Hey everyone, well, this is what happened. . . i have bin going out with my gf for about 4 months and I love her soo much. I'm not the kind of guy to play around with girls or cheat on girls or w.e . .until this night i went to the club and i had a too many drinks and I made out with a girl that I knew. Now i know its no excuse that I was drunk. . I just don't know what I was thinking or how I could have done something lyk this to someone I really love and care about. And I really really love her and I don't know what to do now . . . And trust me. . i do care about her. .and I've felt so depressed every time i think about it every single day. . I know that if i tell her it'll crush her and it will crush me too. . .please help me someone. . .how should I go about this?
2007-10-09 18:55:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all..cheating is never an accident!
second of all, tell her. tell her everything-why and who you did it with, how you feel about her, how it makes you feel that you did that..maybe she will forgive you. but, you have to mean it, and even if you really do, you have to make her believe it too.
it will be very difficult to regain trust though..include her in everything to show her it's her you want..and no more clubs and "too many drinks"..
2007-10-09 19:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by icedchai8907 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend got drunk while I was on vacation and sent a dirty e-mail to another girl...
It's been about four months since I found out, which was awful. It may be the hardest thing you have to do right now but telling her is A LOT better then her accidentaly finding out.
Me and my boyfriend are still happy together,
Im not going to lie it's been hard.
But, he has stopped drinking, because he decided on his own that his behaviour was unacceptable.
This might be a good idea for you as well.
To help him through it I agreed to stop drinking as well...
I hope your girl can be as understanding, because you obviously feel awful...
Good Luck. I know this is going to be hard, but telling her may just make your relationship stronger.
2007-10-09 19:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it will be better to tell her. may be it will crush her, but if she loves you, she'll think about your honesty to admit the fault. if you don't tell her now and it comes out anytime later, she may think you've cheated on you...firstly by making out with another girl, and secondly by hiding it from her. then the situation will be worse.
so, tell her what the situation was. be true and of course, promise her that the same thing would never happen again. apologize, tell her how much do you love her. and try to keep the promise afterwards.
best of luck.
2007-10-09 19:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Wonderful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 22:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to keep feeling guilty about it until you do something.
I reccomend going and confessing, straight up. Tell her that it was an accident, that you won't do it again- you really do mean it and that you promise you'll stay with her and won't do anything stupid.
Besides, think of it this way- what will she think if she finds out from someone else? No, it's best if you tell her, and as soon as possible.
2007-10-09 19:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to break up even if it hurts. It hurts so much more to be dragged on than to be told upfront. This has happened to me (I've been cheated on) and he told me that we had to break up. He told me the truth and that its killing him for doing that and that he is so sorry that he hurt me. He told me that he wanted to break up to protect me from him. When you really care about someone, you protect them and the best way is to be upfront and honest. If they want to stay and work out the relationship and move past the problem, then be smart and think about what you want. What's more important in life? If you feel you might be put into a situation where you might get coaxed into cheating or hurting her, avoid it.
2007-10-09 19:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reality: if you really loved her, you will have stay in control of your drinking, you will have been at home with her or waiting for her, or thinking of her, not in a club with someone else.....Reality, when you really love, you do not hurt of guilt. Love yourself enough to do the right thing and pay the price. Let her go, she deserve better, she deserve real love and respect.
2007-10-09 19:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Sabine F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really nice that you care so much about your girlfriend and isn't making any excuses. You have to tell her the truth because it will be even worse if she finds out you lied to her. I'm sure she'll see how truly sorry and sincere you are and forgive you.
2007-10-09 19:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by h1u4sxda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, dude. Open with an apology. Make sure she knows it will never happen again. Beg her to forgive you and do anything she wants. You do NOT want her to find out from someone else.
2007-10-09 19:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by ChefBoy_OK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is going to be the be a guys answer and will not be well looked upon by most..but we all make mistakes....if there is no way she will find out and there is no way you will ever, EVER make that mistake again...then dont tell her....you messed up...it made you realize what you have....if it starts eating at you to bad then tell her....but just love her and dont ever put yourself in that situation again.
2007-10-09 19:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by DUDE Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋