My boyfriend and I just moved in together the end of july. We have struggled to sleep in the same bed ever since. He's used to sleeping alone- I am not but do fine either alone or not. He likes the tv on with noise and the fan going - not to mention he snores. I have stuck to sleeping in the same bed regardless of these distractions and talked with him about ways to alleviate them.Originally the issue was that I was crowding his space in bed- rolling towards him. Well, it doesn't take a genius to figure out that he is a big guy -his mattress bowed and now we have switched mattresses. Now the complaint is that my mattress is too small and I hog the covers and the bed. He sleeps hugging a pillow- he doesn't hold me(not a big deal- it comes with time) although I hold him as much as I can. He doesn't seem to want to sleep with me. Often I find the bed empty in the morning and him in the spare bedroom. To add- he doesn't initiate sex anymore either.
I just don't know what to do....
2007-10-14 11:41:32 · 4 answers · asked by mattysgal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its beginning to look as though you rushed the decision to move in together. His behavior is telling you that he inst ready for a live in relationship. Why not move back home, and just date for some time. If you stay there, you are only going to be unhappy with the situation. Who knows, in time it might seem right for him and he will be more considerate of what you want and be closer physically. If things don't change, then you are better out of there and look for a better life elsewhere.
2007-10-14 11:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by JazzE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he actually prefers to sleep alone and live alone. If that was me, I think I would move out.
It is not so much the fact that he doesn't cuddle up, or moves to the spare room. It's that and the fact that he doesn't initiate sex anymore.
He knows he made a mistake and he's hibernating waiting for it to disappear.
2007-10-14 14:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ran into the wall this time! Going to fast, were ya?? Well back up, and try to find an even balance to this neew stlye, Its new to both of you, But don't wait for him to ask for SEX, just attack,attack,attack!! he's probly waiting for something from you!! why does he need to start it up, you start it up, and knock his shy lil socks OFF good luck
2007-10-14 15:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a bigger bed.
My gf and I had to get a California King. But.....it worked.
2007-10-14 11:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Dak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if someone doesn't give in this relationship isn't going to last much longer
2007-10-14 11:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋