im married at 23 unhappy a mother and i want to go out and meet new people. the problem is the finances with wanting to leave my hubby i dont have right now. sometimes i dress up just to go the mall or walmart hoping sumbody will show some interest in me. my hubby obviously doesnt, so i want someone else. do you think someone is out there looking for me? i am so depressed right now its not funny.. i need help... what do you think?
2007-10-09 18:42:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You say you are a mother and unhappy.
By shopping around will make you a happy mother ?
Wake up & realise , what's your weakness/ strength and also of your hubby and then come to a compromise !!!!!!!
2007-10-09 18:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by jjshri ram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go throwing-away the marriage you committed to, why not do the work it takes to make you marriage Happy, Healthy and Fulfilling for both you and your husband.
Seek marriage counseling, and get the tools you need to do it! Right now, you are asking for trouble and may end up losing everything by seeking an affair.
If you invest some and effort, you may find that you can be very happy and satisfied with the marriage you are in now, but it takes work and you have to know how to make it good. If you belong to a church, see if it sponsors couples retreats, or arrange for your own weekends with just you and your hubby. Do fun things, go overnight and stay in a bed & Breakfast, do thigns you guys had fun doing together before you were married.
I think you will find love again with your husband if you don't give up and learn how to make marriage work.
2007-10-10 01:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by Greenman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so quick to meet with someone else.Why not try to work it out,specialy there is a child involved.Just because you are depressed,it doesn't mean he is the problem.You never said anything bad about him,all you are saing is you want attention and you are looking for it at the wrong places.Make a nice dinner,get all pretty,sit your hubby down and talk to him.staring by now that you have a kid,you should have a stronger bond and connection.You need to try to pay more attention to one another.While saying this pore him a glass of vine,put your hand on his shoulder and give him a soft,cute kiss on the corner of his mouth.Try it,it works every time when i want something really big from my husband.
2007-10-10 01:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by avavu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get in to see a counselor with him because some guys are so preoccupied with other things that they don't realize that they are hurting someone they love, or claim to love. If he won't go to the counselor with you, go by yourself.
Put a little money aside until you have enough to move out and file for divorce if that is what you want to do but do not be in too much of a hurry to find the perfect man out there after a divorce you you may end up getting married again to someone who will only pay attention to you until after the honeymoon is over.
you need friends to be there for you at times like this, and yes, someone is out there looking for you but you have to get past this first, and be sure that you don't settle for the first guy who comes along
2007-10-10 02:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree to a degree with what most are saying here. Try working on the marriage. Seek counseling. Do things together. try to grab his attention if he does not give it freely. But, if there do happen to be irreconcilable differences, if you absolutely cannot get anything worked out, do not stay in an unhealthy relationship just because there are kids involved. It is far worse for a kid to grow up in an unhappy household than with divorced parents.
2007-10-10 02:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by ChefBoy_OK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋