Did/Do you have caring grandparents?

Question

Growing up all 4 of my grandparents ignored me and my 3 siblings. I was always jealous of grandparents that act like parents. Mine were more concerned about money and never came to see us. What makes it worse is that my family was struggling financially with 4 kids and my moms parents are very wealthy. They never gave us money to help with school,clothes,class rings and pictures, etc. I always notice good grandparents who do things like taking kids to doc appointments,helping them with college, buying them their first car or just showing up for graduations. My grandparents were deadbeats.....How are yours?

Mama Bean: I wasn't saying that kids are ENTITLED to those things from their grandparents, but it's very disheartening when you get nothing and your cousin gets a blank check-LITERALLY.

This question is in conjunction with my other question:

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Answer 1

1 of mines are dead sadly my grandma treats my like crap she never spends time with me or gives me anything but as long as i have my mom everything is ok and to you plzzzz don't be sad if you ever need any1 to talk contact me

Answer 2

You have to first recognize that grandparents aren't obligated to do anything. I understand what you are saying....but you may not understand why they are the way they are with their money. You didn't live through the Great Depression.

I find it interesting that you say they didn't give you "money to help with school, clothes, class rings and pictures, etc.". Funny how you didn't say "rent, utilities and food". See the difference? I am not wealthy. My daughters don't get class rings or senior pictures....we can't afford them. But I love my kids and they are wonderful, loving people. You don't NEED those things. As for 'school' I'm not sure what you mean but we manage to get fees paid, and my kids have clean, decent clothes even if they aren't name brand and brand new.

I'm sorry but I don't know anyone whose grandparents take them to doctors appointments or buy them cars. Maybe i don't live in your section of town, where you have higher standards.

I was raped by my father....who never got punished. later (after dumping my mother with nothing) he married a multi-millionaire heiress.....and he's never so much as sent me or my kids a birthday card.

So next time you start complaining about what they didn't do for you, remember that your life could have been worse.

Answer 3

My grandparents didn't really help us out financially. None were ever in a wealthy position to do that. However, they were all very loving and supportive. I have only 1 grandparent left now. I miss the other 3 terribly!

Answer 4

I am so sorry to hear that your grandparents were/are that way. That is so unfortunate for you.

My grandparents on my mothers side were very loving and caring. Sadly they passed away before I graduated high school. They had 28 grandchildren and I am the youngest of them all. They left me their home in their will. My other grandparents on dads side were just like you described yours as being.

All people are different. I have a friend who was never close to her grandparents.

Answer 5

there are grandparent right to where if you dont let them see their grandchildren then they can fight that.. but also if you can prove them unfit then you shouldnt have any problems from the judge, i would say go ahead and let her take you to court and ask the judge if there can be a drug test ordered on site and after just make sure he knows her past with children, just something to remember though so you dont waste your time gathering people the judge prolly wont take what other people say into consideration because alot of judges now in days will just take it all in as here say. but hey i dont blame you for what you are doing i would do the same thing if i was put in that position with my children, good luck and i hope everything pans out.

Answer 6

I have both sides of the the coin. I have one Grandmother who is completely self absorbed. She doesn't buy birthday gifts but comes to the parties and complains, she expects us to come and see her but never makes us feel welcomed when we come. She makes my mother feel bad even when my mother does everything she can to make her happy. It frustrates me, but it's come to the point where I know what to expect from her and I just deal with it. She is still my Grandmother and my Mom wants us to see her and treat her kindly, so we still go see her and I try very hard to be respectful, but she will never earn as much respect as my other Grandparets have. They are wonderful and I call them a few times a week and visit once a week.
My parents are grandparents also and they are just as wonderful and so are my in-laws. I am very lucky, I feel for you. My Grandma is always adopting new "grandkids" do you live in Ohio=)

Answer 7

Well, all of my GP's died while I was young. In fact, at my 6th birthday party, my Granny had a heart attack. Right in front of me....horrible right?

Growing up, I too felt like others who were able to boast about and share love with their GP's were luckier than I was. I guess feeling like that is normal.

But as I got older and I saw how much my friends were in mourning when their GP's were sick or died I realized that I was kinda lucky. I mean, I know it sucks to say it that way. But I cant imagine what it's be like to lose people who were with me my entire life and acted as 2nd parents in my life.

I dont deal with things like that very well so I'm so glad I didnt have to.

But never forget, things happen in our lives for a reason. If you ever start your own family, you'll know how important it is to cherish and adore your grand kids. Love is a beautiful thing :o)

Answer 8

First of all- Grandchildren are not entitled to college funds and cars from grandparents. Some simply cannot afford to buy their grandkids these things. It doesn't make them bad grandparents.

One of my grandfathers died when I was only a few months old. My grandma (his wife) died when I was fourteen. She raised us for a couple years when we were little because our mom got cancer and my dad had to spend all his time caring for her- there was nobody to help us except her. I loved her dearly.

My father was abandoned when he was seven. His brother was six. They were left at a hospital- their parents weren't good people. I never knew them. The two of them were bounced from orphanage to orphanage until they were fifteen and sixteen and ran away to Chicago where they got jobs working for a construction company. It's really an interesting story and I wish I had more space so I could tell you about it.

Answer 9

Well I have multiple grandparents due to my parents divorcing and remarrying.
My mother's mother was like a friend to all of us. She couldn't cook to save her life, but she tried. Her second husband was okay. He took us fishing, etc. Currently we're still in touch with the kids he had from his first marriage.
My mother's biological father never really got to know us. He lived thousands of miles from us, but when we did visit he was glued to the TV and his scotch. His second wife is still really sweet, but she's tacky and embarrassing often and she was very difficult to explain to my in-laws before my marriage.

My father's father died before I was born. His mother had already married and that man had also passed away before I was born. Granny is sweet and kind, but currently has Alzheimer's.
The majority of the parents of the men my mother married were jerks to me and my sisters. My stepmother's grandparents were okay, but not very friendly.

Answer 10

Funny I remeber I was about 12 or 13 when my grandad first asked me how I was just came over to say hello and talk to me. But his parents (my great-grand parents) were really loving. My other grandma always used to say how good I was PISSED my sister off big time, lol.