I've noticed (I'm positive I'm not the first to, either) that women have a tendency to naturally gravitate to the men that treat them like crap, and even while they know that they can do better, they don't. They go out specifically looking for the guys that will treat them horribly. The funny part is that they turn around, when asked how they want to be treated, and exclaim "Like a princess, of course!". Even more comical is when the guys who do treat them right come along, the guys who treat them with respect, maturity, and the like, they walk all over the poor guy. Why is this?
2007-10-14 11:32:40 · 20 answers · asked by Mr. Booker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women have no logic, no reason, and no accountability. They dont even know what they want.
They are certifiably insane and if they didnt have a hole in just the right spot no one would want to have anything to do with them.
2007-10-14 11:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Some women are "caregivers". They see the man who treats them badly as a man who "needs" them and cannot resist wanting to give those men what they believe he is looking for and wanting.
These kind of women are thinking, one more time, if I can show him once more how much "I" love him, he will magically change and become nice to her and be loving.
There are also women who do not know what it is to be treated better than being jerked around. Could be this is how the men and women in their lives while growing up were behaving therefore it is the norm in their minds.
As for the women who meet that nice guy and then walk all over him? That poor man is paying the price for all the past bad guys in her life and she is too jaded to realize that she doesn't have to walk that path with each man she encounters.
2007-10-15 00:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by johnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im just gonna go out on a limb and guess you're one of these stand up guys that have been walked all over. i'm truly sorry about that, its absolutely unfair that things happen that way. people have a psychological tendenct to gravitate toward people with characteristics they are familiar with, whether they realize it or not. this means that women are probably going to gravitate towards men with characteristics similar to those of the men who has had the most influence in their life. so if a woman tends to go for men who abuse her then she probably had a family member who treated her or someone close to her similarly. this is why fathers should be especially good to their daughters, they are their daughters primary influence and will therefore effect what they seek in a mate forever. it's tragic that this woman probably had some sort of hardship in her life that causes her to be attracted to those kind of men but its rooted in her psychologically and will take a lot of hard work to overcome.
2007-10-14 11:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by Peach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People go to what they know. If all they have ever know is a painful relationship with men then what do they know. When one comes along to treat them right they don't trust it since all relationships start that way anyway. When the goodness keeps going they just don't know what to do and don't think they deserve to be treated better. Someone who does this needs counseling. they got to learn they don't deserve it and can have a healthy loving relationship.
2007-10-14 11:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by MaryJean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe because they want the challenge...they feel like if they just stick around long enough they can get the guy to change and then they feel like they've really done something. I on the other hand am married to a man who treats me very well and am appreciative of it. I've had my trial and errors though.
2007-10-14 11:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not exactly sure, but heres my guess: we want to WIN a guy. we want to have another CHANCE. at least I do. I dont want love to come too easily or I know that I won't appreciate it and be thankful for it. I'm not saying that I dont love it when a guy treats me great, I can't really explain it....
Going back to the same guy, well, I want to go back to this one. He treated me good, but I do want another chance for that heartbroken girl inside of me.
I'm not saying to be all nasty to us, I'm just trying my best to explain why some of us do the things that we do. Hope I helped :)
EDIT:
to Mr.Carlito,
I take umbrage to your comment about women. I respect your opinion, but I am DEEPLY OFFENDED.
2007-10-14 11:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing people want is to feel needed. For women, particularly single women, that is most manifest in their spouses. When a woman finds a man who is obviously flawed they gravitate towards them because they feel they can change them. Nice guys don't need them and so are dismissed.
There are other determining factors of course, but I guarantee you this one underlines them all.
2007-10-14 11:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by stn1225 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This happens because they need someone to validate how they already feel about themselves. Being with someone else is the attempt to see - self - in a different way. Then the female realizes that you do not validate how she truly feels about herself.
Women that feel good about themselves could accept a good man. The reason that you possibly attract that type of female is because you have a need to repair. The attraction works both ways, you validate her and she validates you. Once you realize that you could not make her see herself the way you see her, it becomes discouraging.
2007-10-14 11:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by shirrock 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truee. . . I'm not sure whyy, but maybe is the choice of a girl? It's hard to understand, but i guess you can say that once they're with that guy, they get addicted, no matter how horrible they're treated. and after they're addicted, they start
"loving them". and a bunch of stuff? if youre talking about after breaking up, then its becasue they're still in "love". . .
Really hard thing to understand.
2007-10-14 11:38:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't love themselves and don't really think they deserve to be loved. Therefor the unconsciously seek out partners to validate their poor self image. Not all women or girls are this way though. So if that is the sort you attract or are attracted to, you have to start looking at your own, "why do I do that?" issues.
2007-10-14 11:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by Lost Leo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOW SELF ESTEEM. don't say "women" because not all women do that. if a woman thinks highly of herself and knows her worth she wont tolerate a man to treat her badly at all, much less crawl back to him. if you don't think you deserve better you wont try to do better. they think that men who treat them w/ respect are too good for them and that they deserve the jerk
2007-10-14 11:40:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋