Family & Relationships - 9 October 2007

My Dad remarried 13 years ago to a woman who is 15 years younger. Dad passed away several months ago. He gave her a life estate in the house. My dad set up a trust that will pay the insurance, taxes, and maintenance. Dad did not define what maintenance was. However, if the trust run dry, then my siblings and will be responsible for those expenses. This will probably happen because she is only 74 years old.
If we pay all the expenses so she can live there, do we have any rights?
My questions are:
Do we have the right to enter the house and check things out?
If she says she wants a new stove, refrigerator, washer, etc., are we responsible providing that? She has been asking about this.
If she decides she wants to paint or redecorate, are we responsible for that?
Do we have the right to live there if we need a place to do so (hopefully THAT never happens).

2007-10-09 14:25:02 · 4 answers · asked by NeedToKNow 2 in Marriage & Divorce

if you told your husband you are going to get a job(you haven't been working) and he tells you ok but when you work you have to pay half of the bills with him?

2007-10-09 14:24:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

im thinking of dressing up my husband as a girl for haloween and he said his cool with it! Just need some ideas on what to make him wear? He has a thin body and nice legs im making him shave his legs and package and going to buy a wig. just need idead on outfits that are sexy/ skany. thanks

2007-10-09 14:22:58 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What do you do if your boyfriend dumps you at school camp, then that same night his bestfriend asks you out and you say yes, and he gets P.O.ed and starts cursing his head off, and the next week he's going out with your bestfriend! should i make him not go out with her. because he made his friend dump me b/c he threatened to turn everyone against us! what do i do?

2007-10-09 14:21:55 · 16 answers · asked by x!PiNkCuPyCaKe!x™ 2 in Friends

He lives in the city that we grew up together in which is notorious for drugs due to an abundance of money
and lack of things to do. He has admitted his addiction and his parents were going to take him to rehab this coming Friday, but something happened with that and now he is not going for some reason and is intent on moving out of that city. I told him that he could come and live with me in the relatively drug-free community that I live in after he went to rehab. Now that he isn't going, he still wants to move either here or to another certain town that is even more notorious for an abundance of cocaine than our hometown (because he can make a lot of money working there). I don't know if I will be able to help him if he comes here to live with me, and it could cause problems for me, but if he doesn't come here he will be going into a "snowstorm". I have tried to convince him to fix things with his parents and to go to rehab, but there is no convincing him. What should I do?

2007-10-09 14:19:32 · 12 answers · asked by ph4lc0n 1 in Friends

Ok, I want to start by saying that i am not the perfect wife, but i pretty much cant stand my husband anymore.

He is probably the most childish and selfish person I have eve met. He does absolutely nothing around the house. He wont even take out the garbage or the dog. We fight CONSTANTLY. He nags me whenever I spend any money, however whenever he wants something, he pretty much gets it. We both work, but he comes home and does nothing. He'll play with the kids for a bit, but then I'm the one that gets them off to bed.

We agreed a few weeks ago that we would not smoke in the house anymore for the kids. I have stuck to it, except for once. He never sticks to it. Then he gets mad at me when I complain about it.

He's not abusive physically. For the most part, he's a good dad. I dont think I want to divorce him, however I dont know if I want to be with someone that seems to not care about me.

Advise?

2007-10-09 14:16:13 · 8 answers · asked by Coltsgal 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-09 14:15:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

so me and my friends were talkin about how
we'd like to date outside our race
and we try talkin to white dudes or asians dudes
and it never works maybe its the wrong approach
maybe they dont find us attractive i dont know what it is
i would love to try interracial dating
i need an opinion
Are you all men(attractive white,hispanic,asian,other men) intimidated by a black woman trying to get with you?

Khadijah_abdul@yahoo.com

2007-10-09 14:14:20 · 16 answers · asked by khadijah A 1 in Singles & Dating

I was ride in my car yesterday and i seen a friend of mine that i have not seen in ten months but i still have feelings for him he was in the car with his brother but i didnt know he was in there cause of the window tent was so dark but anyway he rode down the window cause he seen me and gave me a look and smile at me and than they drove off and i did not get a chance to talk to him should i call him but if he would not never rode down his window i would not never knew he was there.

2007-10-09 14:10:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

we i.m each other alot

2007-10-09 14:08:26 · 22 answers · asked by shelby n 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i know a girl who broken with her lover 3 months ago . i love her, and i want to get marry with her . the problem that she looks at me as friend or brother.also she somehow afraid of me cause i know about her past with that guy .what should i do to convince her to change her view to me

2007-10-09 14:07:21 · 5 answers · asked by badscarecrow 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I work 40 hours per week, if you include travel time and lunch I am out of the house on average 10 hours per day. I have a wife and three kids at home, 10months, 2 years and six years. When I come home, normally at 6pm, I have some food (1/2 hour), then spend as much time as possible with the kids till they go to bed, usually all in bed by 9.30pm. The problem is with the baby, he cries all the time, and all day long and is super clingy to his mum. When I come home I am so tired, I can barely stand, I try to play with the kids but the youngest one is making our lives hell, if I pick him up he struggles, if I put him down he cries until my wife picks him up. He doesn't always sleep through the night, its 2am, now he is awake and I am writing this. My wife says I should do more, but I can't I am so tired, work is mentally draining, I get up at 7am every day leave the house at 8am and return at 6pm. My wife says she is drained also. Should I get my wife help like a nanny to mind the kids.

2007-10-09 14:02:43 · 10 answers · asked by OfficeMonkey 1 in Marriage & Divorce

just to clear things up, what's bothering me is not about money, it's about thought. my boyfriend and i don't go out and do things a lot that cost money, and it doesn't bother me, because we have fun together, and that is what matters to me. he and i both have jobs and make money, but he does make more than i do. he contributes a *lot* to his mom's bills, and not only that, pays for *her* gas for her car, even though she works (she spends her money...not wisely.) i am a single mom (my daughter is from a previous relationship) so most of my money goes towards taking care of her :) :) today he said something though that really bothered me...i mentioned something about starting christmas shopping early- i do it slowly and budget my money- and i said i wanted his sizes for clothes, and he said that he didnt want people buying him anything because he wasn't buying anything for anyone! do i have a right to be upset over this? i am *not* a gold digger, i pay for myself...but still...

2007-10-09 14:01:24 · 42 answers · asked by ~kim~ 3 in Singles & Dating

....two to flirt? This girl told me that I was flirting with her and I said it takes two the flirt and we has a debate so help me out please.

2007-10-09 14:00:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well i have been talking to this girl for like 3 weeks i told her how i felt about her since day one..we went out to eat once...i gave her my number and she never called....we work together so one day i wrote to her in a email and told her how i felt about her all she responded was"he he you making me blush"since then i been writing little love quotes and leaving them in her desk every morning for like 2 days...today i saw her and we was talking she told me thank you for the notes she told me she is collecting them....u think thats a sign that i do got a chance with her or she just said that to not make me feel bad...remind you she is older than me and i told her in that same email from before that if i was bothering her to let her know and i will respectfully back off...so u think theres a chance or no??

2007-10-09 13:56:23 · 7 answers · asked by kid233 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ok..theres this boy i like. to me he's cute. but its just his mouth that is different.(kinda wierd) but it doesn't bother me. but going around school all i hear from ppl is eww dat boy is ugly. and they were talking about the boy i like. most of the time i really dnt care about wat ppl think. but now i kinda do cause its a new school 4 me. how can i handle this???

2007-10-09 13:55:06 · 21 answers · asked by queen_capricorn 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok so i'm not going to be picky so guys and girls can anwers. I'm in the eighth grade and i'm 5'4 ,115 pounds and have blond hair with natural highligths. I'm funny and sacastic,smart ,like sports and love to draw ,i also do karate.So why dont guys want to date me?(my bff looks almost like me and has had a lot of boyfriends also i dont have the bigest boobs but you can tell that i have some.)

2007-10-09 13:51:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my father told me that he hates me and my sister,today and will be having a baby with this dumb ***** he calls his gf.

first off she hates him and he is doing it out of spite to make us mad. he said... when you see him you will hate him and he said it with a smile on his face but his gf hates him, he is a looser and gets played by everyone a big big sad looser along with me so u dont have to call me a looser cuz i know i am already.
my question is...

how do I get this lousy ***** to leave my family?
I WANT HER OUT!!!!! OUT AND MY DAD might learn then but he wont how do i get her out by any means neccessary without bad consequences of course. she has 2 go first

2007-10-09 13:50:42 · 1 answers · asked by MakinMoney 2 in Family

Ok theres this guy and i really thought he was into me cuz he would look at me smile and u kno like have his friends always looking at me so just this week i see him and he doesnt even look at me yea your thinking that he probley doesnt like u anymore but like i can see him look at me and then turn his head really fast and then he sees if i look at him wut does this mean and i really want him so bad. Do u think he could be playing hard to get since hes about 4 years older then me

2007-10-09 13:49:23 · 3 answers · asked by valeri ann 3 in Singles & Dating

I have been trying to get my wife to get a job for about 5 years and being that we have a 4 yr old son she uses that not to work.I have been wanting a seperation for years and we agreed on that.If i leave and rightfully gave her notification that i was and she did not find a job by the time i leave should i feel guilty.Everone tells me that she using me and my son as an excuse not to work and will not find a job as long as i am there.what do u think???

2007-10-09 13:45:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Were going on a 7 day get-away, 10 wedding anniversary trip. Would you dress up on your wedding anniversary and have a celebration dinner, take pictures etc, even when your on a get-away trip? I was thinking of a pretty lavender dress, with hubby dressed in a pair of casual slacks with a matching lavender shirt.. He said he doesn't want to 'dress up in a monkey suit".LOL!

2007-10-09 13:44:22 · 7 answers · asked by navywife_2001 3 in Weddings

I was at a football game the othernight and it was freezing cold. I was sitting with a group of friends when my best friends sister and her friends were sitting nearby. However she (my friends sister) went to get some food and when she came back she sat by me instead of her friends. Since she had some handwarmers and i was pretty cold she gave me one and then told me i had the most beautiful eyes.... or something like that and then she sat next to me and slowly leaned into me. She also kept touching my leg when she talked to me and today asked for some of my pop and kept touching me on the leg when she asked.

Im just wondering if you guys/girls think she likes me or not. I also kind of like her but it would be awkward because she is my best friends sister. If she likes me how could i bring this up with out him getting mad?

2007-10-09 13:38:44 · 5 answers · asked by 1337 g4m3r 3 in Singles & Dating

I like this guy and im pretty sure he likes me but how do i get him to ask ME out?!?!?



Thx ahead of time,
Kristen

2007-10-09 13:37:07 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He is buying me a promise ring how do i match that besides saying yes or accepting it?

2007-10-09 13:34:56 · 1 answers · asked by sugarsweet_137 1 in Singles & Dating

okay so it's like this iv'e been crushing 4 ever on him and he knows but how do you explain love??? because it's hard to day those theww letter words you know but my friends told me o play i ilove you song or jholiday bed i said that's corny im not going to do that so please help me.

2007-10-09 13:34:46 · 10 answers · asked by [[iM .]] K3LViN'S L4DY ~ 3 in Singles & Dating

It really is difficult to remain unbiased when it comes to discussing Americans. They arrogate to themselves the right to act as this planet's policeman, to condemn other countries for real or perceived breaches of human rights and to rail against forms of government which in American eyes are less democratic than theirs. As Americans are such good Christians, surely they know the passage in the Bible that says: "O thou hypocrite, before thou wouldst remove the splinter from thy brother's eye, attend to the beam in thine own eye!" Never has a passage from the Bible been more apt. So naturally do Americans become defensive when their own shortcomings are pointed out to them, because to face the truth would be unbearable.
Which other self-proclaimed peace-loving country has waged so many wars against smaller defenceless countries, has allowed the members of their military to commit atrocity after atrocity going back to WW2, the Korean War, Vietnam, and now Iraq?
In what other country do you need to be a millionaire or at least be able to raise millions in order to be elected to parliament or chief executive?
Where else on this globe has the education system broken down and/or deteriorated to such an extent that children no are no longer able to read and write or do simple arithmetic and need to take remedial classes upon entering college?
In which other country with the exception of certain Middle Eastern nations does a small fundamentalist religious minority have the power to manipulate both government and the media to enforce a Victorian concept of morality upon an unwilling population?
I could go on and on, but let this suffice.
No wonder Americans are sensitive when it comes to discussing their shortcomings

2007-10-09 13:33:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Been living together as Man and Wife for 8 years;worried about if one of us dies,ILL,or jst needs to be responsible for the other.Love him with all my heart. He is a good man. A good provider.Sometimes Jealous, controlling,Paranoid, may drink alot, sometimes. But, I love him, and we are a Couple,
Just need to know if Marriage is the way to go to Protect ourselves;and yes, he wants to marry me.!! It is I , who holds off!he has been married b4, and I also, --not good.His exes have the reputation of being unfaithful;altho, I am faithful,have been always will be

2007-10-09 13:33:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

The mother stayed up all night worrying for her 40 year old son to come home and got really mad when she found out that he had spent the night sleeping with his girlfriend.

Is there something wrong with this picture?

2007-10-09 13:33:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This is the question:

Does this make sense? He says the reason he never married is because no woman was ever good enough for his mom


This is the answer:

Possibly yes. He knows his mothers negetives and positives (attitude/ behaviour etc). He did not want a noisy atmosphere at home. I mean chances of In-law fighting.

2007-10-09 13:30:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

5 months before he asked you to marry him. Asked to see the other woman twice 3 months and again 2 months before he asked you to marry him. Still wanted to keep in contact with her after your engagement.

2007-10-09 13:29:05 · 14 answers · asked by Alex J 3 in Singles & Dating