Is it common for the female to want/initiate sex more than the man?

Question

I am always hunting my man down and often I get rebuked. Why? What does it mean?

Answer 1

If its too often I would be weary...may want to see if there is somewhere else he is getting it! I want it all the time, but my man is happy to oblige :)

Answer 2

Now that depends...are you two married? If you are married to each other then by church rules the other person is supposed to say yes no matter what just because they love you (that goes for both the man and the woman). Normally the man is the aggressor but in recent times the female has learned to be the aggressor, and sometimes that turns a guy off, could be because they expect you to be the one waiting for them. Women can turn on anytime. Guys can't always turn on anytime. And too, some women really don't have the desire but force it on the guy anyway. Or, the guy knows they are faking in sex and maybe are trying to prove something to the guy, or trying to keep him at home, or trying to keep him busy, or are merely jealous. Women learn to be aggressive by dressing and acting like their peers and what they see on tv. When in a marriage there's more to think about than just sex. If there is pressure for the guy to perfom eventually he could very well walk away from the relationship or marriage. In a marriage the norm is to have sex once a week, occasionally twice a week. There are married couples who have sex once or twice a year. So you see, there IS more to commitment and love than just sex. Maybe he's wishing you would take care of things youself, or mayibe he's just had a long day.

Answer 3

It means there may be a problem. Usually men think about sex more frequently than women. Some studies have shown this, and I believe this is true from my experience and knowledge of other couples (heterosexual) over the past 35 years. (Wish I had a quick link to back this up. Maybe someone else will provide one.)
Something is going on in your relationship, and I'm not the expert to give advice. My guess is that an expert would say it's time to talk it out if at all possible. I prefer to do this with my partner and not use a professional counselor, but some people must benefit from counseling.

Answer 4

The answer to this can be hard it depends on alot of factors. How long have you been with each other how old you are the age between you and your partner. I have been married for 22 years and it was always me untill I got hurt but the isue of sex is between the people involved. everyone has his or her way of doing things and to want sex is a natural thing for a person but if you are thinking about it all the time it can bring problems. I was bad with it till I was in my late 30's then I found out that it is not everything in the world. when you get married you do go through times of need for the sex I found that it can be you are not sure if the person you are in love with still wants you. But you need to take time and set down with your mate an talk long and hard about this if you are online asking strangers for advice you do have a problem not to say you should not ask strangers for advice becuse that is the first step in solving the problem. But if you want your partner to know how youfeel and want your relationship to work the best thing to do is talk and keep an open channel to your partner. set down and talk! sex is not bad or dirty and you are not wrong for the need. Good luck and God Bless

Answer 5

u didn't write how old re u. if u re both in your early twenties - it is not normal for a man don't want to have sex. but if u re in your late 30 and older - dear, men get weaker and weaker cos testosterone gets down and down. also i presume he has to work. if he has responsible job with lots of stress - sex is the last thing he is thinking. i want/initiate sex almost all the time and no, my man is not getting it anywhere else. he works. he is a big person with very high resposnibility. when he comes home and brings me all this money he just wanna relax and do nothing. i understand that completely. of course i would rather be lying there moveless and letting a man do all the job. but in that case he would be an unemployed loser who has nothing to do all day and has to waste his energy somehow.so i'd rather do all the job and have this wonderful man with money

Answer 6

I used to do it and then when he didn't want to I felt like I imagine you do right now. The reason was not because my man cheated he said sometimes men just need a time out, it's not true that men are always ready to do it.

If you think its because he doesn't like yo taking charge, do what I do when I want it and it doesn't seem like he's gonna mak a move.

Touch him slowly without even saying you want it, stroke down under, specially his balls my guy loves it when I do that. Just do it without even thinking about it.

After a while you'll find it doesn't feel like you are touching his balls, it feels more like a nice toy your palying with. Fun thing to do while lying watching TV.

In the past 2 years me and my BF have been together we've had to pause just about every movie we watched because of my method. Give it a try.

If he wants to be "the man" make him feel like he is. Moan and say he's the only one for you etc. I promise you that works, he'll want to have sex jusy to hear those words!

Answer 7

It's completely fine. I wish more women were like that actually. Unfortunately I think most girls are taught that sex is a "male idea" so they avoid bringing it up first. My girlfriend is kind of this way (we are yet to have sex though). I really wish she wasn't though. I prefer that she bring up doing something in that vein as often as I do. When a male brings it up all the time, they get the impression that they're the only one in the relationship interested in it. When a woman brings it up, the male realizes they're not alone in thinking that way.

Answer 8

I played hard to get at first with my old man and then I taught him how to make me scream, poor soul now he's got dark circles under his eyes, he falls asleep while he's driving and he threw his back out last night So now I keep the refrigerator full of red-bull and the medicine cabinet full of pain pills.

Answer 9

yes it is very common. In fact, studies prove that women think of sex more than men each day, we just ont always show our wanting for it like men do.
But yes, there are women who crave it more than men, and its totally normal.
There are days where I need it like 5 times a day, and my man just isnt in the mood lol
But its normal, dont worry, and you're man is ok too.

Answer 10

most guys want it all the time, but occaisonally there is a super horny girl that makes men look tame but if you have to track him down just to be refused i think hes prolly moved on to a new piece of ***...sorry