help. raped. 2nd post.?

Question

so. my guy friend came to my house one night.
i stupidly let him in my window.. he told me how
he loves me ..and wants me. hes my boyfriends
best friend.. he was always such a nice guy.

so we were sitting on my bed talking..
he started touching me..
and i liked it.
but i made him stop.
then he started again.
then he started takin my
clothes off.. i dont know
why i couldnt stop him..
i was so scared.. then
he raped me. and didnt
use a condom or anything.
now hes telling people that
we did it.. and its not true.
my bf asked about it.. i told him
i was stupid let him in my room..
and he touched me.. but i didnt
tell him he raped me.. i know i
need to tell him.. but hed freak
and kill the boy who raped me.
im so scared.
someone please hhelp me..

i made up this email..
amber isnt even my
real name..
i would tell.. he told me he would kill me
if i told.. im so scared. hes been texting
me saying hes sorry.. i dont know what to do.

i did try to stop him..
i pushed him.. i begged
him not to.. then i froze..
i couldnt move.. i couldnt
think or anything. its like
it all became so real... im
so fckin stupid.

i dont mean for it to be confusing.
im not crazy or need psycological
help. im just so ..lost.

Answer 1

Call the cops and you should be honest to your boyfriend.

NO... rape is NOT OKAY and you can't apologise to that. It's not ok anytime, anywhere and anyone.

Send his butt to jail, see how it feels to be on the receiving side of rape.... possibly by a group of big strong man.

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Somehow I agree with the_kjors, you're either making this up or you wanted this to happen for attention.

Answer 2

You should lodge a report to the police or talk to your family. You might be scared to do so but you could seek help from Agape Counselling Centre Malaysia (www.agape.org.my), Wanita MCA- National Counselling Bureau Malaysia, all can be found in
http://www.monash.edu.my/Counselling/organizations/index.html
with contacts and everything.

They will guide & help you on what to do even though you think that you dont want to make a big issue out of it. At least go and see them.

You think that guy felt remorse after doing it?? Hell no!! If he does, he wont go around and tell ppl that he "did" it with you. He is showing off to his friends while trying to get away from the punishment by putting a good act in front of you. He's threatened to kill you becoz that's the only thing that he can do to prevent you from telling others. Wake up and dont let that scumb8g go away with it.

Answer 3

you need to contact the police immediately and then seek professional help. You CANNOT let him get away with this; you don 't want someone else to go through the same thing. There are many hot lines that you can call for advice or just to talk about it. 1 866 HOPE is the national sexual assault hotline. If you aren't comfortable talking about it over the phone, there is an online "hot line" from Monday through Friday from 12pm to 10pm ET. Check out the website listed in sources for a "What Should I Do?" page. To relax and to get away from the stress of it all try to go for a walk, Listen to relaxing music, Make a cup of tea, or Take a warm bath.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I'm so sorry.

But you have to move forward. You have to take charge of the situation.

I want you to first calm down. Wipe all indecisions from your mind. You know what to do.

It'll be hard, but you HAVE TO TELL YOUR PARENTS. Tell them the entire story. It's going to be hard, but you have to do this. Let them take care of the situation; they know what to do.

Whatever threat this guy has made and whatever your boyfriend's reaction might be is not the thing to worry about here. What you should worry about is the fact that there is a rapist in your midst who has defied federal law. He has committed an unforgivable crime. He's a criminal.

Be strong. You can pull through this.

Answer 5

Hi, Amber.I can sympathise greatly with the suffering you have endured - and indeed are still enduring. To be absolutely realistic there is only one course of action you must take, and you must take it sooner rather than later. You MUST confide in your parents: this is essential, and then the authorities MUST be informed. No ifs, no buts, O.K.? Your family loves you and will be there for you - easy as!

Please at least consider this course of action: it really is, I feel, the only way. If you wish to talk this through, delighted to oblige! I do realise how hard this will be for you, but trust me: you do not have to suffer this indignity alone.

You have been treated abominably: now you must redress matters.

Answer 6

The usual procedure is to get help, such as going to hospital and making a report to the police!

The rest doesn't make sense. He raped you but he didn't know, because you didn't tell him? If you did not refuse consent, and you let him do it, then it is not rape. I think you need psychological or psychiatric help.

Answer 7

there is no secret that is never revealed. you have to tell your boyfriend sooner or later, if he really loves you, he wouldn't make a war between your bestfriend. The best way to settle this is to tell the police what happened. The guy who raped you must be in jail right now! i'll pray for you! =]

Answer 8

call San Francisco Women Against Rape (SFWAR) free hotline [phone]

You can call anytime of the day. Their crisis counselors go through extensive training, and remember it's not your fault. Nobody asks to be raped.

Answer 9

Call the Rape hotline,
tell them what happened.
It's too late for evidence to be gathered.
Now it's your word against his.
But you do need to speak
to a rape counselor or t
his will eat you up, really awful.

Answer 10

Listen, im so sorry, u sound really upset. Tell your parents, they always know best. Talk to them about it. Then afterwards try and talk to your boyfriend. This guy's obviously an a33hole, so get him arrested. good luck