I went on a date on friday, and I do realy like him. (his my sisters bf's mate)
But the thing is I've neva had a bf b4 or like properly kissed any1 let alone slept wiv them. and he has 4 kids, been married, but hes the nice person and the only person ive reali like nd he feels the same way bk.hes 28 and im 20.
i realy dont want 2 tell him this, but im worried bout wot he will expect caus he wanted me 2 stay round his.im a shy person, and i wuldnt no wot 2 do. wot would he think if he new this?ur prob thinking wot a wierdo i am?...
2007-10-14 10:20:39 · 8 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no its not the 1st time I met him, i met him the day before.
2007-10-14 10:41:36 · update #1
no he didnt want me 2 sleep with him.
2007-10-14 10:42:43 · update #2
if ive told him ive never had a bf or slept wiv any1, he wuld prob tell his mates and I dont want my sister knowing, or if I did tell he , culd i trust him not 2 tell any1?
2007-10-14 10:44:19 · update #3
I don't think you're weird at all. But I do think that you are right to be careful. Here are a few things to think about, and you can trust your own instincts and answer your own question.
This man has a past, and while he is nice and very attractive, it's new to you and you are right not to want to be rushed. In this case, you say you were on 'a date' - does this mean you only just met him? and he wanted you to stay around 'at his' - did he want you to sleep with him?
Don't you think that's a bit forward of him, if it's your first date with him?
I think the best thing to do is be straight up with him. You would rather take things slow, right? And not feel pressurised into doing something you're not comfortable with?
Never be afraid to tell a man you like what you want. If that man cannot respect your wishes and feelings, you don't need him.
As for not knowing what to do with a man in that way, well honey, there are some very good books out there that explain sex all of that side of things. Again, you do not have to do anything you're not comfortable with.
2007-10-14 10:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, everyone has to have a first boyfriend... he won't think you're weird for being shy or not wanting to stay over at his house... if he's any kind of a man he will probably find it reassuring that you're not running straight off towards the bedroom!
If this is your first date definately don't stay over at his house... make sure you are completely comfortable with him before you even think about it... he will respect you more for having the courage to say not yet
I have only ever had 2 proper boyfriends... the first one was when I was at college (when I was 17). I kissed him but never slept with him.
My boyfriend who I am with now, I met when I was 19 and he is the first and last person I ever slept with... it's worth waiting to make sure you have the right one!
2007-10-14 10:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's as nice a person as you think he is then you should tell him the truth and he will understand. You're certainly not a weirdo and you should not think so in any way. If this is the first serious boyfriend for you then he needs to know so that he can understand any worries you may be having and treat you as carefully as you need.
If he is as nice a person as you think he is he will understand and make you feel good about it.
If he doesnt understand and doesnt treat you well or makes you feel like a weirdo then walk away with your head high. Because he will be the weirdo and the loser - not you
2007-10-14 10:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by junebud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One date is hardly enough to know whether you want him to be your husband or even your first boyfriend. You decide how fast or slowly you want the relationship to grow. You never have to do anything that you don't want. If he is worth it, he will understand. If he complains, argues or attempts to force his will on you, well do you really want a man like that?
There is nothing weird about your situation. At the same time, it is not something you have to tell a man on the first or even the fifth date. It all depends on how you feel about him and how much you want him to know. It's the balance between telling him too soon and waiting too long. If you are honest with yourself and him, there will be no problems.
Best wishes
2007-10-14 10:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've never had a boyfriend.Then why are you even thinking
about spending the night with this guy let alone what he thinks?
Do you want your sister her boyfriend and all and sundry to know
your not a virgin(if you had no boyfriend-then you are)If your that
desperate go ahead.I don't think your weird.But i do think you
should accept knowing what's good for you.Rather than
over trying to become one of the so called crowd.Older crowd at that.
2007-10-14 10:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by angler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stay at his house, it will lead to sex eventually, i dont think you are ready, he is an older more experienced man with baggage and kids, a younger woman is a bit of arm candy for him to show off to his mates and probably his ex wife too if he gets the chance. see him as a friend and take things easy, you are vulnrerable and if he cares he will wait, or better still get someone youn ger without all the baggage.
2007-10-14 10:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by heavymetalbitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO actually I was wonder if you ever took spelling in school . You can not spell at all . And why the hell would you want a man who already has 4 kids . Sounds like he is hiring a baby setter.
2007-10-14 10:25:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he cared about you he would respect that you told him. Hope this helped! Good Luck.
2007-10-14 10:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by *+abercrombielove+* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋