Family & Relationships - 2 October 2007

well me and my boy friend have been going out for about 3months now and we said that we were going to take it slow so thats why it was so long and well when it happened it was not all that great but i dont want to break up with him because of that and iam not but what do i say

2007-10-02 12:39:42 · 10 answers · asked by lilnikechick 1 in Singles & Dating

I had an affair with a married man few years ago. He ended up to divorce his ex and to be with me. I refused him at the beginning. It was hard because I was in love with him. Recently, I saw there were text msgs/email from his ex on the phone bill, I was hearbroke because we are talking about future together soon and they have done it all the time when he was with me. Now, I know I was wrong to date a married man at the first place when he told me that it was a mistake to marry his ex. He is the only guy I have dated since I divorces years ago. Why the ex won't let go? Or, there are things I could not see the whole picture? Please adv.

2007-10-02 12:39:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

In the relationship/family section why do they have marriage and divorce together?
I think it needs to be separate. You don't know if you should be happy or sad going to that section.

What do you think?

2007-10-02 12:39:38 · 7 answers · asked by Karma Eve 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Well I kinda like this guy and stuff
And I try to talk to him as much as possible the last time i talked to him We were comming home from band cometiton and I let him see my ipod and he was like all blushie and then When he reached to give it back to me I almost grabbed his hand
Should I just flirt with him or something Till he gets the hint i wanna go out.?

I hope that made sence I was kinda day dreaming hah

2007-10-02 12:26:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband has recently begun to have occasional problems being able to complete the act of lovemaking successfully, but it doesn’t appear to have interfered with his ability to – or interest in - satisfying himself successfully. How do I know? Because I have awakened several times recently to his masturbating while he is lying right next to me in bed, while he thinks I’m asleep. He knows I’m more than ready and willing. Why does he prefer his own hand to my warm body? He doesn’t want to talk about this, but I’m so frustrated and feel so rejected. Why can’t I stop crying?

2007-10-02 12:24:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If u like someone so much, should they be forgiven for lieing about their past?.. even though they have admitted it after spliting up.
He told me tonight he only never told me because it was degrading and plus he never wanted to hurt me or loose me?.. but lieing to me did hurt me and he did loose me, because if i cant trust someone i cant be with them. what do u guys think? wat could be the story behind his pass that it is so bad to tell me about :|?

we are both in our 20's

2007-10-02 12:24:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

If they always come to you and ask you for help or answers. Asks you what the homework is every day on the phone. Doesn't really start a conversation with you. Always tries to make you laugh. Is nice. Sometimes leaves you for other friends or leaves you to go flirt with girls. Is the completely opposite of you. Always think that their jokes are good and yours aren't. Sometimes complains to you about the bad things about you. Tries to cheer you up when your sad. Helps you in the rare times that he can. Always brags to you about how he is better than you. Sometimes seems to not care about what you say.

I know there are good and bad qualities to this kind of friend. But I don't know if he would be a real friend or not. Is he a real friend. Do you think he uses me. Should I not be his friend.

2007-10-02 12:23:42 · 6 answers · asked by Sora F 1 in Friends

My bf of a 1.5 years doesn't want more kids. He has 1 - previous marriage. When we 1st started dating he said he would have 1 more. Then suddenly he broke up w/ me last April saying that 1 day I would want kids & he would not. (Note that I didn't bring it up.) After 6 weeks we got back together, our issues were unresolved. He says now that he knows we still have issues to work out. Also, that it is my choice to stay knowing what he wants & on the flip side I feel the same way. 1 of us would have to give in 1 day. He says that he definitely does not want another child but then at times he says that deep down he knows that he would be depriving me of something. So what gives & what is going through his head? He talks about getting married & buying a house knowing that this issue is there. I am nowhere near ready to have a child, I love him to death & can't imagine life without him. I think deep down I would choose him over the unknown I just want to know that I am doing the right thing.

2007-10-02 12:22:20 · 7 answers · asked by rayneyblu 2 in Marriage & Divorce

do other people out there do or say things sometimes that they later think about and think to themselves what a f..IDIOT i was for having done or said what i said or did?

2007-10-02 12:21:10 · 28 answers · asked by dazedandconf 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm a 42 yr old divorced man with 3 girls, 18, 14 and 13. I have been in a relationship for a few months with a girl who is 26 yrs old and has no children. Things are going great and we both love each other and she thinks the world of the girls as they do her. Today she said to me " If one of your kids hit me and I hit them back what would your reaction be"? I stated that while we were in a relationship and she had contact with the girls that I did'nt have a problem with her disciplining them if there was a need to. I also said that I don't think I would be to happy and that I would'nt even hit my own kids. She then said that she would hit them and that I insinuated to her " you don't lay a finger on my kids". How would you react to this and would you allow it?

2007-10-02 12:21:04 · 20 answers · asked by Marksd2 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have been with my fiance for 5 years, he is a gentle romantic person who i have never had a trust issue with. A friend from school came to town and they went to the clubs, his "friend" spiked his drink and my fiance was already very drunk. This friend was also to be the best man in our wedding! The friend drove my fiance to another girls house and they came close to having sex. My fiance hates himself and i dont think he will ever forgive himself... he wants to go to counselling and everything. I know the type of person he really is but i am hurting... is it ok to give him a second chance.
Ps Other mutual friends said that on the night he was heavily influenced by the so called friend and they believe he didnt know what he was doing. His family is scared he will do something to himself because he is so disgusted in himself

2007-10-02 12:20:12 · 6 answers · asked by Emmie L 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have cancer. My oncologist has told me it is terminal. In the short term it is treatable, but I am expected to be worm food within 2-3 years with intensive chemo, 6 months without.

I want to discuss this with my family, but they refuse. "It's too early to talk about that sort of thing" - "You'll get better, they are coming up with new treatments all the time" etc.

I know it is hard on them, but I really want to be able to explain why I would rather spend the next 6 months living than the next 2 years dying. I would like to discuss my funeral arrangements.

Most important of all, I would like to discuss how they will care for my daughter after I am gone.

I don't even know if the reason they won't talk is because it is hard for them, or if they are trying to "protect" me.

How the hell do I get them to talk to me instead of effectively telling me to shut my gob. They won't even use the word 'cancer' for **** sake, its always 'the spleen' or 'the illness'.

2007-10-02 12:17:25 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

He is nice guy, cares for other people, cares alot for me..
but when we have really bad arguments he hits me not in a way that could kill me but he still hits me punches me in my arm or pushes me or grabs me real ugly.. and things like that...
and when i start crying he asks for forgiveness and says he loves me that he is sorry.. i leave him for a couple of days
but always end up back with him.. iam scared of getting married to someone who hits me .. i feel like my life is miserable... i try to get away from him but i can't he follows me everywhere he waits for me outside when i get out of school or work, til i talk to him... i want him to get some help because i really love him and i know he has a problem.... but i want to help him out...but i know i wont get married to him till i know he is safe to be with

2007-10-02 12:16:08 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Why do only women get engagement rings? I was chatting to a friend and this came up , why is this?

2007-10-02 12:13:33 · 29 answers · asked by Peter 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Back in 2003 my grandfather died and left me a hefty amount of money. Anyways, i was still in high school, but I was 18 which was enough for me to get the money. I did not have a bank account at the time, so my mom said she'd put it in the bank. Anyways I graduated and when I asked her for the money so I can start paying for school, she said that she spent it ALL. Am I in trouble for willingly giving it to her? My younger sister got all of her money when she turned 18, and she spent it all on drugs, not school or anything productive, so that really pissed me off. Lately she has been telling me to just forget it because I will not be getting it anytime soon. She was a single mom when I was growing up, so she makes me feel bad for her having to care for us, so she feels that was a good amout of money to pay her back. I'm pretty pissed still at her...but I guess I was just wondering what I can do. I'd feel bad if I sued her, but I don't know....anyways any comments will help thanks

2007-10-02 12:11:50 · 10 answers · asked by Shanna56 1 in Family

Okay ladies, I'm not trying to offend anyone here but what is the big deal about getting married before you get pregnant? Don't get me wrong- my boyfriend and I have been together almost 5 years and we defiantly plan on getting married.. but wouldn't care if we got pregnant first. I understand the religious aspect of it... I am fairly religious (I believe in God, but don't follow the bible) but what about those of us who aren't? What about couples who do not believe that marriage is necessary if they're union is already strong enough? Seriously, in this day and age with divorce rates SO high... I just feel like bashing someone for having a baby out of wedlock is... pointless. If you love each other does it REALLY matter?

I'm just aggravated- I went to the docs today for a follow up from my miscarriage and when the doctor gave me a weird look after I told her we'd be trying to have a baby in the next couple months after she asked if I was married and I said no... I wanted to punch her

2007-10-02 12:11:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My abusive & money hungry mother is telling my 17 yr old sister than when she turns 18 she HAS to stay home and continue to work and pay $150 rent every month

Isnt it true that once youre 18 youre free to go? We live in Pennsylvania (Can she leave NOW?) She wants to come live with me (I'm her 22 yr old sister) to finish highschool near me.

2007-10-02 12:10:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-10-02 12:05:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So today, on all Tuesdays at school, Smoothie King has someone come to my school and sells smoothies for 2.50, which me and my friends usually get.
Okay so today, I had a 20, and I knew my friend wanted a smoothie and knew she also didn't have any money.
And i was thinking, i have a 20 and since this smoothie's only 2.50, I dont really want to spend just 2.50 and have a bunch left over.
So I bought one for my friend, then for another, and for another friend.
So I bought a total of 4 smoothies for $10.
Which I don't really care, it's my money, and I probably won't do anything else with it.
And I seem to end up telling my mom everything that happens at school, and she says to stop spending my money on that.
Could this be a problem that I have for WANTING to do something for my friends?

2007-10-02 12:01:03 · 4 answers · asked by Michelle 3 in Friends

there is this guy who has flirted with me since the first day of school...like pputting his arm around me and calling me his girlfriend jokingly trying to play it off...but what if he isnt...now that homecoming is coming real soon i got someone to ask for me but before than someone had asked him if he was going with me and he said no to that person and they were like well you are stuck up her *** alot and now he wont talk to me and it breaks my heart because i really like him...and did i mension that my mom hates him!!!...but thats another story

2007-10-02 11:57:44 · 7 answers · asked by cb_boo_bear 1 in Singles & Dating

I Kissed a friend of mine and now i want to apologies to her, cos i think i may have made things awkward. I didn't do anything wrong, but wanna check i didn;t upset her!!

Hey
I hope ur doing well? Hopefully we can meet up at some point in the not to distant future, if u ever fancy a visit, u always have a place to stay, lol!!
Er, the reason I wrote this, and what I am putting off saying is something I need to say, cos its been bugging me loads, but is kinda embrassesing for me to say.
I know you prob have not thought twice about it, cos it prob aint a big deal, but I have been really bothered by it, I just wanna appologies for what happened at the weekend, I feel real bad.
I have been really worried that I upset, or annoyed you, and that’s the last thing I’d wanna do. I know we aint known each other long, but I really value our friendship and hope that we can stay in contact!! ‘Cos u rock!!
I hope this email doesn’t make things worse or annoy u further. Hope we are OK!

2007-10-02 11:57:27 · 8 answers · asked by Xavier W 1 in Friends

Boys... What do u do to show a girl u like her?

2007-10-02 11:57:12 · 2 answers · asked by Simmy 3 in Singles & Dating

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2007-10-02 11:56:54 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

have one of my own ( 11) and he has none. I married under the pretense that eventually, before im 32 to have a child and maybe adopt another if possible. He knew this! Just last yr i begin to notice that it didnt look like it was going to happen, so i came to him, we talked about it and i strongly told him that i would not have gotten married to some 1 who didnt intend on having ne kids, he replied that we will work on it. So time passes and nothing.He then says he'd rather adopt and not have a baby.So im thinking is there something wrong? He's 35!! The subj. has now become a tochy one when it should not be. So i ve excepted that i may not be having a child by this man and let god handle it but i strongly feel that he may not understand the commitment w\ adoption. So say he's sperm healthy- and doesnt want a kid 4 whatevr reasons, Im thinking about leaving him, becuzz i feel deceived i mean we could have just stayed lovers! What u think ladies? & Guys, whats the deal w\ this man?

2007-10-02 11:54:47 · 11 answers · asked by beachie909 1 in Marriage & Divorce

over the weekend i told my sisters boyfriend that she was holding hands with another guy, and she was, but now since she found out, shes not talking to me! She hasnt said one word since yesterday morning. What do i do?? I feel really bad, were like best friends!!! PLEASE HELP

2007-10-02 11:52:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

The song says this...

" Hello Grampa my old friend,
Your busy day is at an end...

Your exploits have been sad and boring,
They tell a tale that's worth ignoring...

When you're alone the words of your story Will echo down the rest home hall...

'Cause no one at all...
Can stand the sound of Grampa. "


That is what the song says,,,,what do you think?

2007-10-02 11:52:19 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

P.S. regardless of how my Avatar may look I am a male.

2007-10-02 11:52:18 · 33 answers · asked by ? 3 in Singles & Dating

ok so i met this guy at work i had a bf at the time but i broke up with him recently. we started out as friends he didnt seem like the player type at all everyone thinks he is the nicest guy in the world. so i thought we both wer einto each other but i guess i was more so than him. he would make mefeel so good about msyelf he would call me sweet nicknames like his littl eprincess and he called me all the time saying he missed me, he said he didnt want a relationshpi bc of family issues but then when i said i was breaking up with my bf he said he was happy. then all of a sudden he strated acting different like every other week towards me. one week he owuld be all sweet calling me sweet names and texting me and then the next he would go smoke wihtout me and not say goodbye when he left for the night. then i aske dhim if he wanted to go out one night and he said he was staying in and i found out he went out with friends but he texted me saying he missed me. i dont get it

2007-10-02 11:50:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well my i got angry at my friend becuase he tried to beat me up then he wanted to fight me again and was all talking things behind my back so i finally did come becuase he said things about my family so we fought and he left then his mom called my mom becuase he told her like a little dumbass and i was listening on the other phone to see what they were saying and his mom was all like that i wanted to fight him and he didnt want to fight and that i punched him first and all that but thats not even how it happend and my mom punished me so what do i do

2007-10-02 11:50:27 · 3 answers · asked by helololo 1 in Friends

are there opportunities for us men to hook up with these ladies

2007-10-02 11:48:36 · 2 answers · asked by Madmen22 1 in Singles & Dating