its my mom i dont like it when she kisses me and stuff and she embarresses me a lot and i dont know what to do. am i a bad daughter if i dont want these things to happen?
2007-10-14 10:51:32 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She will be upset if you tell her this but it's just because this is a normal part of growing up and she will be upset you are growing up so fast. It's normal and most people go through this.
2007-10-14 10:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not a bad daughter, but your mom just want to show you that she loves you and that is good! Maybe tell her not to do it in front of everybody if you don't like it...i gave my mom a kiss before bed until i was like 15!!! But still i think you are really lucky, your mom shows you that she loves you, do you know how many people that don't have that chance??? They get beat up instead or yelled at??? I understand how you feel, but just go smooth, don't tell her, gosh just leave me alone, i'm not your little girl anymore cause you will hurt her feelings!
2007-10-14 11:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not a bad daughter. your getting older and your mom just wants to spend as much time as she can with you in my opinion because she knows you are going to be going out more and eventually you will move out. Just show her that you love her but you just have your own life and you aren't 9 any more. Just spend time with her every now and then. Oh and i also know a few people that have moms that pretty much let them do what they want and they are just going down a bad path. So the little restrictions she gives you is nothing.
2007-10-14 10:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Lace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, you are not a bad daughter. We almost all go through this as daughters and then in later life, if we are lucky, from the other side--as mothers.
You are simply growing up and there are a couple of ways you can handle this:
1. you can show mom just how much you have grown up by talking to her about it BEFORE it happens again, in front of your friends and the whole world. Stay calm when you talk to her about it and simply explain that as much as you love her you would really rather she not kiss you in front of your friends. You are not asking alot, but from mom's point of view it is more than you can possibly know right now. Stay calm and don't be too disappointed if it happens again. If it does find some way to jokingly remind mom of your agreement, assuming she has agreed.
or,
2. You can yell and scream and pout and upset yourself and your mom and accomplish nothing.
I also want to remind you that many of your friends have gone through the same thing. The sad cases are not those young people whose inconsiderate parents want to kiss them good-bye when they are dropping them off, it is the child/young person who has no one to kiss them or to drop them off.
So see, there is a good side to all of this--you have someone who loves you and probably even respects you enough to honor your request to stop.
In short, try not to let it bother you too much. My two boys went through it and many other young people do as well. When my boys asked me to stop I did, as much as it broke my heart because I saw it as one of the first steps to them "breaking away" as they and you must in order to grow up. Try to see it from mom's point of view and handle yourself as a mature young person when you raise the issue and I am sure you and your mother can find a resolution--together. Your calm, mature approach will go a long way in showing mom that it's okay to let go, at least a little bit.
Thanks for asking us to share for a brief moment in your experience. Hope this helps. And, good luck.
2007-10-14 11:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by dmontesmom2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not.
Some people just don't like
public demonstrations of affection.
It's just something that makes
you feel uncomfortable.
Sit down with Mom & talk to her about this,
she's your Mom and may
know the source of these feelings.
2007-10-14 10:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by ♫ Bubastes, Cat Goddess♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who said?U r a good gal. That's why yr mom kissesu.She loves u. The way of loving may be embrassing to u but she loves u. U can tell her ,by what action of her u feel embrassed.This will not make u a bad gal.
2007-10-14 11:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad daughter. Let your mom know you love her in other ways, and try to explain to her that you love her, but don't want physical affection.
2007-10-14 11:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by marty47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you sit down and talk to your mother about how you feel? No, you're not a bad daughter. Your mother sounds like a loving person. She probably doesn't realize that it makes you uncomfortable.
2007-10-14 10:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by Charles WE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you're a teen or getting to that age, it's fine. I hate it when mom tries to kiss me at morning- my crankiest hour of the day. I think I used to like it when I was a small child. So it's natural for teens coz of hormones (lol).
2007-10-14 10:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by shadow_wolf1211 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're a teenager, it's somewhat normal. You're in the stage of childhood development when you want to assert your independence. Once you're an adult, you'll want her affection again. She probably understands all of this, and so hopefully it won't hurt her feelings in the meantime.
2007-10-14 11:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋