Family & Relationships - 18 September 2007

The man who I love and have been living with for almost a year now asked me if I see us being married someday. We are both divorced and in the past when the marriage subject came up he has said he wasn't sure he would want to do the marriage thing again and that he didn't feel he needed a piece of paper to be committed to someone. Because of his past comments I'm not sure how to interpret his question of whether I see us being married someday. My question to the guys is...what makes a man ask that question and what info is he hoping to get from my answer?

2007-09-18 06:40:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-18 06:37:57 · 2 answers · asked by oneakmusic 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

So, we been together for like 4 months. He's great with my kids. I love him. I have always had trust issues & so that plays a factor too. We broke up. He made a small situation & blew it up into something as major. It isn't the first time he has broken up with me over something really small. But like last time in a day we were back together. This time it could've been like that again but I chose not to let him off that easily. I'm possibly pregnant. I'm so confused. I love him so much but when I think about it I really think in the long run he'll cause me more grief than happiness. But I have been alone for so long & I have a longing to be with him. Am I settling for him? I don't feel that way all of the time, but it's something that I do think about. I can't get him out of my mind. He calls & says he wants us to work, he even got his best friend to tell me this to, but I am still at a fork in the road. Then what about the possibility of the baby? PLEASE HELP!!! Any advice will help!!!

2007-09-18 06:37:24 · 1 answers · asked by tennchic01 1 in Singles & Dating

Seriously it seems that at least 3/4 of the people on here are anti-sex. Every time a sex question comes up most people say it's wrong outside of marriage or you shouldn't before you're at least 18. I don't know anyone in my personal life who feels that way except for my parents. Is Yahoo Answers being overrun with Puritans? Do you people all run around in black hats with buckles? I just don't get it. I'm 15 years old and I have a healthier view of sex than most people on here. Sex is enjoyable and there's nothing wrong with it. Also everyone always mentions STD's and pregnancy right away. Have you people heard of condoms? You can have sex safely if you use your brain. Am I the only one who's really irritated with these answers?

2007-09-18 06:36:48 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Not just do romantic things to make your partner happy, but men who actually crave romance as well? If so, tell me what your partner can do for you or with you that you consider romantic.

2007-09-18 06:32:12 · 18 answers · asked by meagain 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I came home early and saw them having sex in my bedroom. Rather then confront them, I left and they did not see me or know I was there. This happened 2 days ago, and since then I have been trying to hide large sums of money in a hidden account in another country, under a false name. I plan to make a lrgwe withdrawal tomorrow and put all of our liquid assets into that secret account, but laundering it through a casino in vegas first.

My question regards concrete assets like the house and cars etc. Is there a way to liquidate them discretely and all at once? I plan to run off with all our money and live in another country.

2007-09-18 06:31:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Am I wrong in thinking this is attractive?

2007-09-18 06:28:27 · 19 answers · asked by Josia 3 in Singles & Dating

I started working for a new employer. Before I was even here 1yr she sat by my spouse at a co-worker wedding AND at the x-mas party. Why? Wouldn't she have her date sit by a man she did not know? She is divorced, her 1st spouse messed around on her. We tried to fix her up with our friend, took some drinks over to her house. She told my spouse to bring them in her house. They were in there alone! She offered him a drink but when I poked my head in she never offered me one! One day the office got to leave early but she stayed late. My spouse was also here doing yard work! Coincidence? I confronted him & asked if he wants her. He said he wants me & is not interested in her. I think I should do everything I can to keep them away from each other. One day he went out for a drink after work & never told me. She was here so I know he was not with her. If he can't tell me that one thing what more is he holding in? Am I stupid jealous???? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-09-18 06:27:47 · 8 answers · asked by luvcrops 3 in Marriage & Divorce

This past weekend, my husband dropped a bomb on me. He told me that 7 yrs ago, right after I had HIS baby, and was expressing insecurities because he and my sister would flirt with each other all the time (by the way, he would tell me that I was crazy and paranoid and he denies the flirting), he and my sister played a game of you show me yours and I'll show you mine. I calmly asked questions because I was trying to process the info and he was getting very impatient with me for asking. I talked to her the next day and I asked her about it and she didn't seem to know what I was talking about (at least that's what she claims). Anyway, WW3 has been started in my house and a lot of things were said and brought up since then. I'm not sure how I'm supposed to feel. He says it wasn't a big deal because he he never touched her (which he keeps saying even though I never suggested that he did). How would you respond to and feel about this situation?

2007-09-18 06:25:05 · 30 answers · asked by Niksmom 2 in Marriage & Divorce

The man has commitments , has a wife, She, no commitments
Though she may seem like a *****, if she knew he was married, Its not her fault that a married man cant be faithful?

So whos to blame the "marriage wrecker" or the "weak" husband

2007-09-18 06:23:32 · 67 answers · asked by ♣Kermit the Frog♣ 4 in Marriage & Divorce

if so, please let me hear ur story... i just don't care about my situation anymore for the next 15-20 minutes!

2007-09-18 06:23:31 · 7 answers · asked by Benny 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

Should I tell her about us?

Its breaking my heart, but he feels it is the best move for his future.

I don't know what to do.

2007-09-18 06:22:49 · 42 answers · asked by Anyone Know? 2 in Weddings

2007-09-18 06:20:24 · 47 answers · asked by senorcookie 2 in Friends

ok..so me and him broke up about a week ago. and we dated for 7 months..i still really like him..but i dont think he cares anymore. he doesnt talk to me anymore and he did say he wanted to be friends. i mean like i dont know what to do. i really do want to be his friend and it would help if he actually cared. i mean like he wont even look at me anymore and my friends tell me that it probably hurts to look at me...and they keep telling me that i need to move on. but i dont want to..i just cant..not yet. its just to soon. but i need help on what to do and how to tell if he honestly wants to be friends still.. i just dont know.

2007-09-18 06:18:58 · 9 answers · asked by help when you need it. 2 in Friends

My gf's ex was currently in the hospital for a non-critical surgery. My gf was chosen to take care of her (ofcourse) She spent almost 2 complete days there as well as running her errands. note: her ex has people who work for her that could drop her mail off at home. Also, some flowers appeared in the house yesterday and nothing was said about them ( I didnt even want to ask), and my gf checks her blackberry in the middle of night as of the last week. Yesterday, I said I felt like something was wrong, and she said I needed to be "secure" for the next week. Not, dont worry or anything like that, but to check myself instead.
Should this be making me angry and insecure, because it is definitely not setting well with me and is giving me tremendous anxiety because I am very sad that she seems to have no care for how I feel, it seems so insensitive; or she just doesnt care because she just wants to please her ex, who is much older. How does someone deal with this? It does not seem healthy.

2007-09-18 06:16:58 · 11 answers · asked by curiousme 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a good friend that tends to pin one friend against the other. She creates a web of lies and deceit while doing it. I don't even know if she's aware of what she's doing, because she completely denies peoples' accusations. To top it off, she accuses other people of lying all the time. I have caught her in many lies myself! And, she has broken up a lot of friendships. It's not until those two people confront one another that the truth is revealed.

We are grown women! How do I deal with this person? Should I warn her? Thanks guys...

2007-09-18 06:16:45 · 21 answers · asked by tiffguam 3 in Friends

and he cheated befor and we worked though it and a month ago i found out he had been still cheating what to do?

2007-09-18 06:16:35 · 35 answers · asked by Stacy J 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-18 06:16:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I feel like an old fashioned loser. My husband loves to look at internet porno. I find it disgusting. Not only does he look at it, he also seems to be getting his satisfaction from it. We haven't had sex in months and he blames that on me. I tried the sexy nighties and the candles and the soft music. I tried reading books and doing the things they said turned a man on. Nothing seems to work. i lost my temper a few nights ago and told him how sick I thought it was becoming. He said all men enjoy porno but I said some actually enjoy the real thing also. We argued. My step daughter overheard the argument and climbed out her bedroom window and went to a friends house. She said the voices told her to do it. My husband told her next time we argue if it upsets her he will tell me to leave. He had already promised the porno and dirty chat rooms would stop but I think he is addicted to it. With my daughter saying she is hearing voices I'm worried. Should I just leave and start over.

2007-09-18 06:14:37 · 8 answers · asked by rose v 3 in Marriage & Divorce

being homeschooled, I have never been on a date or asked out, ect, especially because we moved around so much, i could never really get into anybody at my church. I am almost 16, and there is a guy who I do like, but I do not know if he likes me back. I beleive in hte guy making the first move, but what are some subtle ways of showing him that I'm interested without looking stupid? I've never done this before, please help!

2007-09-18 06:12:49 · 23 answers · asked by sand_illusions 4 in Singles & Dating

im not sayin im 15, but i just wanna know?? i mean some would do that, am i right????

2007-09-18 06:12:41 · 41 answers · asked by jUiCy bABy 1 in Singles & Dating

We hang out with this guy, he follows me home to make sure or talks to me on the phone till i get home safe. He's clearly very interested because of all the things we talk about. He's younger than me and I had a big issue with that before we stared hanging out but now am getting comfortable with it. He texts me sometimes but usually chatty more than flirty. We've kissed twice and he usually breaks it off; really looks at me and tells me to get home safe. Is he even interested? We've seen each other for about 2 wks now.

2007-09-18 06:12:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

the classic advice for breaking up is, "it's not about you, honey" and stress the things she does right, but also the things that, through no one's fault are incompatible and doom the relationship to failure. When I've done the "it's not about you" 4 times in the last year, she sees that as a reason to keep working on it.
The issues?:
-doesn't let me get a word in edgewise
-offers too much unsolicited advice
-has lots of drama in her life
-i'm depressive and she has ADD,
-can only see her own point of view
-i've ended up the handyman for her old house and she starts two projects for every one i finish.
-talks too much about work (we both work for the same company) w/ opinions i don't always agree with.

(I will admit to be overly commited to my adult children, needing lots of time to myself, being an introvrt, very structured and very involved in sports that she doesn't care about.)

So how do i end it?

2007-09-18 06:11:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My brother is serving our country, and has access to email. It is obvious from his emails he wants us to write to him, but I dont know what to say. I dont really want to talk about good things going on here, because he might miss home even more. They cant really talk about what is going on there. I could really use some help. Serious answers only.

2007-09-18 06:11:12 · 8 answers · asked by ham1773 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I feel physically sick when i look in the mirror, i have banned all large mirrors from my bedroom. When i meet a guy who likes me they think me wierd because i never look at them, never give eye contact because i don't want them to see my face up close, i just cant bring myself to let them look at me

2007-09-18 06:09:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Two weeks ago my son's teacher called and said he wasn't doing his homework, after a good old fashioned punishment,(no t.v., no bike, no phone, etc.) he did better (for that class). The very next week his other teacher called and said he wasn't completing assignments, I explained to him that he is an athlete and rule no pass no play. I told him that he wasn't going to play in the upcoming game and for him to explain to his coach why not. Well he talked to the coach and he did not play, he was very hurt and upset but I told him he could only blame himself. I thought by him watching his team play without him would motivate him to do all his work. Well on Monday we got home and he got started on his work with no problem. I thought to myself not letting him play must have worked. Well I didn't because Tuesday morning his teacher called again and said he didn't do his work. I have tried everything I can think of without having to whip his behind. PLEASE PLEASE I need advice.

2007-09-18 06:09:04 · 9 answers · asked by con par 1 in Family

I still talk to my x from time to time actually she calls me like once a week to see how i am doing. she found out that i was going on vacation, and requested for me to get her a wine that this place only offers. so i did. when i got back which was 2 weeks ago she knew when i was returning she calls me 5 days later to say hello and when she did i told her i got her the bottle of wine she requested. she ask me to bring it to her i said no that she will need to come and get it. she said maybe friday and i told ok maybe so let me know then she told me she will let me know this was last friday and havent heard from her i feel like just giving the bottle to someone
what do u think or suggest i should do?
any ideas or suggest?

help me understand why would she ask me to get her something and now pretend or act like she doesnt want or in other words giving me the impression

thanks

2007-09-18 06:06:49 · 25 answers · asked by simple J 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I are going to file a chapter 7. I guess we are border line on our income. We have the option to surrender our house and let it go into foreclosure or we can reaffirm it and stay in it.

Here is some backround - our current home is mortgaged for approx. $255,000. The current value of our home is $217,000. We got the second mortgage to pay off some other debt a while ago, (mostly credit cards). We pay $2000 per month for our First (including taxes & insurance and escrow shortage payback) and our second. We have a 3500 total sq foot home with 4 bedrooms, full basement, 2.5 bath, large kitchen and 'bonus' room that we use as a play room. Our back yard is almost unusable because of the slope. We live on a cul-de-sac.

The house that we would be moving to would be $1000 per month cheaper. It is 3 bedroom, 2 bath. It has a large privacy fenced in yard with an above ground pool and 2 tier deck. It need some work here and there, mostly cosmetic.

2007-09-18 06:06:14 · 10 answers · asked by sahmcclure 2 in Family

I tend to worry about my husband a whole lot. Even though I trust him, I wonder what kind of influence other people can be on him. Afterall, I know that he is easily influenced. I worry that he can't stick to his guns when he should. Not only is he a husband, but a father. He is away on work and they stopped over in VA Beach for a couple of days. I couldn't get hold of him until after midnight last night. The other two men with him, one is newly married and one is single. I feel like they may have hit up a strip bar or something last night, which is totally off limits in our marriage. He knows this, but when two others want to go, what do you do? He would go along and blame them. So anyways, I asked what he did last night, and jokingly threw in "a strip bar?" and he changed the subject after saying no. It's not like he would tell me yes, they did. Now I am left to wonder if he did. So he is going to be away for 4 months now and I just feel uneasy about it.

2007-09-18 06:05:18 · 10 answers · asked by Jamie 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Mike and I had a party to introduce our bridal party to each other, our best friends, Mike’s sister, brother-in-law, niece and nephew. Our parents were also there.

Abby our 4 year-old flower girl was an absolute hellion. Neither parents nor grandparents did a thing to make her behave. She threw several tantrums. She wanted a cupcake for dessert and when her mother said not yet, Abby hit her several times and her mother did nothing! Mike’s dad said that’s not nice, and she hit him! Her behavior is worse each time we see them. Everyone insists that she’ll be an angel for the wedding, that at five she’ll behave much better. But she’s always like this and no one does anything to discipline her.

Because of her horrid behavior, I want Abby out of the wedding. Mike doesn’t want sis dropping out of the wedding and is afraid his family’s feelings will be hurt. I said that mine will be hurt a lot more if she ruins our wedding day.

Am I wrong here? I need some good advice!

2007-09-18 06:04:09 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings