I'm in my early 20's and got circumcised last year (under her insurance) for medical reasons (balanitis&phimosis). My dad, who I just started talking to again last May, asked if I had gotten circumcised yet. I told him yes and he said "good." He IS circumcised, too. He says he wanted to/would've done it when I was born but I was born with other health issues to deal with. Him and my mom don't talk (divorced), but he told me I should tell her about it now "so she knows."
Should I tell her about it? And I'm curious if she wanted me circumcised, too, at birth. Would it be weird to ask her that? And to also ask her why she didn't do it as I got older? Should I ask her all these Qs?
And girls, would you find it weird to know this info about your brothers, father, etc? DO you know this info about them?
Also I pretty much know 98% she does NOT know. Bc by law Kaiser said they cant say stuff to other ppl w/out my permission.
N I paid the copayment of $20 so no need to send bill 2 house.
2007-10-14 11:06:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is entirely your own business.
Your dad is probably trying to start some drama.
Quite frankly, your... uh... personal business like that should only be between you and your doctor... and your future wife.
2007-10-14 11:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not clear under whose insurance you had the procedure. It's a bit odd for you, in your 20s, still to be covered under your mother's insurance unless you are a full-time student. In any case, it seems that she would never know unless you told her.
Since your father doesn't speak to her, it is unlikely that he would tell her and upset her that YOU didn't tell her. So, saying nothing would seem to have no downside.
However, why did your father want her to know? It might be because this was something she always regretted, or it might be something that she avoided. In the first case, telling her would make her feel better, in the second case it might make her feel worse. You have to assess why your father might want her to know ( after just asking him ).
Try to act in such a way as to cause as little pain and upset as possible. Evidently, your father was pleased that you had the procedure. Don't tell you mother if she would be upset. Of course, if you don't tell her and your father decides to tell her, she will be upset that you didn't tell her something that she might feel is important.
Until you get some high probability indication that it's a good thing to say something, you should probably keep your mouth shut. As for other people, they either know or assume or don't care; in any case it's not necessary to volunteer the information gratuitously.
On the other hand, if you are married or engaged it might be a matter of importance for your significant other to know.
2007-10-14 11:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by LucaPacioli1492 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell her about it. It's not a big deal! Its just a bit of skin that got cut off. Really You shouldn't worry so much. Your mother probably wants to know what's going on with her child. My brother got circumcised too and it was not a big deal back than. We even made a few jokes about it. In my experience theres no harm in telling her and asking a few questions.
2007-10-14 11:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's your mom. If you wanna tell her, tell her. If you don't, then don't. If your parents went through an ugly divorce though, you might want to be wary of your dad's suggestion to tell her- maybe there was a disagreement? Maybe Mom didn't want it done and THAT's why Dad wants you to tell her? To throw it in her face that he was "right" all along?
I know my brothers and dad are not only because my mom was in her early stages of Alzheimers and blurted out "I've never seen a circumsized penis up close."
Awkward, but funny...
2007-10-14 11:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm thats a tough one,
but if its your mother, and your in your 20's,
the choice it totally up to you,
but that information isnt so weird,
im pretty sure my brothers have been,
and i know my boyfriend has been at a young age.
2007-10-14 11:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by jm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell.
mothers always want to know what is up with their kids.
i dont think it would be weird to tell your mother this.
shes your MOTHER.
2007-10-14 11:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by Arianne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to tell mom not that it is any body's choice but yours! she will not hate you for making your own choices!
2007-10-14 11:11:09 · answer #7 · answered by scoob48413 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well...uh....go for it
2007-10-14 11:10:37 · answer #8 · answered by Tofu Ninja 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋