Is emptyness is better than constant hurting?

Question

I hate forcing my self to let go of one person that I need in my life.
I'ts the only thing that makes sense,but at the same time, it's the same thing that complicates me.
I know that I am better off without it,yet I feel empty whenever I try to let go...
Now tell me,"is emptyness is better than constant hurting?".......

Answer 1

Bike, I'm in the same situation. I felt like I needed my bf. I still feel a bit empty without him. But he was abusive to me and to his kids, plus he pushed me away when I got honest with him. Our whole relationship was painful to me, and I think it was to him as well.

I feel empty without him. I can't fall in love with another man, no matter how many I go out with (and it's been a few). All I want is the lunatic who broke me heart.

Deep inside I know that being empty is better than the constant turmoil of my life with him. I can focus on the people in my life who really need me, like my kids, my friends, and my aging, loving parents. They always appreciate the love and attention I give them, though I sometimes take that for granted. When I was obsessed with that man in my life, I neglected them, I confess. So the emptiness is good for all of us. Now the pain of being without him has calmed down to a dull throbbing that nags me sometimes. I can live with it, though sometimes I'd rather not.

Answer 2

You just need to give it some time.
That empty feeling is just as bad
as the constant hurting.
Take this from some one who knows.
I promise, it gets better with, TIME.
It never really goes away completely,
but it doesn't hurt as bad as life continues.
But watch out.
One day, everything will be going fine
& an image or a song
or a ball rolling out into the street
will bring a memory to the surface
& for a moment you'll get
that empty feeling, but then it passes.

Answer 3

It's not the letting go that hurts, it's the holding on. If the person is making you miserable then yes you are better off without them. And it will hurt for a little while, but with time you'll get over the disappointment and feel better. But however they are hurting you now, if you get rid of them then that pain will be gone and you'll open up space for a person who isn't going to hurt you.

Answer 4

Definetly. I was practically in love with this one boy. He was perfect. I still think he was 'the one'. But we were having a thing behind his girlfriend's back and then he all of a sudden left me and started talking to someone new and I found out he cheater on her with another girl. Huge commitment issues! But he continued to try to keep in contact with me and I knew it was never going to work. I would always be the other women and feel pathetic. So i stopped trying to make it work and after couple of weeks of hurting it goes away. At the time i thought it never would but it does. And you won't feel empty, for sure, you'll meet someone.

Answer 5

I don't know either; I am going thru the same thing and wondering the same exact thing... it is a very difficult question... i am leaning towards emptiness over excruciating pain; there is not much worse than that feeling, right? i mean, at least now i'm not lying in bed sobbing, not eating and wishing i were dead... i just feel... empty.... maybe something will come along and fill up this emptiness, i hope so...

Answer 6

Yes because you will get over the emptyness but you will never get over constant hurting. Anyone that doesn't treat you like you deserve to be treated, you need to get rid of. Sometimes you have to do it for yourself even tho' you care. I'll bet when you finally get rid of him, you won't feel emptyness but relief. Whatever, just get busy, busy, busy and it will get better. Never accept less than you deserve. You should be mad. . .how dare someone treat you like that. . .

Answer 7

Both feeling empty and pain are not good. But they are things that we must all experience in our lifetimes.
How we deal with them helps us grow mentally and emotionally into the people we were destined to become.
Let that person go but never let go of all the positive things about having known them.
Keep that in your heart always to turn this gloomy situation into a positive one.
Good Luck!

Answer 8

i would feel better with the emptyness than hurting, cuz i can fill that empty with alot of other things that are great for me, i'll only be limited with my imagination.

Answer 9

Constant hurting will start to redesign who you are beyond repair. You can get over emptiness much easier than excessive heartache and emotional distress.

Perhaps the bottom line is that you need to work on your independence and faith in yourself?

Answer 10

Yes, plus you can in fact easily feel-up the void with Christ Jesus! Try it, It works wonders all the time!