well i was with this guy who was married but i knew his relationship w/ his wife wasnt working well i got pregnant and he told his wife and left her for me and we where going to live together but at the end i dindnt want to because i wasnt ready but since i didnt want to live with him he left me and the baby and hasnt called at all he said he wanted nothing with me just cuz i dindnt want to live with him and he went back with her (how could she forgive him?) i felt he just used me like his only way out and it was either me or her and he didnt really care for the baby i dont know if i should call him altough i know he has been calling me on private and hangs up when i answer should i call him i dont know i dont think he deserves my call it has been already four months since im pregnant and havent heard from him what should i do?
2007-10-09 18:20:41 · 10 answers · asked by ♥ A New Life!!♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you(and his wife) deserve ALOT better...forget him and make him pay child support
2007-10-09 18:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Opps. :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you should be calling him is to let him know you are taking him to court for child support.
So swallow your pride and go online and search for your nearest child support enforcement agency. Then yes, call him and let him know you plan to get over him and be a good mother to your child.
Focus on the future here. You have a life to live and a child to raise. Talk to him about what part he wants to have in the child's life for starters.
Let your relationship with him go. He was married and you were wrong to intrude upon his marriage.
Think about it, how would you feel if after a man staring you in the eyes on your wedding day and vowing to love you and cherish you forever...then he just goes off and has unprotected sex with some other girl and ends up getting her pregnant?
Marriage is a very emotional thing and it hurts when some one breaks the vows they willingly said to you.
So leave the relationship alone but speak to him about the child you BOTH have to raise.
You will have to wait until the baby is born to get child support but the least you can do is start moving on and thinking about the bigger, better issues at hand.
2007-10-09 18:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Your Best Friend 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah if you are going to keep the baby you have to call him. You really should be thinking about the baby. That seems like the most important thing to be dealing with.
YES call him now.
2007-10-09 18:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by snowflake311 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave MARRIED men alone for starters. this man left his wife to be with YOU and the BABY BUT you didnt want that. what do you expect him to do. the natural thing is to go back to what you know and to go back where you came from. you got pg to wrick havoc in his little or/and to take him from his wife. while once again sweetie we(my sistas) have allowed the married to use us. you knew that he was married but you didnt care. he used you and you used him. and what do you mean how could she forgive him. that is HER HUSBAND. and he just your baby daddy. she has every right in the world to take HER HUSBAND back, you didnt want him. so why are you worried about who he is with. you need to grow up and worry about how you are going to take care of this baby. leave that man alone. if he calls you than thats one thing but you dont need to be calling him. for what the baby is not here, there is no milk, pampers, etc needed at this point. its been four months. leave that woman husband alone. you have accomplished what you set out as far as hurting your fellow sista. good looking out. know that what goes around comes around. GodBless
2007-10-09 18:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you should call him he has a child regardless if he want to
play games.. the fact that he got up set that you did not dance to'his tune, that all that about. good ridden but he has
responsibiity and he need to deal with that.it not aobut what
he deserve your child deseve him in the life. if nothing else
child support. dont let him get over.
2007-10-09 18:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lets see where do i start, first he doesn't even deserve for you to call him why because he didn't believe you and if he really cared the way he made you believe he will come to you. you can take care of the baby yourself you don't need some guy that can't take responsibility for his own action what makes you think he is going to take care another baby. you can take care of it and don't need his damn money to take care of u and urself thats why u got your family and friends.
2007-10-10 11:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by not u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a paternity test (required by law in many states) and get child support. What made you think that because you wanted a baby, that he did too?
2007-10-09 18:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think you can change his mind?
Call the clerk of the court and file paternity papers..get child support going.
2007-10-09 18:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what call him?
why not sue him and demand that he pay for the expenses of the child
but if you have the means and you dont want any trouble then just leave him alone, dont call him he doesnt deserve it.
2007-10-09 18:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart tells u to do.call him If you love him and why not leave with him he is the father of your kid,but if you don't love him still call him talk to him fix it up try to find the best way to do thing for the baby and he may think u don't want him if you don't want to leave with him call him talk to him.God bless you and your baby.
2007-10-09 18:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by Bonita C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋