I'm 17 and I have a 10 year old sister. We both have different fathers and now my mom has left them both. She kicked out my stepfather because he was an ***. My mom used to take a lot of crap from him and I had to do the same for years But no matter what he did, she would love him. He'd hit me and I even got send to my grandparents for 3 years becuase that's what he wanted. Now my sister is doing the pretty much the same thing that her father did and my mother defends her like she did with him. Now, if I get mad or say something I'M the bad guy. My mom suffers a lot but she still treats her like a queen but when I do something bad, I get hell. I need to know what can I do because I'm going crazy and I tend to be a bit of an angry person and I don't want to do or say anything that I might regret.
2007-10-14 11:03:49 · 6 answers · asked by Ketsuban 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If the 10 year old hits you, you hit back HARD. If she cries, tell her not to dish it out if she can't take it.
If she is harassing you, she is doing so to get a particular response from you, so don't give it to her. Tell her off and walk away, but don't give her the reward of a response.
Subrtact yourself from the situation and go to your room or for a walk around the block to cool off.
Tell your mom that the sister learned how to be abusive from her father, and that you will not take it. Your mom need to be a parent and get this stuff under control before the 10 year old hits the streets and gets into drugs and sex. Spoiling the brat is not going to help.
You have 1 year left until you are 18. Get a part-time job and bank your money until you graduate... you will need money for deposits on a shared apartment or whatever. That will take you away from the house quite a bit.
Do your homework at a friend's house or library.
Just be sure to do your chores and keep your grades up so you stay out of trouble.
Your family is your first set of hurdles to get over. Good luck.
2007-10-14 11:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. You probably have all this anger building up inside you because of the things you and your mother have gone through with your step father. The little sister is just that , a little sister. She wants the attention and to her you're the outsider (in her immature eyes) because you've been gone 3 years. Remember she has been living in the same hell as you. Ask your mother if she will consider family counseling? Tell her you need to get some things off your chest. With all the fighting that has been happening at your house all of you need to take a deep breath and just hug each other and realize that none of you is the enemy that the bad guy is finally out of the house. If your mother refuses counseling see your school counselor and ask for help. They may be able to point you in the right direction. You have to get rid of that anger in a positive way. Start by avoiding fights with your little sister. You are the oldest so the responsibility falls on you. The next step is to get involved with something you love to do and channel that energy to the activity. It could be sports, auto mechanics, art, writing, running, bicycling, skateboarding, whatever it is that you enjoy doing. Church could be another release. Hang in there. Coming here and asking for help shows you are an intelligent kid trying to do the right thing. Don't stop trying and you'll do alright. Good Luck
2007-10-14 11:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through this before. i'm 18 and my sister is 13. only difference is its the same father. when my sister would do something and blame me. they would believe her. specially mom. it drove me nuts. i think the more problems i had at home the more i acted out. i got involved with guys at the age of 16. nothing really serious. now i regret all of that. my mom pretty much treated my sister like a queen and me like hell too. it bothers me she pretty much ignored the 5 year olds (twins) it was crazy now my parents are divorced my dad has the twins and my 13 year old sister and me live with my best friend. shes a much better girl now. i think u should try coping with it and be a good person. and hope it gets better. maybe try living with your father not step father if yours is a good guy.
2007-10-14 11:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, this is a very stupid idea but I think it might be worth thinking about it for a second. Can you go back live with your grandparents?
Seems like talking to your mother doesn´t help. At least your sister should behave appropriately.
If you can stand it, be strong and try to bite your tongue but yourself some friends that you can talk to. That might ease the load of holding back things you´d love to spit out at your sister.
If it´s really that bad then maybe consider the grandparents option if it´s available.
It´s another year till you are old enough to have your own life. Maybe, if you feel strong enough and willing to start something on your own then, you can still go there and visit your mum and sister whenever you want, but you are not doomed to live with them and have this load on your mind. It will make you ill one day.
2007-10-14 11:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by Bianca W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on for one more year and then you can be "outta there". I t sounds pretty frustrating around your house. Just do what you are told and stay out of trouble. Get a job and start saving money. Make plans for when you are old enough to be on your own. Maybe you can go live with your dad.
2007-10-14 11:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Behavin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your going to college soon. Leave home, get the education then lose contact.
2007-10-14 11:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋