I had an affair with a married man few years ago. He ended up to divorce his ex and to be with me. I refused him at the beginning. It was hard because I was in love with him. Recently, I saw there were text msgs/email from his ex on the phone bill, I was hearbroke because we are talking about future together soon and they have done it all the time when he was with me. Now, I know I was wrong to date a married man at the first place when he told me that it was a mistake to marry his ex. He is the only guy I have dated since I divorces years ago. Why the ex won't let go? Or, there are things I could not see the whole picture? Please adv.
2007-10-02 12:39:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sister you flirt with disaster it doesnt leave, you date a married man you date his wife you date his children, invite them to dinner sister cause you are in the middle.
2007-10-02 12:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by LV 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You DID NOT respect another woman's territory... Why in the hell would YOU expect that same woman to respect YOURS!
Treat people like you want to be treated. Have standards,
values, and self-control.
You asked why his ex won't let go ... Maybe because she
wants (what she feels) was hers in the first place! Maybe
because she wants to get "even" with YOU. Only she can
answer THAT question. And do you think that YOU really
have the right to know.
Where you are now ... is part of the consequence of getting
involved with a married man. It does NOT end happily ever
after! And why should it??? Trust and commitment have been broken.
I advise you to stop acting as if you are totally innocent in
ALL of this. Take responsibility for YOUR actions. AND also
accept the FACT that something is obviously still going on
with HIM and the EX!
2007-10-02 20:07:58 · answer #2 · answered by kjh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, but you know that what goes around comes around. You were already divorced and you never stop to think what caused you to split with him. Maybe it wasn't another woman, but how would you have felt if your hubby had left you for for a woman that he was having an affair with.
Maybe she won't go away because his leaving the way he did not give closure to their relationship.
The Bible says you should treat people the way you want to be treated. .So you made your bed so lay in it. you are going to have to deal with his ex now, just pray that you can still hold his interests and that he is not sleeping with his ex on you.
2007-10-02 23:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by LovelyChoc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably are not seeing the whole picture. When men cheat they say things like that. She doesn't like sex, I didn't want to marry her, she has changed and various other things. They tell you whatever it is that they need to tell you to get their way. Men who cheat on their wives with you will also cheat on you as soon as something better comes along. The ex might not be letting go because he still might be in contact with her or sleeping with her. I would bet money on it. I would get rid of him. You can do it. You deserve better than this. This man is trouble and will cheat on you also.
2007-10-02 23:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound heartless, but you are reaping the consequences of your actions. Too often women like you plead for advice at the beginning of situations like yours, and then embrace the fluffy "follow your heart" and "If you love each other" kind of advice to their demise. Now you know firsthand the destruction, the pain and the foolishness of the path you've chosen. Hopefully you'll be able to deter someone who may be considering a similar path. Good luck to you.
2007-10-02 19:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by mt75689 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had affair with a married man and now you re great it welcome to the club of heartache and pain, he divorce his wife to be with you and he still getting message from his wife on the phone bill. you got divoice also this is something going on here that cant be seen with a nake eye. perhaps he still has feelings for her and she has feelings for him also. Caught up in love affair. I am not going to tell you what to do in your heart you have the right answer. Deal with it.
best of luck
2007-10-02 19:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he really got bored with you fast. He's not even close to being married to you and already he bored, so bored, he prefers the ex wife. That's pathetic. You know, his ex wife wouldn't be emailing and texting him UNLESS he was encouraging it. What else do you need to know.
2007-10-03 00:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be kidding , you wrecked a marriage and now your upset that his wife wont let go of him as easily as you think she should? go to therapy and find out why your self esteem was so low you allowed yourself to even start this situation.
As for the cheater b/f , he lied to you about everything concerning her havent you figured that out yet? she isnt really as bad as he claimed and he was probably having sexual intercourse with her the whole time he was doing you anyways because thats what cheaters do , deal with it.
2007-10-02 20:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they will always tell u it was a mistake that they married their ex, and now he is probroly telling her it was a mistake that he left her. how about her future she once had? its all in his character and as soon as the honeymoon stage ends so does his love. when u help to destroy someones marriage it will always come back to u in some form. u always reap what u sow. u took him from her and now she is just paying u back.
2007-10-02 19:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We all have been in your position, but you should have drew the line on him because he is married. If he did it to her how are you any different then her. Now they are writing each other emails they have unfinished business. Its your life and you know how much you can take. **** Luck
2007-10-02 22:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by caress 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋