What do you do when you realize the one thing, that one hope and dream that you've held on to through the depths of hell and back, is not real and unattainable? When you finally get it, you know the truth for yourself, and your broken. How do you go on? How do you convince yourself that life is still worth living? I've never felt so ravaged in my whole life as I do now, and I have know idea how to cope. Anybody out there, please, I need some advice.
2007-10-07 10:02:04 · 23 answers · asked by Lisa C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just always remember that life is what you make it. The beautiuful thing about dreams is that if one doesn't work out it's probably for the best. It sounds cliche, I know. And you'll also hear that time will heal, and on the whole it's all true, but there's no one magic answer that will make you feel any better right now. Perhaps you should just feel slightly relieved that you have a new perspective and a realization of what is truly realistic.
2007-10-07 10:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by benvanzile 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All you can do in this life is try. I'm sorry for whatever it is that has happened, or not happened for you. It can be hard to accept but sometimes these things happen for a reason. Sometimes I think that if there are too many obstacles in the way then someone up there dosen't want you to do it. And theres a saying ' be careful what you wish for, it might come true' Implying that what you so desperately wanted isn't what you expected it to be, based on a fantasy in your head of what something is like rather than the true facts. Life is worth living because there are so many things that you are able to do, if you are healthy then it's a blessing. Once again I'm sorry you are having a hard time dealing with your issue and I hope what I have said has helped you at least a little. Stay strong x
2007-10-07 10:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to advise you without knowing what you found is not real but I will try. If you are depressed, try to talk to a counselor and get help that way. if you are talking about a relationship, the goal may be obtainable but not with the person you thought that you could attain that with.
for that matter, any goal you found to be unattainable, may be obtainable in a manner you had not thought of or the fact that you found it unattainable means that you will find a better goal, one that will give you more happiness, having set the unattainable aside. I hope that I have been able to help you with this answer.
2007-10-07 10:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you are talking about a dream as to an accomplishment or job...and not a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Talk to anyone...and you will find most people have given up some sort of dream. They wanted to be an astronaut, an actress, a doctor, a professional athlete, etc...and it didn't work out. I can speak from experience. I wanted to be a Broadway musical star. The secret is to find a way to keep at least a bit of your dream alive in what you do. I didn't make it to Broadway...but I work in radio, so I kept myself in entertainment. And I can do local theater.
Other examples...someone wants to be a pro-athlete...but becomes a sports trainer or physical therapist instead.
Someone wants to be an actress...but gets involved behind the scenes in movies or theater instead.
Someone wants to be a doctor...but becomes a nurse instead.
Get the idea?
Don't despair. Life is full of missed goals and dashed expectations. Count your blessings and really focus on the things that are good in your life.
2007-10-07 10:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get a new dream. Everyone goes through hard times.
How do you know life is worth living?
Ok you really need to give your head a shake. Your thought process is all messed up. And you need to find clarity.
Pick yourself up off your chair right now. Go run around the block three times. Have a big glass of some really good fresh orange juice.
When you get back write down 5 attainable goals.
Then on the next page write down how you will try to attain them. Be detailed. Set timelines. Use something to measure your progress.
Then say a prayer. Do you know what God's name is?
Pslams 83:18 says, "That people may know that you whose name is Jehovah. You alone are the Most HIgh over all the earth."
Pray to Jehovah for strength to get through your problems.
Psalms 55:22 says, "Throw your burden upon Jehovah himself. And he himself will sustain you. Never will he allow the righteous one to totter."
What does it mean to throw a burden? It means to take everything that is bothering you and weighing you down and toss it away from you onto God. He will carry it for you. And you will feel light and less anxious.
Trust me! I have been through many terrible things in my life. And this is the only answer that works.
2007-10-07 10:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Esperenza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess, you put your whole body and soul into someone else that ended up being a real knucklehead. Close? Looking back without the fog of heartbreak did you not see issues back then that you chose to glaze over in pursuit of your dream? You are still your sweet self, that hasn't changed. He is the problem not you. It was only one dream...your life will have many. Some will turn out others wont. You go on but with your experience you will be wiser and will not so easily let you dreams be stolen.
2007-10-07 10:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by M C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear of your situation---- however, for me, the answer is my relationship with God. With Him on my side, even though I still get down, I have the hope that everything can turn around for the better in 24 hours. God has dreams that He has created only for you since the day you were born, and while they may not be the dreams you had for yourself, He knows what is best for us, and if we will only surrender to His will, He will show us the way. Please hang in there and pray to Him--- He hears every word. There is no hope without the Lord.
2007-10-07 10:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Joy L 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are getting close to becoming an adult. Welcome to adulthood. How do you move on? Just look at the alternative.
If you need some help at finding what I mean by the alternative, read some questions about bad marriages on the marriage/divorce section in Yahoo answers.
You will find that you will get into trouble if you start making adult decisions with childish wisdom.
Don't worry about life. You are doing fine. We all make mistakes.
Good luck.
2007-10-07 10:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hope I'm wrong but it sounds like some guy has dumped you. You had dreams of being married, children you know the whole nine yards and now he's screwed it up and you are heartbroken. Am I close?
If I am honey he ain't worth losing your marbles over.
2007-10-07 10:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is for sure life is full of ups and downs they are
not constant. Step back and take a look at all of the positives
in your life. Be thankful for what you have,things will get better.
Change is good even though it may not seem that way.
2007-10-07 10:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋