:52 · 5 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family

I am a 22 yr. old female with an A cup! With "all the world" hyped up on big breasts, I feel so low! Is the only answer breast augmentation? Because I can't seem to look passed it when I walk out of the house or turn on the T.V. You know what..even when I look in the mirror:(! My boyfriend trys to bring up my self-esteem but I only bring him down with me!

2007-10-14 10:13:35 · 28 answers · asked by free2be22 1 in Singles & Dating

My best friend's boyfriend is upset because she doesn't say she loves him after 7 months, but she says that she really likes him, but she doesn't think it's love. He says he loves her, but at the same time he's often reluctant to open up to her, although he's like that with everyone. Is it worth carrying on?

2007-10-14 10:09:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

well i turn 16 in 2 months..but i'm a virgin and i wish i wasn't. But i'm just really scared to have sex because everybody says that it hurts for the first time. and i am also scared because i dont want to get pregnant!! and i know that if you use a condom then like you shouldn't but... i hear that some people get pregnent even if they used 1. Almost all of my friend are non virgins and i don't want to be a virgin either. not just because of my friends, but like idk... so how should i get over my fear of losing my virgininy? Also: does it hurt more to have sexif you're more of a smaller girl? (cuz i'm thin and 5'2)

2007-10-14 10:08:08 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well i am 13 and my mom still treats me like a baby and i dont like it. like she does stuff like "Hey babydoll" and i dont like it when she does that. i dont like it when she kisses me on the lips. its weird i mean it was ok when i was younger but i just dont like it. She is way over protective and stuff. and i hurt her feelings once by telling her i dont want u to call me that so i am not doing that again. i want her to b WAY less clingy and let my sleep over at my friends houses. like one time i went to a slumber party and about a month later i got invited to another one. and i asked her if i culd go and she said "But honey you just went to one lats week, so no." and it was so unfare! and she is not a cool mom and i want her to b a cool mom like my friends moms. they are awesome. my mom wears her pants past her bellybotton and tucks in her shirts and puts tissues in her pants!! she is weird how can i get her to stop! And i am not telling her so! HELPPPPP!

2007-10-14 10:06:54 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I just started going out with this guy. We come from totally different places, he lives in a dangerous part of town, I live out in the middle of nowhere where nothing bad ever happens. As soon as my mom heard where he lives she told me that I'm too good for him and when I went to his best friend's house to hang out she immediately decided that his family has no self respect and are white trash. She basically told me that she doesn't want me to be with him anymore but I don't think that the things she's upset about are what really matter. He's a really good guy and we really like each other. I want to give the relationship a chance but I don't know how to do that when my mom totally rejects the whole situation. What should I do?

2007-10-14 10:05:26 · 13 answers · asked by grllbuggy99 2 in Singles & Dating

Say the father says he will do something with the child & then does not do it. You can see the sadness & disappointment in the poor child's face, but what can you do?

2007-10-14 10:05:17 · 7 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 in Family

he likes me

2007-10-14 10:03:11 · 4 answers · asked by divatnt 1 in Singles & Dating

I heard from my yonger son (58) yesterday. I was overjoyed. My Children have all left the State because of needing jobs. This son's factory closed down after he had worked there for 29 years!

If it has veen a while sence you called your elderly parent why not just pick up the phone and make their day a little brighter!

2007-10-14 09:57:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my bff & i went to each others' homecomings because neither of us had a date. when we went out to dinner before HC, 2 girls & a guy came with us. supposedly, the guy had a "thing" with one of the girls but they werent going out. as the night went on, the guy started flirting with me & i flirted back, but i didnt want to ruin anything between the guy & girl. so i talked to the girl about it, & she said the "thing" they had had been over for a few weeks & she wasnt mad at me for dancing with him. apparently, that was a lie, according to my bff. i also asked the guy what he felt & encouraged him to do whatever he had to do so she wouldnt be mad at him. he said he didnt care if she was mad at him & that their "thing" was over. while we were dancing to a slow song, he kissed me & i kissed him back. this happened several times.


i thought i had covered everything & made sure no one's feelings were going to be hurt, but now my best friend & the girl are mad at me.

please help!!

2007-10-14 09:56:05 · 2 answers · asked by Jamie R 2 in Singles & Dating