Due to circumstances beyond our control, my fianance and I can't openly get married. We would like to elope but not tell anyone and in a few years have a ceremony where we are married. When we get married for the second time we do not want anyone to know we are already married except the preacher. So we would want to have a license to sign at the reception. Is this possible?
2007-10-14 10:58:09 · 17 answers · asked by Renee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My husband and I got married almost a year before our actual wedding with only a few special people knowing. But we didn't have a "fake" license or anything to sign at the reception. Nobody questioned it either, most of the time, the signing is done behind closed doors and the only other people that would have to know are your two witness. But they would already know because you have to have two witnesses for the real ceremony. Don't stress out over it and make it a bigger deal than it has to be. Good luck
2007-10-14 11:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by Aunie Stina 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We went through the same kind of thing where we thought people would need to see the license. But we had a big wedding and the preacher knew that we did not actually have one so he made up a real pretty certificate for us to sign. My husband divorce was to be final in may and ended up going till March of this year. Are license says March 31, 2007 but the Certificate that everyone watching us sign was done in August 12, 2007.
2007-10-14 13:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by Pugmama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. No you can't do that. One marriage license only and it will already be filed.
This question is asked LOTS on here. Basically, you want a secret wedding then a big wedding. Sorry, again, but you can't do it. And, unless the preacher is an extremely GOOD friend, he/she will not be pleased that they are being pulled into this fake wedding.
What you CAN do, however, would be to have a renewal of vows ceremony. It can be SIMILAR to a wedding in many ways, but without "bridesmaids" and "groomsmen" as you will no longer be a bride/groom....you are Mrs. and Mrs.
Again, this question gets asked lots. I urge people to look and read the link at the bottom of this message. All of the questions are answered by bridal experts. You can even post this question on there if you want. Here is the link and good luck:
http://www.topweddingquestions.com/forum/Second_Weddings_C9/Renew_Wedding_Vows_F12
2007-10-14 11:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you cant. Signing a second license with a false date on it would be equal to fraud and a federal offense which will get you, your husband, the preacher...and possibly anybody else who signed it jail time.
If you wanted to do this you would have to do the secret marriage then do your renewal and skip the public signing. Honestly though, it's pretty messed up to make your family think that they are attending THE WEDDING and making them go through all extra steps that aren't included in a vow renewal (which is what yours would be). Whatever the circumstances if you are grown enough to have a marriage you should be grown enough to tell people about it.
2007-10-14 12:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No because of the fact that's no longer a legal ceremony that calls for a state authorized officiant or 'premission' from the state, neither is it registered with the county as having occured afterwards. do you go with a license for a marriage anniversary occasion? An engagement? comparable distinction.
2016-12-14 17:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already married you need to get DIVORCED first then get a marriage license.
Noone needs to know that you were already married, so just talk to the preacher, mention you are already married BUT would like a vow renewal ceremony (which is what yours is) and please keep it a secret that you are already married.
And you mean "husband" not fiance, since you are already married. Unless you aren't married to him?
Why can you not get openly married? That may be very important to anyone's answer.
2007-10-15 11:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm. I actually did this many years ago. I was only 18 and my boyfriend and I got tangled up in this "church" we'll call it a church but it was actually a cult.
They convinced us we had to marry....or we were going to hell. They helped us marry without telling our families. And we did so. Secretly. But I felt so bad and wanted to make it official before anyone else found out. We cut ties with the cult.....very hard but that is another story.
We then found a celebrant willing to help us. In a sense we really only renewed our vows, because we were already married. You cant actually Marry twice. But he did a formal marriage ceremony and I wore the white dress and nobody was the wiser. So I guess the key here is to find a celebrant or minister that is sympathetic to your situation. A religious man might be a little hesitant to do it because in a sense you are lying to your family. We did get another certificate, but it was a vow renewal certificate. Our celebrant even dodgied up a formal wedding certificate so our witnesses were none the wiser.....but we had to give it back to him after the ceremony so he could destroy it. We got to keep the vow renewal one....
But it can be done. My family did not know and none of my friends were any the wiser. It did eventually come out, but that was after the fact, and after our divorce.
Hope that helps
2007-10-14 11:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I don't think it's a good idea to start a marrige with a lie. Why not be honest and just wait for the couple of years? Otherwise, make a copy of the oprinal before you sign it. The second copy would not be legal and I doubt any self-respecting preacher would sign it as he would be lying too.
2007-10-14 11:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cannot reapply. You will already have a marriage certificate. But if you want when you go to get it now get an extra copy (or photo copy it) for the priest to sign at the later date. It has to be mailed in to be official so just after your 2nd wedding throw it out. Good luck!
2007-10-15 14:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's going to be a really hard thing to do. I think you should just own up to the fact you want to elope.. then have a 'wedding' when your ready to. it's actually illegal I believe to apply for two marriage licenses. Good luck.
2007-10-14 11:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by navywife_2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋