Family & Relationships - 7 October 2007

I just don't feel safe enough to see that man one more time. He forced me to marry him last year. Now I am out of US. We don't have kids/finance conflict etc, the paperwork is quite simple actually. But I just don't want to see him anymore. I would not feel surprise that he will shoot me then. Can I find a lawyer do this totally on my behalf with a reasonable price? It is in Iowa State.What should I do?Thanks!

2007-10-07 11:11:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I WAS ASSAULTED BY A FAMILY MEMBER FOR YEARS AND NOW THAT I AM AN ADULT I WANT TO CONFRONT THAT PERSON . SHOULD I? PLEASE HELP!!!!!

2007-10-07 11:11:04 · 7 answers · asked by LINDA G 2 in Family

2007-10-07 11:10:51 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been married for 13 years and in the 13 years my husband is a very angry man and his children do no obey any household rules that we have set and they continue to treat me ishy. I have not been happy for a long time. But i dont like to hurt anyones feelings. My heart is hurting so bad. I dont know what to do. I keep taking the verbal abuse and the not respect frome the kids but What is the best thing to do? they wont get counceling either. Im lost Someone please help!!

2007-10-07 11:10:29 · 12 answers · asked by lori 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I was going 2 leave her untill I found out she was pregnant. Now I can't get myself 2 do it. The fact remains that I am completly unhappy though. It has nothing 2 do with me entering the stage of fatherhood, I'm actually looking forward 2 that. It has 2 do with her not pulling her own weight. She puts nothing into our relashinship, but takes everything. I feel like a single man, but with out all the perks. She doesn't help financially, & she sure doesn't help around the house. I can't even get a cooked meal out of this lady. I grew up with out a mother, so I don't need 1 now, but what I do need is some help. I've worked so hard 2 get where I'm at, & I did it all with the only helping hand coming from God, but that only worked out because I was single. Now I'm about to have a family & I can't do it on my own. I live in California, & anyone who lives here knows how expencive it is. I know she's pregnant, but does that mean it's okay for her not to contribute 2 our relashinship anymore?

2007-10-07 11:10:07 · 10 answers · asked by True Goon 2 in Family

2007-10-07 11:06:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I asked another question about exes and I noticed a couple of people said they would divorce their spouse for being friends with an ex, or shat would hit the fan etc.

Now we are not talking about secretly being friends - but out in the open. Like the ex is now friends with both the husband and wife - or the spouse is openly friends with them.... no hiding or anything like that.

What's wrong with remaining friends with exes?

2007-10-07 11:01:38 · 12 answers · asked by Willalee 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-07 10:56:03 · 2 answers · asked by stushy 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-07 10:55:08 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I married my husband 7 yrs ago and we are never together more than 13 days each year. He works overseas and we started pretty much in the same way...long distance relationship. And by the way, we were in it too for 8 yrs before marriage. Though I have no trouble staying faithfull, I of course wish it is different. I am not sure what to think of it sometimes...what do you think?

2007-10-07 10:51:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Okay im going to write a short version of what’s going on right now so u may have a better understanding, I am 25 yrs old I got 5 kids, Yeah I know that’s a lot lol. 3 kids are not mine and 2 are well really im not even sure about the youngest. I have been married for over 7 years I work and support all 5 kids as well as my wife, she has no job I always took care of everything since the day I met her. I recently got locked up about 2 months ago or a lil more for domestic violence. Me and my wife was arguing and I let her get the best of me I got so upset and tired of her getting in my face pushing me around and yelling at me bout not ever being home and spending time with her but its kind of hard when im taking care of her an 5 kids. I lost control and pushed her down on the couch and once she got up and started trying to hit me I ended up slapping her cause she wouldn’t shut up and let me leave the house and of course right after I slapped her I stopped myself and told her I was sorry I lost control and let my anger take over, she wasn’t trying to hear it and I don’t blame her. I took off for a walk to calm down I came back home an hour later police was there and next thing I know I was getting locked up. I was in jail for 45 days once I was locked up I told her I was sorry and if she wanted to be with someone else then I wasn’t even gonna be mad but to just hold off until I got out so we could get a chance to talk I kept telling her I was sorry for slapping or pushing her down on the couch I admitted to all my wrong and made myself look like a fool cuz in the end she started talking about how she cheated on me with my own cousin because she was lonely and couldn’t wait, now I find out they been close for a min now and she just moved in with him and wont let me see my kids. I haven’t went over to her place cause right now I don’t think it would be the best thing for me to do being that its my cousin and I would just get really pissed off again but I now lost my job thanks to being locked up and I need to find a divorce lawyer for little or no income because I want a divorce but have no money and im to busy with trying to find a job right now that I don’t really have the time or transportation to go out looking for an attorney. I stay in Lansing, Michigan

2007-10-07 10:51:09 · 7 answers · asked by Sincere 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Should I lie to him or tell hime that there my panties and I like to wear them

2007-10-07 10:50:43 · 9 answers · asked by Duckman 3&? 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-07 10:49:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-07 10:42:05 · 14 answers · asked by nicole1t2002 2 in Friends

Did you get married for security or out fear of being alone or what not? I have heard that sometimes people "learn to love" their mate. How long did you know eachother before marriage? How long was the marriage? Did everything turn out okay?

I am curious for when I make a decision to marry.

Please be descriptive. I have time to listen. Thank you.

2007-10-07 10:39:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My fiance and I would love to get married in a church but are from different religions? Are there any religions that a church would allow us to marry in?

2007-10-07 10:36:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My husband and I have been married for almost 8 yrs now. We have 2 beautiful girls together. But lately our marriage has been very shakey. One of our problems is different beleifs. He prataices Pagenism where I am a Baptist. This is causing me to wonder if we are right for each other. Please any advice you can give will be appreciated.

2007-10-07 10:34:45 · 12 answers · asked by Tennesseemom 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my new boyfriend doesnt satisfy me at all he doesnt give me oral or anything he just likes to get straight into it and get it over with i only found out last week that he was a virgin the first time we did it so i thought that could be the reason why. but we had sex again a few days ago and it was exactly the same im not really with him for the sex but if anybody has any tips on how to make him last longer and perform better id be grateful. x.x.x.x

2007-10-07 10:31:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I want us to get along. She told him that I need to deal with the fact that mother in laws and daughter in laws are not supposed to get along. Over the past 20 years there have been so many hurtful things to me. I have finally come to the point that I do not care if I go to visit her. My husband has been going alone lately. She hardly ever comes to my kids games but she did come to the last one. I felt put out because my husband got up and sat with her and left me alone. I asked him why he wasn't sitting by me like we always do and he told me to move down with them. Why does this bother me so much? Should I feel that my husband should have sat by me and perhaps asked his mom to come by us.

2007-10-07 10:21:58 · 13 answers · asked by rn2b 2 in Marriage & Divorce

At what age did you start dating, or have a bf or gf. And in what age should we start having 1?

2007-10-07 10:21:56 · 38 answers · asked by imsuchacutie 2 in Singles & Dating

what should i do to spice my sex life up

2007-10-07 10:09:01 · 3 answers · asked by Taryn C 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

What do you do when you realize the one thing, that one hope and dream that you've held on to through the depths of hell and back, is not real and unattainable? When you finally get it, you know the truth for yourself, and your broken. How do you go on? How do you convince yourself that life is still worth living? I've never felt so ravaged in my whole life as I do now, and I have know idea how to cope. Anybody out there, please, I need some advice.

2007-10-07 10:02:04 · 23 answers · asked by Lisa C 1 in Singles & Dating

a parent can give their consent for the "CHILD" to marry? How is this right to make a choice for a child? I see this on marriage certificates from the 70s and 80s under records search. What is wrong with that parent?

2007-10-07 09:59:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have this friend. He's 34 and married with 2 kids. He never cheated on his wife before ( or so he says) and the he met this coworker, a 23 years old girl and everything start to change. Why you think he do it?

2007-10-07 09:57:16 · 31 answers · asked by pretty_brunette 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ok so i was with this guy for about 2 in a half months and he cheated on me.. with some girl at his school, and it was so obvious on myspace i was like oh my god how could you.. so i bust him out on the phone lastnight and he wrote me on myspace says he sorry and wat not and he didn't mean for it to happen like that,plus we just met and he was tellin me how pretty i was and stuff and i was finna be real with him... this is the 3rd time a guy has left me for another girl.. i think im done with relationships, tired of getting hurt. but for some reason i forgive him but that srry isn't enough i guess im just dissappointed.plus he was like can we be friends? what should i do
thanks

2007-10-07 09:55:55 · 25 answers · asked by M 1 in Singles & Dating

she really is sarcastic and sardonic.
but it's not like she's a bad girl, she's very nice but that's just how she acts/thinks

any ideas?

2007-10-07 09:53:42 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My fiance and I had talked about buying and renting real estate. He bought a house and my name was supposed to be on the title, but he never put it on the title because his friends rented the house from him and he started spending all his time drinking and partying it up over there and we began argueing and broke up and then he slept with a chick that is friends with the people over there, then we got back together again and I was hoping things would change. Anyhow, I then bought a house to rent out. I asked him to go home shopping with me but he would rather drink and party. So I bought a house without him to rent out to others. It was like pulling teeth to get him to help me renovate the house, yet he'll do anyting for his rental. He says it's not his so he doesn't care. I guess I figured our dream of buying and renting real estate as a couple was still alive through it all, and all he he wants to do is party w/freinds. Sad. Why? What happened? I feel ditched for his drinking buds.

2007-10-07 09:53:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my fiance have been doing nothing but argue lately because he never wants to spend time with me. He goes to work while I stay home and clean the house and take care of our 10 month old daughter. When he comes home all I want to do is cuddle and spend time with him. But he'd much rather sit and play video games, and by the time he's ready to spend time with me its midnight and I'm getting ready to go to bed. I've been putting up with this for 2 1/2 years now and am fed up. No matter how many times and how many different ways I talk to him about it, he doesn't seem to understand. He thinks that even though he's playing video games as long as we're in the same room, its considered spending time together. I'm on the verge of walking out on him because I'm sick of being deprived of attention and affection and being ignored constantly. But I love and do want to be with him. Please help, what should I do?

2007-10-07 09:51:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary in Feb 08. I am thinking of having a "redo wedding" or "renew our vows". When we got married I was 4 months pregnant so we did not get to enjoy our reception as we should have. Everything was done quick because I had morning sickness so bad. I want another chance.

2007-10-07 09:50:47 · 18 answers · asked by Kim L 1 in Weddings

Tomorrow is saturday

2007-10-07 09:49:04 · 5 answers · asked by thiny72 6 in Singles & Dating