my family seems to disrespect me and my things. first and foremost i do not mind helping them or sharing with them however i do not appreciate that they disregard everything i say. then when i tell them they get ignorant calling me names and putting me down. for example, my vehicle. my mother needed to use my car a few times i had no problem with this but i told her if i lend it to her then she is the only one who drives it i also told her not to worry about the gas but just b careful w/ it. which brings me to my sister and my vehicle. i learned early on not to lend my car to my sister. she would go to the store w/ it (a normal 15 min trip) and would come back hours later w/ a half or 3/4 tank of gas missing and not an offer to replace or an explanation as to y it took 4 yrs to get a loaf of bread. she also has leant my car to her bf (he wrecked hers bc he went 'mudboggin') well i later found out my mom had given my sis my car (she gets it alot when i loan the car to my mom)
2007-10-14 10:17:52 · 5 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it has even been w/ my computer (i currently live at home i am getting married in the spring and we will move to another area atm tho this is just how it worked) but, i am cautious w/ my things i work and go to school and money is very limited for me so i take care of what i have and when i let someone use somehting of mine i expect them to take care of it alosbut it has come to the point where my little brother and his friends (about 16 and 17) r always on MY computer looking at porn. i password protected it and was scolded by my mother and somehow my brother hacked into my password and made his own account taking the authority to do anything on the computer from me and giving it to himself (the administrator option)....my lil sis wears my clothes and lends them to her friends when she uses my clothes she doesnt put them back or wash them they end up on the floor and she always seems to stain or rip my things. emy older sis' kids destroy everything of mine they r cry to b in my room s
2007-10-14 10:22:16 · update #1
so my sis will unlock my door and let them in to play w/ whatever they want. they have even destroyed my boutique that was made for me!! i cant deal w/ much more of this how can i make it thru the next few months till im out of here?! and moreso, how can i have them c that what they r doing is wrong and ddisrespectful?! (no one is allowed near their things)
2007-10-14 10:23:38 · update #2
i have bought everything on my own i only moved back in bc my mother needed help she had gotten sick and needed someone to help w/ my 2 younger siblings. I HAVE A JOB. and i do contribute to the family.
2007-10-14 10:30:24 · update #3
dont lend your things out and if you do say you rent the car for 5.00 a hour or something like that they must provide inc and if any damages occure to the car you will hold them accountable for it and they must replenish the gass and write up a new agreement every time eighter one they will not ask no more or you will get somemoney and not feel as used
2007-10-14 10:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, James Watkin above me is a jerk for telling you that you are selfish for not wanting these disrespectful people to destroy your things. He is probably some kind of freeloader living off his family. Anyway, don't lend anyone your car or anything else. When you leave, take a vital part of your computer with you, so it is impossible to use (learn how to remove the cover and take out the hard drive. Or even take the mouse and keyboard). Go to the hardware store, buy a lock, and install it on your closet door. And if your family says boo to you about any of this, go to your room and close the door.
I would normally advise you to leave the house, but you say you already have that in the works for when you get married. Just try to last that long, then you are free and you never have to deal with them again. You can just put in the occasional phone call and be done. I am sorry, but your family sounds like the worst kind of users. They truly do have no respect for you, and it doesn't sound like they can be taught to appreciate you or even act like human beings. Just get away when you can.
2007-10-14 17:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by julz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to get tough! Get a spine! Quite being nice!
This is about boundaries.
Nobody gets to borrow your car, since that is your only means of getting around. Take back your car keys from your mother, particularly if her name is not on the title or loan. They have and will pass it around until it is wrecked! If they are not on your insurance for that car, they don't touch it. You don't give rides, either!
Go to the hardware store and get a deadbolt lock on your bedroom door, and one on your closet door to turn that into a safe. You will probably need to chisel or drill extra depth into the door frame to allow for a minimum 1" bolt.
NOBODY gets either key until you have moved out.
You use your computer, then before you leave, you unplug it and lock it into your closet.
2007-10-14 17:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, move out and pay all of your won bills and you won't have to worry about it. Otherwise, learn to share. Part of being in a family is sharing.
Unless you bought your car, clothes, computer, pay your own insurance, and pay rent, you are just being a spoiled, selfish person by not wanting to share.
2007-10-14 17:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Refuse to hand your car keys to anyone. Hide them or lock them up.
2007-10-14 17:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋