My ex and i were great friends. key word. were. we hung out and did a bunch of things together. however, i pushed to know what he thought of me and if he even did. well. he flipped and barely talks to me. i really want our friendship back more than anything. I keep having dreams about him everytime i try to hate him. why? why is it killing me to not talk to him and he seems to be fine with it? and he knows my grandfather is in the hospital and he still hasn't called to see how i was doing. Why? is there something wrong with me. Why cant we just be together, why can't i get over him if that is the case. and why isn't it killing him to not talk to me? i don't get it. help please?
2007-10-14 11:26:49 · 9 answers · asked by Fallen from Faith 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would let him go, he's not worth your time at all....leave it be....
2007-10-14 11:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, whatever decision your ex has made is because of him and not because of you. There's nothing wrong with you.
It's hard to get over a guy when our thoughts and feelings seem to dwell on only them.
Why someone does something comes down to only this...because they choose it. You have not caused someone's actions. You can't be together because he is choosing something different. Your job is only to accept it. Why isn't for you to know. This is simply an act of his will.
He has chosen to end things with you and not talk to you. If you get caught up on why, you will be bringing undue heartache upon yourself. It sounds like you've been in enough pain about this already.
I'm not suggesting that it will be easy to move on. Love hurts. But not letting go when you need to, hurts much worse and for much longer. When you realize that it's his loss and all the wonderful gifts you have to offer someone, things will begin to get a bit easier. A little easier each day....but not better overnight.
Focus on you and the good you can be in the world. Your worth isn't wrapped up in any guy. The longer you hang onto wanting the wrong guy, the longer it will be before you'll be available for Mr Right.
Good luck!
2007-10-14 18:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by mamaloo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It most likely made him feel really uncomfortable when he was asked how he did feel about you. He might have some regrets from the relationship on how he behaved and is still bitter. It is not your fault that he is not calling or talking to you. That is his decision. Have you tried calling him? Leaving a civil voice mail? maybe he assumes that you are angry with him and are sick of how he acted. or maybe he knows how upset you are and is being a jerk by taking advantage of his new-found power. You have to be there for your grandfather and family while he is sick. that is what you need to focus on. this boy will eventually figure what he wants. i do not think dwelling on the issue will help and ik its hard not to think about. but just remember you have friends and family and yourself.
You do not own anybody anything.
2007-10-14 18:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Curious Georgette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself for this as reading between the lines i think he was looking for a way out. If that is the case and he wouldn't admit it anyway, you've got to move on. How you do this is not easy but don't ever let him see you down. It's time for you to walk around without a care in the world and if he goes to speak to you say i can't talk right now maybe later. Always smile and try not to be in the same places he go's to. It gets easier as it go's along,all you've got to do is give a go.
2007-10-14 18:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ask an ex what they think of you. OBVIOUSLY they thought great of you if they decided to hang around you for so long. don't push at something for a stupid subject. ask someone else.
if your looking for a hope, maybe he was afraid to tell you that he still sees you as something great and doesn't really know how to tell you. if he won't talk to you in person or on the phone, e-mail him or walk straight up to him and ask to chat.
2007-10-14 18:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to just have a conversation and find out why he's mad at you. The try to be friends again by making a solution.
2007-10-14 18:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by Nick Cage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not calling you because you are broken up. You are going to have to make a new friend. He's just not into you as much as you are into him. You're going to have to get him out of your mind.
2007-10-14 18:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by shellshell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friendships seldom work until a few years have past, and often not even then.
2007-10-14 18:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look at the key word
2007-10-14 18:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋