I'm about 5'6 and 135 lbs and he told me to lay off the junk food. He threatened to leave me if I gained any weight and told me that I look like I weigh 150 lbs because he couldn't lift me.
We don't kiss or make love anymore. I never receive compliments from him like I used to.
What should I do?
2007-10-09 18:58:31 · 31 answers · asked by JuDyLicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
are you leaving out any details, perhaps?......... like maybe your stuffing your stuffing drawers with chocolate?... are you sure he stopped giving you compliments?
2007-10-10 05:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is your boyfriend in good shape? If so then yes you need to lose weight. If he is a fattie, tell him to lose weight as well. You are not in the BMI index target weight for women. I would say just lose about 10-15 pounds and you should be good. However, he should have been a lot more tactful about saying that. Attraction is a two way street, I think quite a few women out there take on the 'oprah' school of thought and think, "he should like me for me" Well let me tell you ladies, an attractive fit guy isnt going to want to date you if you are a plus size slob.
2007-10-10 02:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Your boyfriend is a jerk. If he is only interested in your weight he is not a good person. He should appreciate you for the nice person you are. Now if you feel you are overweight it might not be a bad idea to exercise, but he stated it in a rude and uncaring way. If you are 5'6" and weight 135 that is not bad at all. In fact I would not consider you fat.
2007-10-10 02:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Phillip M 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Leave him, and THEN lose the weight.
From what you've said, it sounds like he's lost interest in you and is trying to break your self-esteem on the way out, so that you'll blame yourself and not him for just giving up.
Even giving him the benefit of my HUGE doubt and saying that he was just giving "tough love" and "didn't word things nicely"...the fact that he doesn't have sex with you or even kiss you leads me to believe that he is just being an ***.
You need to bail out. Seriously, I know it sounds hard, but just cut the ties and be done. You don't need to be treated that way (unless you walk around eating all day and complaining that you're fat), and him lack of sexual interest in you tells me it's pretty much over, anyway.
Move on, babe! Good luck!
2007-10-10 02:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by unithoRn 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Leave him. Find someone who appreciates you as you are. You're at a great weight, you're not overweight, and it sounds like he has his own issues. Could he be dealing with impotence? Or could he be gay? Is that why he doesn't have sex with you? This guy has serious problems, and he's blaming you for them. If he can't lift you, he's weak. If he thinks it's important that he be able to lift you, he's an idiot. Really, find someone nice. There are plenty of men who will appreciate you, and this guy will just get worse. If he couldn't blame your weight, he'd just find something else.
2007-10-10 02:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
You mean aside from knock the **** out of him? There is a girl in my class that is shorter than you and weighs about the same and I don't think she is fat. You are fine just the way you are and your boyfriend is a shallow jackass. Please find someone better before he starts really emotionally abusing you.
2007-10-10 02:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by h1u4sxda 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he might br creeping just look in to it im 135 and 51 and i look great no stomach and fit so whats the promblem with him.
2007-10-10 04:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by msstockny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a few options:
1) Get fit and loose some weight. Being fat and lazy is not attractive. No amount of talking will make him attracted to you, if quite simply, he finds you unattractively fat.
2) Find a boyfriend that likes you the way you are. But consider this - What would happen if you lost your weight and he complained that you weren't voluptuous enough?
I do not think that anyone should complain that he is being shallow. Are you attracted to big fat lazy men? Why not? If he truly loves you, however, he will encourage you without insulting you, maybe even excercising with you etc.
2007-10-10 02:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 5⤋
Your boyfriend is not deserving of your love so better broke up with him. You can find someone better who will accept you of who you are ... whatever size of waistline you have and how much weight you've gain.
2007-10-10 02:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by nIjMeh 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, it sounds like he's superficial and maybe even controlling. I think you could do better. There's a possibility that he cares about you and is actually concerned for your health and well-being and just doesn't know how to express it properly. But it seems like a slim chance to me.
2007-10-10 02:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
leave his ***....he doesnt deserve you.....he's and asshole cause if he really loved you he wouldnt care what you looked like... dont take that **** from him and leave him... he is probably making an excuse to leave you and thats the only one he came up w/ ... he is not only going to leave you, he's gonna leave you w/ a low self esteem ..... dont let that happen and just leave him...
2007-10-10 02:11:12 · answer #11 · answered by i love my life! 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋