Ok, back in high school i dated this one girl on and off. the first time she cheated on me and we broke up. the second time she just dumped me for no reason. its been a while since all that and we just started talking again. and the past two weeks have been tough because i figured out this other chick really likes me and we have actually been good friends for a while. but then i get drunk and have sex with the old ex and we are kind of together again lol. i never stopped liking the ex but i think she makes the worst choices and i cant really trust her. but this other girl has been my friend for a while and i trust her alot and she would do anything for me. i just dont know who i want to be with. i need someone elses opinion.
2007-10-14 10:18:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
history is comfortable so is hard to walk away from - go with your gut - dont worry about whos feeling will be hurt - who do you think is best for you - and if you cant get past hurting someone than whos smile makes your world okay - whos happiness is more important than your own - shes it
2007-10-14 10:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by scoob48413 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. Go with the one that is honest and cares for you. Stop letting the drunk moments take over your hormones and do what you know you really do not want to do. I went with the one that I could not trust and cheated all the time and not the one who was honest and who I trusted and I paid a big huge price cause of it. I have had nearly 5 years of heartache and anger and now we have a baby so you can imagine what I have been through. You will not have all the heart ache, worries and problems. You will have a normal relationship and happy life with that person. Do you really want to have to be upset and let down and hurt every time she decides to cheat or dump you? Of course not. No one deserves to go through that. Good luck.
2007-10-14 17:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by Dana B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long ago you went out with the ex. She may have changed. Fact is, if you're asking about it on here, you obviously still don't trust her so I wouldn't go any further with it. You'll only get hurt again. Give yourself a break and just see how your friendship with both girls go. You don't have to have sex with either of them. Then in a few months, your feelings will be clearer.
Good luck.
2007-10-14 17:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Susie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, men.
Honey, this is a NO BRAINER!!!!
Go with the girl you like and trust, and leave the messed up chick behind! Just because you can get into her pants while she's drunk doesn't mean you have a shot at a 'relationship' with her. You already have a relationship with the other one. So stop thinking with your dick.
2007-10-14 17:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok you need to sit down and ask yourself which one of them you would trust the most, which one is most likely to let you down, and finally which one you would miss the most.
at the end of the day it has to be your decision as you are the one that has to live with it. All the advice in the world wont help you have to go with your gut feeling..... and you have to be honest with yourself too....
Someone can be your best friend but not your lover but then again you have to have a lover who can also be your best and trusted friend......
2007-10-14 17:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by junebud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i have had that problem before also.......you just need to go with your heart.....i have gone with this story for a long time "once a cheater always a cheater!" you will never trust that other girl ever again and thats not someone you want to marry. you want someone you can trust and love with all your heart and they have to be you friend before they can be your lover so i say go with the friend!... she sounds sweet and i thing your love should be your best friend too you have to be able to trust them and be able to tell them everything!....good luck! i hope you go with my advise!!!
2007-10-14 17:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy Cowgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could write so much about this but i wont. Honestly Its your decision. And only you can make the right choice. I think you should make a list of both girls and your likes and dislikes towords them. Good luck. I hope you make the right decision.
2007-10-14 17:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the new girl. If you can't trust someone in a relationship what CAN you do?
2007-10-14 17:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by Haley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U need 2 stick wit d new gal, giv her a chance!
2007-10-14 17:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by freaky_quotic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't all
Trust is vitally important if you are looking for a lasting experience......and if you are not .....then see both of them.
2007-10-14 17:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by aaah h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋