ok so i was with this guy for about 2 in a half months and he cheated on me.. with some girl at his school, and it was so obvious on myspace i was like oh my god how could you.. so i bust him out on the phone lastnight and he wrote me on myspace says he sorry and wat not and he didn't mean for it to happen like that,plus we just met and he was tellin me how pretty i was and stuff and i was finna be real with him... this is the 3rd time a guy has left me for another girl.. i think im done with relationships, tired of getting hurt. but for some reason i forgive him but that srry isn't enough i guess im just dissappointed.plus he was like can we be friends? what should i do
thanks
2007-10-07 09:55:55 · 25 answers · asked by M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive been there soo many guys have hurt me its so hard to trust them but if you take your focus off of guys for awile that special perfect guy your ment to be with fo the rest of your life will come. you'll just know it
when you look at him the feeling you get when you look in his eyes
you'll find him and if this guy that cheated on you dosnt make you feel like that than he's not the one
i cant tell you not to be sad or not to cry because when i was there i did but just try being a few guys friends for awile the trust will come back
lilly
2007-10-07 10:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by catluvr331 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all give him space, especially if you live anywhere near him. then go out there and have other guys that you date occassionally,...it'll help you take your mind off him. tell him you can be friends, and then never call him, see him, and become very busy and unavailable. it will make it seem like you're not stressed, not mad and have moved on. his attraction will grow, but don't you ever give him a chance again, becuase he will play you for playing him!!
don't be done with relationships, pospone having serious relationships until later on in your life, because you sound young!! date, get to know different personalities, so that when you are ready, these things won't be new to you and you can have your personal life in order. worry about creating a business, money, school, helping others, volunteering, and living your life honey!!
good luck
2007-10-07 17:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been dating for two and a half months? (notice I said dating because in my POV, yall wasn't boyfriend/girlfriend) Y'all really didn't know each other that well to begin with, so there's no way to gauge how you two really felt about each other. Yall didn't see each other long enough.
The next time you meet a guy and go out, don't think about making him your boyfriend and vice versa until yall have been on many a date., You got to get to know the guy before you even begin to think about whether he is boyfriend material.
2007-10-07 17:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by brotherb95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know your trust is broken with him, but try to work it out and at least be friends. Let him know that he'll have to build your trust back up. Don't give up yet. The right guy will come along. Like Rascal Flatts say "God bless the broken road that led me straight to you" All these heartbreaks will lead you to the right guy.
2007-10-07 17:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by chasincansonclyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships come and go. You make the standards of what is acceptable and unacceptable and find someone to fill that role accordingly. Never settle for anything less, settling is a short term solution to a long term issue.
2007-10-07 16:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of decent men out there. You dont need to hang out with jerks like that. Don't give up on finding that special someone. Everybody deserves a soulmate.
2007-10-07 17:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Angela W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with him face-to-face. You say that you forgive him, but feel like sorry isn't enough. It's not. So he needs to show you that he means it. Talk it out with him, that's the only way you'll know for sure. It might be awkward, but it's worth it.
2007-10-07 17:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ew dump him and leave him. do u WANT to be friends with a guy who acts like that? what a jerk. does he HAVE morals? and i think u shouldnt give up on guys and relationships, just look for the right kind of guy, someone who's nice, and dont date them if u dont know them very well! get to know a guy so u know he wont cheat on u.
2007-10-07 17:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow , im sorry to hear that but that is like the film (john tucker must die) , dont get mad get even ! and when u see that cheater next , hold youre head high and show him what hes missing out on , a.k.a get flirty with his mates and DONT feel guilty about it if he gives you a puppy dog look . ;)
2007-10-07 17:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if he just wants to be friends is ok the question is do u ant to be friends with him or more than just friends if more than friends than it wouldnt be good if yall became friends and as far as guys cheating on u it happens to every girl more than just three times so u mines well get used to it and use wat u learned as a blessing and u will be good
2007-10-07 17:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by mara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋