Family & Relationships - 9 October 2007

What are you supposed to do when a Questioner (who seems
very young) is asking for help after being raped? Isn't there something more that I can do than just telling them to call a rape hot line?

2007-10-09 19:31:20 · 7 answers · asked by jnnsstuff 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-09 19:28:27 · 15 answers · asked by whiteangel 2 in Singles & Dating

for incidents that happened in the past(racial incidents) ,and i got on friendly terms with her and then ignored her everytime she tried to get my attention,am i being racist?

2007-10-09 19:26:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ex. after you u did some stuff a girl felt that she did not satisfy a guy? what would she do?

2007-10-09 19:23:47 · 6 answers · asked by dimples 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-09 19:17:18 · 11 answers · asked by avrod07 1 in Singles & Dating

i will go out with this girl i had realised that she likes me but scared of me a bit and always want me to the the actor, we will have lunch together and then have a walk in the park at night presumably. I real wanna kiss her that day to show her that i like her but the issue is when will i know is the right time to do it, I am just wondering if there are some signs that girls show during this time. I wana make sure i kissed her at the right time and she will want it that time. Thanks a lot.

2007-10-09 19:15:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am getting married in a year and a half and would appreciate any advice on where to cut expense on the wedding. We don't want to go cheap but we can't afford lavish either. Looking to spend under $10,000 if at all possible.

2007-10-09 19:12:48 · 16 answers · asked by cwgirlup2000 3 in Weddings

my boyfriend apparently got this girl pregnant when we weren't together and i just found out after having been with him for a year he said he was afraid of losing me and he is right because if i found this out a year ago i would've never been with him. now i have fallen deeply in love with him. but thats not the issue, his baby mom is terrible she leaves messages telling him how he wants her back even though he says he never tells her that and she also says on his voicemail that he has another woman and she calls me names. i tell him about it and he says i'm letting her ruin our lives. i already told him i would accept the child and i would like to make it work but his baby mother is a pain. i didn't even find out about the baby from him until a couple of months ago i heard her on his voicemail talking about him not seeing his son. he said he was waiting for the right time to tell me because we had been arguing off and on. i don't know what to do he is my first love and i'm confused

2007-10-09 19:11:46 · 16 answers · asked by Angelina M 1 in Singles & Dating

i have a friend that came to me recently about a sleeping pill overdose. she took 30 pills all at once. she never went to the hospital or anything because the people she was with didnt think it was necessary. she says that it felt like her heart kept stopping or missing beats. she says it still occassionally happens even though the od was 2 months ago. could any lasting damage have been done? what can happen to your body when you take that many at once, besides the obvious death?

2007-10-09 19:08:56 · 8 answers · asked by avalon552 3 in Singles & Dating

so. my guy friend came to my house one night.
i stupidly let him in my window.. he told me how
he loves me ..and wants me. hes my boyfriends
best friend.. he was always such a nice guy.

so we were sitting on my bed talking..
he started touching me..
and i liked it.
but i made him stop.
then he started again.
then he started takin my
clothes off.. i dont know
why i couldnt stop him..
i was so scared.. then
he raped me. and didnt
use a condom or anything.
now hes telling people that
we did it.. and its not true.
my bf asked about it.. i told him
i was stupid let him in my room..
and he touched me.. but i didnt
tell him he raped me.. i know i
need to tell him.. but hed freak
and kill the boy who raped me.
im so scared.
someone please hhelp me..

i made up this email..
amber isnt even my
real name..
i would tell.. he told me he would kill me
if i told.. im so scared. hes been texting
me saying hes sorry.. i dont know what to do.

2007-10-09 19:03:51 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm about 5'6 and 135 lbs and he told me to lay off the junk food. He threatened to leave me if I gained any weight and told me that I look like I weigh 150 lbs because he couldn't lift me.

We don't kiss or make love anymore. I never receive compliments from him like I used to.

What should I do?

2007-10-09 18:58:31 · 31 answers · asked by JuDyLicious 3 in Singles & Dating

This is really embarrassing but I'm not entirely sure how to be on top during sex without feeling awkward. I've done it before but I never really cared for it because I couldn't get a feel for it and now my fiance wants to have sex with me on top.

Help?

2007-10-09 18:56:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Hey everyone, well, this is what happened. . . i have bin going out with my gf for about 4 months and I love her soo much. I'm not the kind of guy to play around with girls or cheat on girls or w.e . .until this night i went to the club and i had a too many drinks and I made out with a girl that I knew. Now i know its no excuse that I was drunk. . I just don't know what I was thinking or how I could have done something lyk this to someone I really love and care about. And I really really love her and I don't know what to do now . . . And trust me. . i do care about her. .and I've felt so depressed every time i think about it every single day. . I know that if i tell her it'll crush her and it will crush me too. . .please help me someone. . .how should I go about this?

2007-10-09 18:55:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

and have children he will require paternity test??? Am I the only one who thinks that this person is overly controlling and possibly going to be dangerous in the future???

2007-10-09 18:47:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

im married at 23 unhappy a mother and i want to go out and meet new people. the problem is the finances with wanting to leave my hubby i dont have right now. sometimes i dress up just to go the mall or walmart hoping sumbody will show some interest in me. my hubby obviously doesnt, so i want someone else. do you think someone is out there looking for me? i am so depressed right now its not funny.. i need help... what do you think?

2007-10-09 18:42:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I wish it could change but can they ever??
I mean not just that but this perosn is in their 30s, with they ever change???

ever??

2007-10-09 18:40:12 · 17 answers · asked by KittyMeowGrrrr 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I hate forcing my self to let go of one person that I need in my life.
I'ts the only thing that makes sense,but at the same time, it's the same thing that complicates me.
I know that I am better off without it,yet I feel empty whenever I try to let go...
Now tell me,"is emptyness is better than constant hurting?".......

2007-10-09 18:36:42 · 14 answers · asked by bike 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

some fights for cooking. evey day morning it will a great tension .even if i buy veg for eg., 1/2 kg for three people she will ask me to cook only 1/4 kg how it wil be enogh for three adults.
this my problem thanks for all who have answered my prevuious questions

2007-10-09 18:34:29 · 4 answers · asked by sheraya 1 in Family

or is it just something guys do?

2007-10-09 18:33:11 · 14 answers · asked by Mandy 3 in Singles & Dating

I think I really like this guy. I've told him that I do. But I dont know if he still thinks I do since I told him before summer started. That doesnt really matter though I suppose. I feel tired sometimes, liking him because I honestly think he doesnt feel the same way. But then again I just cant seem to let him go. Sometimes I stay up just to talk to him on the phone and it makes me realize that I'm liking him more and not less. So really, what should I do?

2007-10-09 18:33:08 · 4 answers · asked by kimuzukashii 2 in Singles & Dating

okay well my husband has a custody order stating visitation rights every other weekend and for 10 months never got to see them he took the mother to court several times to fight this the judge says sit down and try to come to an agreement and she admitted to violating court ordered agreement and has yet to see kids...best advice? she would rather he not se the kids but something needs to be done

2007-10-09 18:32:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I mean, every guy i talk to or date doesn't ever like talking about their feelings. Why is this so?

2007-10-09 18:31:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my hubby and i have problems really bad ones too. well since he doesnt like me starting conversations with him i seem to leave and look for others to talk to. i have blurted out many times that i wanted a divorce. theres so many things that he has done to me since we've gotten married. he takes me for granted and thinks i wouldnt do that to him,but he always does it to me. lately, i have been conversating with my old boss from work. i dont know if its just infactuation or what? but i always feel better when i talk to other men.i was just wondering over time wouldnt he notice me and realize what he has done? he always does bad things and then tries to turn it around on me. will he ever see what he once truly had? i've tried marital counsuling and that didnt work. he claims we dont have problems. he gets mad when i talk to others about our issues then he gets mad??? why? i dont know. what i am doing is it wrong? is he ever gonna see what its like to alone and lonely?

2007-10-09 18:31:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-09 18:30:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My sister found out her fiance's military orders Tuesday and is getting married Sunday. She is trying to keep it traditional despite the super short notice, but we feel like we might forget things. Real simple, small (30 people).
Getting Married in Chapel, to pictures, to Restaurant.
Here's what I've got:
Dress, shoes, Hair, Nails
Rings, Flowers, Chapel and Restaurant Reservations
Vows, and that is really all I can think of.
I want to help her make it special, she's never been married and I don't want her to feel that she's missed out on a real wedding Please any help of things I can do to make it wonderful for her, or things we might be missing. Keep in mind, no reception really, going straight to a restaurant, so she's doesn't need a D.J. or wedd. favors. Thanks

2007-10-09 18:27:46 · 9 answers · asked by Thomas M 2 in Weddings

I have a friend who had this guy who would flirt with her and talk to her a lot whenever he saw her off somewhere. Now, he does'nt talk or flirt with her whenever he sees her, he doesn't even speak to her. He acts like he doesn't know her. She hasn't done anything to him. Can someone explain this behavior?

2007-10-09 18:23:07 · 6 answers · asked by goodsamaritan_1999 1 in Singles & Dating

well i was with this guy who was married but i knew his relationship w/ his wife wasnt working well i got pregnant and he told his wife and left her for me and we where going to live together but at the end i dindnt want to because i wasnt ready but since i didnt want to live with him he left me and the baby and hasnt called at all he said he wanted nothing with me just cuz i dindnt want to live with him and he went back with her (how could she forgive him?) i felt he just used me like his only way out and it was either me or her and he didnt really care for the baby i dont know if i should call him altough i know he has been calling me on private and hangs up when i answer should i call him i dont know i dont think he deserves my call it has been already four months since im pregnant and havent heard from him what should i do?

2007-10-09 18:20:41 · 10 answers · asked by ♥ A New Life!!♥ 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am always hunting my man down and often I get rebuked. Why? What does it mean?

2007-10-09 18:18:59 · 17 answers · asked by Izzy2834 1 in Singles & Dating

ive been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months. he's been going through a lot and is very stressed right now. this has led him to be distracted from keeping his apartment clean. i thought it would be nice if i went to his place while he is at work and clean it for him. even though he gave me a key and told me to come anytime i wanted, i feel like i would be intruding. would you feel that it would be intrusion or would you just be so happy about the clean apartment that it wouldnt matter? i really want it to be a surprise, so i dont want to tell him. but if i should...then i will. THANKS!

2007-10-09 18:16:41 · 12 answers · asked by icedchai8907 3 in Singles & Dating

This is very complicated to say the least. You see, I like this guy and to an extent, he likes me too. He says that he isn't ready for a relationship and neither am I, however; I seem to have very strong feelings for him. I have two classes with him, and the campus is small anyways, so it is very difficult to go for a few days without seeing him. He says that he is waiting until after he graduates and then he feels he will be more ready to finally begin a relationship. I usually never like a guy this long when I feel that he could be the least bit interested in me, but I cannot diminish these strong feelings. They are so strong that when I see him and he happens to not see me, it hurts like hell. I do not know what to do. I want to stop feeling things for him and focus on my life right now, but I can't. He is not the smartest guy nor is he the cutest, but in my eyes, I see his personality, his sweetness, his heart, and soul. What do I do? I am open for suggestions (all I can get).

2007-10-09 18:15:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating