5 months before he asked you to marry him. Asked to see the other woman twice 3 months and again 2 months before he asked you to marry him. Still wanted to keep in contact with her after your engagement.
2007-10-09 13:29:05 · 14 answers · asked by Alex J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no no no no
2007-10-09 13:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by LISA 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is still seeking out this other woman, it could be a possible sign that he is not ready for the responsibility or commitment of marriage. Ask him what does his friendship with this other person fulfill that you as his fiance doesn't?
Marriages and engagements were made for two people, not three. If he is not willing to give up this friendship for your relationship, (pending marriage) then I would move on. Give him the ultimatum either she goes or you are ending the relationship.
If he is too selfish to sacrifice this friendship for the both of you, you have to ask yourself is this the person who I want to spend the rest of my life with?
If the answer is no, save yourself some major heartache and legal fees and just go your separate ways.
2007-10-09 21:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mzguydid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was actually in the same situation. If he can tell you why he cheated and if he really want to work things out, sure. If he blames you and doesn't seem to be remorseful, don't waste your time you will get hurt again and again. People say "once a cheater always a cheater", if he is willing to do whatever it takes you should give him another chance." But rest assured that if you want to heal you can, the key is to want to move on from the pain and learn to trust in love again. three important things you need to do to get past the insecurities caused by your ex’s cheating. 1) Open up to him and ask him to be understanding and supportive. 2) Acknowledge that you were hurt by his behavior and that it has left you insecure about relationships in general. 3) Don't rush anything until he shows you can trust him again. Once you’ve faced the pain of your past you can move on. It will take work and you’re likely to falter at times but in the end you can get better and learn to trust again".
2007-10-09 20:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that he has a choice, he can have her, or you. If you are to be married, he might as well know that it is only going to be you in his bed, and if he doesn't think he can handle that, then it is time to call it off. It is called commitment, and you made it , so can he.
2007-10-09 20:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me explain my answer in a two-letter word: NO!
All he's doing is trying to get you used to him two, three, four, can we *count that high?* - timing you and thinks you're stupid enough to fall for it.
You take that ring off your finger, honey, and you scratch a little "x" on his handsome facial cheek, throw that ring in his face and tell him to give it to one of his harem cause YOU aren't one of his groupies!
You deserve SO much better than this louse! Please don't marry him!
Good luck to you.
2007-10-09 20:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Save yourself the frustration.
2007-10-09 20:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO! Especially if he is still talking to her, and wants to keep in contact with her.
2007-10-09 20:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him now!!! He'll always be a cheater. And keep the ring. That'll teach him not to mess with you.
2007-10-09 20:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
break off the engagement and let him go to this woman that he can't seem to let go. just tell him you feel that he is better off with the other woman and not you.
2007-10-09 20:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HELLLL NO! Why would you???
But didn't you already? You refer to him as your fiancee..so you accepted his proposal AFTER dealing with this nonsense for 5 months?
2007-10-09 20:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by Grace 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he cant let her go, u let him go.
personaly if a guy cheated on me espeally a fiance then he can forget about me becuase i would sooooo dump his soon to be sorry a*s
2007-10-09 20:36:13 · answer #11 · answered by LuV2__Luv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋