Do you go along with your husband/wife when they attend an event related to their work?

Question

Here is the scenario. Your husband/wife has to go to an event that is related to what ever their job is. You are not in the same profession. The event can be a conference, fair, hair show, an award dinner, open house, museum tour, etc. Basically ANY SOCIAL AND CASUAL EVENT THAT CARRIES the THEME of your PARTNER'S CAREER. For the sake of argument, let us say the event happens on a weekend and you do not work weekends. Do you tend to go or do your own thing? Why do you choose to do this? What do you think this says about your marriage?

I believe that the husband/wife should go with their marriage partner to their career event.

Please share a story. Describe freely. I got the time to listen.

I am writing a research paper on love. So any feedback related to this would be great!!!

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

GOING TO OVER EMPHAZISE ONE MORE TIME!....

SOCIAL AND CASUAL EVENT!!! YES THE WIFE CAN GO BECAUSE IT IS SOCIAL AND CASUAL!

Answer 1

I think you should go.

First, it gives you time together, even if it's just a few dinners out. Get a room at the hotel with a jacuzzi. Explore a new place together (or alone while he's in conference). Make love on crisp white hotel sheets.

Second, if you're dancing around the hotel room naked he's not going to be going to the bars with his work "buddies"....thereby reducing the opportunities for meeting women who don't care if he's married.

Third, it helps you understand and support his profession. And that can only strengthen the marriage.

Answer 2

My husband is a career soldier, he is a Sergeant Major. He must attend many, many social events and we spouses are always encouraged to attend.

I like to go, mainly because I like to socialize and my hubby does not. So, most of the time if I want an evening or weekend out.....it's for a military function.

A story? Here goes. Every year the Red Leg Association (an Artillery Servicemen's Organization) has a formal holiday dinner and gathering. Until the last year or so, women soldiers were not permitted in the Artillery, so the spouses were all women. This yearly gathering includes a "secret" ritual having to do with artillery history, so the soldiers and their spouses are divided into 2 groups in 2 locations for most of the evening. The men are sequestered in their private banquet room and do "who knows what', and the women have our own formal dinner with a guest performance or some other entertainment fit for ladies.....boring! We have a wine and cheese tasting....the men have an open bar, so usually by the time the "secret" stuff is over and the 2 groups are reunited, the women are yawning and the men are sloshed. For many years we wives speculated at what the secret stuff is that occurs during these dinners...one wife swore that there were strippers involved, one felt sure X-rated movies were shown, many of us believed that "hazing" type activities took place. Very few of us wives enjoyed the evening....we had to get all dressed up and then couldn't even be with our husbands in their dress uniforms...the programs for the women were usually dreadful and then we all had drunk husbands at the end of the evening. Not fun.

Lo and behold!! Year before last the event hosts decided to do away with the separation of the sexes and have the couples dine and enjoy the entertainment together. Finally!! We wives would know what happens during the "secret" meetings. We were ready for the raunchy show, the evil hazing, whatever it was.

When "ritual" time arrived (as was listed on the program), the lights dimmed and 9 soldiers walked to the front of the room. The host admonished us that what was to take place was sacred and special. We were told that it was an honor to witness the following events.
Very reverantly, the nine soldiers then mixed a brew in a big punch bowl in honor of the Artillery Soldier, in it was poured axle grease (for the Howitzers - those huge guns that shoot rounds 15 miles away), sweat (for the toil spent in duty), blood (for the blood shed by soldiers), tears (for the tears cried on the battlefield), an army sock (which was often used as a tube plug), a bottle of French wine (because modern Artillery began in France), and a few similar symbolic items. The host solemnly stirred the punch and poured out 9 cups (of course what he poured was not really from that bowl, it was punch from another bowl), and one by one each of those 9 soldiers raised his punch cup and named the name of an Artillery soldier he new who had lost his life during the past year. Each of the nine soldiers told of the bravery and sacrifice of the fallen ones, of the family and friends left behind, of the love of his country, and of the willingness to die for a worthy cause. After each soldier gave his toast, everyone in the room was asked to take from his or her own drink. I saw not a dry eye in the room, mine and my husbands' included. I saw Generals cry, I saw Luitentants cry, I saw waiters cry. When the ceremony was over, the mood was not subdued, as I expected. The lights came back on and everyone had a story to tell of one of the remembered soldiers. Good stories, funny stories, stories that made us laugh and made us glad to be part of the evening. More drinks were passed around and more toasts were made.
I saw my husband cry that night for the first time since our last child was born. I saw a side of him that I never knew existed. I learned that his feelings for his Country, his fellow Soldiers, and his chosen profession went deeper than I ever imagined.
So, I was wrong about those "secret" meetings. Boy, was I wrong!

Answer 3

I think as long as you are able to go you absolutely should. It shows that you are interested in your spouses work and co-workers, which are a huge part of their lives. Also, it shows that you like to socialize with your spouse and you can have a good time together.

I went to a few of my husband's company Christmas parties and it was great to get to know his co-workers in a social setting. And not to mention putting a face to a name. Everybody has stories about work, whether it's a funny story or venting about a bad day. I loved meeting these people that I had heard so much about, good and bad.

Good luck with your paper.

Answer 4

My husband often goes out of town on business, and sometimes I'll go with him, as long as there will be other wives attending. Most of the trips are in-state, just a few hours from home, so if it's an interesting place with things to do while he's in meetings, I like to go. Sometimes I choose to stay home, even if other wives are going, usually because I have something planned and prefer not to cancel my own projects. My husband and I both have mutual interests, but we also enjoy separate activities. I think it's important to attend local work-related events, especially during the holidays. Office parties aren't the norm where my husband works, but we do get together with his co-workers at restaurants and at different homes. It's always nice to know your spouse's co-workers, because they are, in essence, another "family". I know some wives who prefer to keep their family and professional lives separated, and that's fine for some people, I'm sure. In our case, though, we enjoy social interaction with co-workers from both our jobs, and have developed good friendships with co-workers and their families. If I don't attend an event, I don't feel guilty at all, just as he doesn't feel obliged to attend my job-related events. Sometimes, it's a no-brainer. He might prefer to stay home and watch a football game while I go to a baby shower for one of my co-workers, and I might prefer to go to a ceramics class instead of getting together with my husband and his friends for a card game. It all depends on the circumstances and your own personal comfort levels.

Answer 5

If the husband is allowed to take his partner with him then yes, I would say the wife should go with him. It's something new to her. If it's like a meeting, meeting, then No. First of all, you can't be present at meetings, second if you were you would find it boring. Your husband should be free to go with no arguments. He does it to support the family and not have fun. He can't do anything if his job requires weekends.

Answer 6

I worked this job for the last three years that we went to training thing frequently. I always insisted my wife go. There was one time they made us share rooms and she couldn't go and I made up my mind that I would never go again if I could take her. She's my best friend and I don't want to ever go out of town without her.

Answer 7

Yes - I would expect to see wives and/or husbands at events like this.

When my fiance's work has xmas parties or get-togethers, I go. When my work has dinners or get-togethers he goes if he has the time off.

Answer 8

For sure they should go together.. If my husband wasn't allowed to go then i wouldn't go and vice versa.. Me and my husband go everywhere together. Even when i tell him to go hang out with his guy friends he still wants me to go with him.

Answer 9

no way id go! bit of space an time to go out with the lads!

Answer 10

when it is appropriate yes i do, especially on the weekends.