Back in 2003 my grandfather died and left me a hefty amount of money. Anyways, i was still in high school, but I was 18 which was enough for me to get the money. I did not have a bank account at the time, so my mom said she'd put it in the bank. Anyways I graduated and when I asked her for the money so I can start paying for school, she said that she spent it ALL. Am I in trouble for willingly giving it to her? My younger sister got all of her money when she turned 18, and she spent it all on drugs, not school or anything productive, so that really pissed me off. Lately she has been telling me to just forget it because I will not be getting it anytime soon. She was a single mom when I was growing up, so she makes me feel bad for her having to care for us, so she feels that was a good amout of money to pay her back. I'm pretty pissed still at her...but I guess I was just wondering what I can do. I'd feel bad if I sued her, but I don't know....anyways any comments will help thanks
2007-10-02 12:11:50 · 10 answers · asked by Shanna56 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Find an attorney and see what he/she says. I've seen something like this on TV and the mother was ordered to pay the money back. Did you get anything in writing stating that she would give you the money once you turned 18?
2007-10-02 12:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a substantial amount of money that will affect your future and your relationship with your mother is expendable then ask the question to an attorney to find out if it is even possible to get your money. If your mother doesn't have the money then the only thing the court could make her do would be to sell assets (her house, her car, etc) to pay you. It is hard to get money from someone who doesn't have it.
It was a terrible thing for your mother to do, she should have put the money in a savings account that she couldn't touch without your signature but that is water under the bridge. There are several places online where you can get free legal advice so do some searches. Find out what is possible and then make the tough decision about whether or not the amount of money is worth losing your relationship with your mother, which I'm afraid you will surely do.
2007-10-02 19:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it is:
1. Find an attorney who will give the first visit free and discuss the issue of getting the money back. Also, ask him up front what his cut will be. If it is too high negotiate or find a different lawyer.
2. Go to the police and report the stolen money. Bring a copy if you can get one of your Grandfather's will.
3. Go to the FBI, this may be a federal case of interstate fraud if the bank the money was in has branches in other states.
4. Know that the moment you start this action, you can kiss your mother goodbye. She will never talk to you again.
Best of Luck, I hope you win.
2007-10-02 19:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, I'm not up with the law in your country however, you as a minor handed this money to your mother - that means she was the one responsible for doing the right thing in the situation and she hasn't. I know how hard it is to be a single mother but that doesn't mean you expect your children to grow up and pay you back for it. Being a parent has nothing to do with that. You should not feel bad she had to care for you, that was her choice. Just because she's your mother also doesn't mean she should get away with this kind of fraud when she was in a position of trust. See a lawyer.
2007-10-02 19:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to decide which is more important to you, family or money, because she's not going to turn it over to you willingly.
You do not have to feel guilty about her being a single mom, so don't let her tell you that you owe her for raising you.
2007-10-02 19:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If shes verbally abusive and negative sue her if you need the money to survive. She will never be happy anyways. You can sue her for mental damages too. My parents have money and they will never be happy. They have not been happy their whole lives. Ive been calling -attorneys takes a while.
2007-10-02 19:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by theroadwetake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have something in writing stating that you are giving her the money to put into an account for you, I think you are out of luck.
Don't be so trusting in the future. Get any agreements in writing --even with your family.
2007-10-02 19:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is illeagle go to the police to get back the money.Thet is stolen money
2007-10-02 19:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by hollister cutie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thats very wrong of ur mother...but if she doesnt pay u back then i guess there really isnt anything u can do. Now u kno not to rely on her for $$
2007-10-02 19:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lils 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you want to do?
2007-10-02 19:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by Contorted Brains 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋