I just started going out with this guy. We come from totally different places, he lives in a dangerous part of town, I live out in the middle of nowhere where nothing bad ever happens. As soon as my mom heard where he lives she told me that I'm too good for him and when I went to his best friend's house to hang out she immediately decided that his family has no self respect and are white trash. She basically told me that she doesn't want me to be with him anymore but I don't think that the things she's upset about are what really matter. He's a really good guy and we really like each other. I want to give the relationship a chance but I don't know how to do that when my mom totally rejects the whole situation. What should I do?
2007-10-14 10:05:26 · 13 answers · asked by grllbuggy99 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 16 years old
2007-10-14 12:07:26 · update #1
She told me that she didn't think I should be involved with those kind of people. That was a few days ago and she hasn't mentioned it since. I'm still with the guy and I've seen him without her knowing. I'm not sure if she thinks that I broke up with him and I don't plan to just for her sake. I don't know what or when to tell her if she doesn't bring it up again.
2007-10-16 11:04:10 · update #2
You can definitely try the relationship, but your mom is only trying to protect you. I am not going to approve of your mom's comments because:
1 - She could be wrong
2 - I do not know your boyfriend (or his family)
3 - I don't know you
4 - I dont know the neighborhood you live in, or the neighborhood he lives in.
Now, it doesnt matter if he lives in the ghetto, and you live in the rich side of town. People are people, and they are people for what they are, not where they live, not what they wear.
If you really want to try it, sure you can go ahead; but just use reason and logic.
2007-10-14 10:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by Yanny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you first? If you're under 18 and live with your mom, there's not a whole lot you can do really. If you're older than that, then screw what your mom says. You're an adult and you can do what you want. It may make her angry for a while, but she'll get over it once she gets to know that he's a good guy.
2007-10-14 10:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kate H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds a lot like my mom! and i hate when she does stuff like that... but honestly in the end she always ends up being right. sad but true. are u sure its about the place he lives? bc sometimes moms say that as an excuse when they don't want to really say why. so ask her what the deal is!! my mom has kept me out of a lot of trouble, but at the same time...ur mom can't make the choice for you. so if she has a better reason then follow up on it...but if not, then just keep it in mind but don't break up with him. can't judge a book by its cover.
2007-10-14 10:16:33 · answer #3 · answered by Amber K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult situation...what i would suggest is...talk to your mom...and tell her how you feel. but whatever you do..don't get defensive!! Then the easiest way to handle it from there is to prove to your mom (if the relationship does work out) that he is not as bad as her first impressions of him were. And remember, if you feel it's not working, don't stay just because you want to prove her she was wrong! Keep an open mind.
2007-10-14 10:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without seeing your boyfreind there is no way to answer this BUT MOM knows best. She is trying to protect you from makinga mistake . She maybe wrong I can not tell . I had 4 daughters and their B/F's had to meet me and talk to me and if I didn't like their language or behavior or the way they dressed I told them to get lost . Got 4 daughter married to 4 hard working men now .
2007-10-14 10:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no choice, you must listen to your Mom, your Mom sounds very judgmental, and I am sorry for that, but she is still your Mom, and until you are an adult, you must abide by her rules, and respecting your Mom is one way to show that you are going to be a responsible adult, even if your boyfriend is the greatst thing in the world, if your Mom says no, then it is no
2007-10-14 10:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Judy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at your moms own choices in life and decide if her opinion is worth taking - but ultimately - its your life - lessons are only learned when experienced so even if it turns out bad you'll learn somethihng and youll be able to tell mom she was right - shell love that
2007-10-14 10:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by scoob48413 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she's incorrect, if she is. Giver her some evidence, she in simple terms does not choose human beings no longer good enuf for her son courting him and employing him (be which you or somebody else). do no longer assume him to shield you, combat your person battles. If he rather loves you he will stay out of it, and you will no longer difficulty him to tell you what human beings think of of you.
2016-10-22 10:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
has your mom met him yet?? if not let her meet him and see what a great guy he is. maybe even have you, bf, his/your parents go out to dinner so they can meet. your mom seems very closed minded, what does you dad say?
2007-10-14 10:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by lil vamp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's very unfair to the guy.
If you reject him cuz of economic status...its like u rejecting him cuz of skin color or religion.
The religion thing happened to me. It makes you feel like a piece of ****. Don't do that to him.
2007-10-14 10:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋