This is very complicated to say the least. You see, I like this guy and to an extent, he likes me too. He says that he isn't ready for a relationship and neither am I, however; I seem to have very strong feelings for him. I have two classes with him, and the campus is small anyways, so it is very difficult to go for a few days without seeing him. He says that he is waiting until after he graduates and then he feels he will be more ready to finally begin a relationship. I usually never like a guy this long when I feel that he could be the least bit interested in me, but I cannot diminish these strong feelings. They are so strong that when I see him and he happens to not see me, it hurts like hell. I do not know what to do. I want to stop feeling things for him and focus on my life right now, but I can't. He is not the smartest guy nor is he the cutest, but in my eyes, I see his personality, his sweetness, his heart, and soul. What do I do? I am open for suggestions (all I can get).
2007-10-09 18:15:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ever heard the saying if you love something set it free if it's ment to be it will come back i'd say tell him you have feelings for him not enough to scare him off but a fyi then let life run its course
2007-10-09 18:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by ujustbyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well perhaps you should respect his decision, he seems to be a smart guy, wanting to focus on his studies rather than getting caught up in a relationship.
Why dont you do the same? If you cant wait, maybe try to find someone else.
But I understand that its hard, bc you really seem to be attached to this guy. But if anything, respect his decision to wait, you'll feel better for this "good deed".
2007-10-09 18:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by Gwen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to make a choice, do you want to wait around for this guy or do you want to move on. If you want to move on with your life the best thing to do is find ways to avoid him if you can , spend time with friends involve yourself in other things like clubs etc to distract you from him. And ask yourself why he doesn't want to be with you ? is it really because he is waiting till after graduation ? or is he just to scared to say hes not interested. Focus on your studies because he hasnt given you a definate answer that he wants to be with you , so waiting around may be a waste of time.
2007-10-09 18:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
judging from what you are saying I think he doesn't like you. If a guy really wants to have a relationship, there is no time line. He will do all things he can to get you to notice him. If he gives you reasons, then he just doesn't want to hurt you. I suggest you keep the friendship than to lose both.
2007-10-09 18:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Storm Shadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a guy says he's not ready for a relationship, it means he's not ready. Forget about him and move on...you are pining for someone you can never have. It's like wishing Brad Pitt would knock on your door and ask you out...you might wish it, but you need to realize the chances of it happening are very slim.
2007-10-09 18:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him how you feel because guys don't usually pick up on that stuff too well. if he wants to pursue a relationship then, great, if not, find something to occupy your time, like a hobby, maybe pottery? keeping busy will keep your mind off him and maybe lead you to a new guy and maybe when he graduates he'll look you up, you never know. don't waste your time waiting for a guy who doesn't want or appreciate you....
2007-10-09 18:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plenty of things you can do.
Change campus, change classes, move to another country.
If those are not feasible then just jump him. There is a big chance that he is not that good in bed thus ridding you of your feelings for him.
2007-10-09 18:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its nice that he likes you but if he is not ready to have a relationship,just ask him to be friends and get to know each other better,tell him that if he in the process keeps wanting to be only your friend you will be fine with it,but if not u don't want to miss the chance to have him in your life cause he is not ready yet.
2007-10-09 18:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get over it....you`ll be fine after that. In contradiction to the popular belief, these feelings you have DO NOT decrease your potential to study or perhaps work; infact it just makes you stronger and perseverence is what follows!
2007-10-09 18:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by Ronnie RZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, you are in love. If you have the guts tell him you feelings for him. It will greatly relieve you from your feelings especially when he answered back the he feels the same way too.
2007-10-09 18:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Raulo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋