2007-10-09 18:30:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no it's not wrong, unless you want to get out of the relationship because she's paralyzed....if you want to see other people for reasons other than her paralyzm them it's ok....otherwise idk what to tell you....
2007-10-09 18:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has she been paralyzed? I think you should stay with her for the time being, if it happened recently she needs your love now more than ever. Plus there have been instances where people who become paralyzed get back some of their mobility with good rehabilitation, depending on the seriousness of the injury. At the same time though if you're not happy being with her anymore then its probably better for both of you if you don't stay with her. At least give it some time first.
2007-10-10 01:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by Dave K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you actually implying that you would consider moving in on your paralyzed friends boyfriend?
Think about the ramifications of your actions here. So your friend is completely disable, she's probably depressed and trying to find some joy and peace in her life. And you would actually hit on her boyfriend as if she is not feeling inadequate enough already?
Be careful with the kind of person you want to be. If you want the be the kind of person that would do something like that then dont' be surprised when some day the favor is returned.
That's a good way to ruin your karma.
Good Luck!
2007-10-10 01:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Your Best Friend 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what i understand is that, your girl friend is paralyzed and you are in the process deciding to move on.
first congratulations on having given the young lady some moments of happiness.
the only problem is if she has fallen in love with you, for you to make a decision to leave after you have gotten her revved up in body mind and spirit will be very tough on her. especially if she believes your intention are wholesome.
i read a story by a young lady who had become paralyzed and met a man ia a laundry. they talked about a whole range of topics and eventually they discussed her desires. she wanted a man of her own to have and to hold.
i suspect your girl friend may have been left her with the idea she could have you as her very own.
tough decision.
please let her down lightly, and try to cause minimum pain, if you decide to leave.
2007-10-10 02:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by ramni222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your girlfriend.
You do not say how long she's been paralyzed. Any chance she would walk again?
Are you in a hurry to find someone else?
Do you really love her enough to stay with her? if not, can you be a friend to her? she must need lots of them.
It has to be difficult.
You need to search your heart - no one can tell you what to do. It's a decision you need to make on your own !
Remember that God knows all things. Seek Him, His council - He will guide and give you strength and peace to make the right decision.
2007-10-10 01:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Yafa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't think it is wrong if we aspire to move on with our lives. But this decision you are going to make, i agree, it is going to be hard on you coz as you said you love this girl.. How about asking yourself, "how far would you go to show her your love?" "how far would you sacrifice for your friend?". Certainly, she is going through a very tough times right now..May be you could at least be with her and give her consolation and comfort.. Leaving her right now will definitely add emotional burden to her.
Let me share to you a verse from the Bible about friendship:
"Greater love has no one than this, than to lay his own life for a friend. " - John 15:13-16
2007-10-10 02:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wrong, if you really love her you should be there for her, she will always need someone strong to support her and be there for her.
It may be tough at times, but who said love was always easy?
Its a hard decision, but you say you love her and afterall she is still the same person you fell in love with - paralysed or not!
2007-10-10 01:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you love her so there should never be a question or not if you should move on. When you take a vow to marry someone its for in sickness and heath and for richer or poorer. If you question because she is paralized you are a selfish SOB and u should move on so she can find someone better that will love her for who she is,
2007-10-10 01:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by lonenightwolf13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you asking us? What do we know about the situation? It'd be mean, maybe, to ditch her immediately or whatever. But sometimes, mate, you got to look after number one.
Here's a quote, buddy:
'Each broken heart will eventually mend' -- Ben Gibbard, songwriter
2007-10-10 01:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by accountant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to define your goals carefully and stop wasting time,energy and money on activites that benfit other people more than they benfit you.
It may be good to give,but you've got to draw the line somewhere or there may be nothing left!
2007-10-10 01:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love her but you want to leave because she has now become paralysed. hmm obviously the love for her wasnt that strong..... but I can only imagine what stress it could bring to the relationship, this is a hard one, but it isz up to you, does she know you want to leave her?, maybe talk to some proffessional about it, I mean I know if anything like that happened to my loved one I would never even consider leaving, but thats me......Good luck whatever you decide to do.Hopefully you can remain friends.
2007-10-10 01:36:06 · answer #11 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋