Why are so many people on here against sex?

Question

Seriously it seems that at least 3/4 of the people on here are anti-sex. Every time a sex question comes up most people say it's wrong outside of marriage or you shouldn't before you're at least 18. I don't know anyone in my personal life who feels that way except for my parents. Is Yahoo Answers being overrun with Puritans? Do you people all run around in black hats with buckles? I just don't get it. I'm 15 years old and I have a healthier view of sex than most people on here. Sex is enjoyable and there's nothing wrong with it. Also everyone always mentions STD's and pregnancy right away. Have you people heard of condoms? You can have sex safely if you use your brain. Am I the only one who's really irritated with these answers?

Jen C you're a b****. Lol.

Answer 1

You are a smart girl at 15! I agree with you, there is nothing wrong with sex and as long as you are responsible you should be okay.

I personally haven't seen too many prudish answers as you have, maybe a few here and there.

Answer 2

I lost my virginity well before I turned 18. I must admit, it was great fun. This being said, I was not prepared for the dangers that sex presents.

I don't buy into any kind of organized religion, so don't think I'm biased. I'm all about pre-marital sex. I think that marriage without pre-marital sex is a mistake.

This being said, things go wrong when you have sex. Not often, but they do here and there. A condom works most of the time, but they do break, which can lead to a number of problems, which you are undoubtedly aware of. Most of those problems are not things you should or can deal with at your age.

Condoms will also do nothing to prevent a handful of STD's. I know what it's like to be a teen. Don't get me wrong. When I was younger, I thought that STD's always happen to some distant person. Well, a friend of mine got HIV while we were in college. He was generally very safe, and how he got it, we don't know. Obviously no one I know will confess to having HPV or HSV2, but statistically speaking, A LOT of people I know have both. You cannot prevent either with a condom. While neither will kill you, both are a nuissance, and one of them can lead to cancer which can sterilize or kill you, or both, in that order.

If you are going to be sexually active, for pete's sake get on the pill. Condoms will only prevent you from getting knocked up for so long.

One more thing. Keep in mind that you are, in fact, a teenager. That means, matter of factly, that your hormones are still going nuts. This has been shown to affect decision making skills, mood swings, and aggression. While you may think that this doesn't apply to you, be conscious of the fact, that everyone, as a teenager, does not have as good judgement as they will have 10 years down the road.

You can safely disregard all the fundies on here as they have other motives for telling you what they do. But make sure that you are well versed on what you are doing, and the statistics if you plan on having sex.

Answer 3

I hope you dont mind the truth because hear it comes!
First of all you are 15, and as you grow you will learn that most men are only in it for the sex and if you keep letting yourself go then that is the only kind of men you will get... because i have been there and done that. Now i know what your thinking that im just another person against sex, but im not. Sex is proven to be the number one stress reliever in America and it is also good for you...but did you know that every time you have sex with one person you is not a virgin you are having sex with 1651 people. Believe me or not but its true my mother is adoctor and get all these stat. Another reason is obv. you are very uneducated about sex because condoms dont stop everything, atually the only truly stop about the STD's and the dont stop HIV/AIDS or completly sotp sprem. Now while you think its fun to have sex, stop and think WHAT IF.... because one day your going to ask a question on here like how do i get treated for _____ or how hard is labor and delivery. and that is not a question i want to have to answer for you. Now im not saying to stop hvaing sex because i dont you are going to take heed to anything i say but just know that sex isnt all its cracked up to be...
Hope this helps and be safe!!! Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

I doubt anyone, or at least very few are down on sex. It could be that most are mature and understand that a sexual relationship can bring alot of baggage. Maybe the mature people in here take offense to a 15 year old know it all brat of a girl, calling everyone puritans and criticizing them when you do not even know them. I would say you are way too immature and have some serious growing up to do, along with respecting people with experience. Just wait ms. know-it-all, your time will come and the baggage will drag you down like a whale.

Answer 5

I am neither Puritan nor abstinent. What I am is in a position to understand the risks and be able to deal with them. You are not.

You cannot have safe sex with a liar, and you won't really know someone is lying to you until after you get the STD. Think you are ready to be a mom? Think again. Oh but I forgot, condoms will save you. They are 100% effective after all, aren't they? They can't even claim that in a factory testing center, so how effective are they really when a 16-18 year old child with his hormones in overdrive is trying to use it?

I realize you think you know everything at 15, but you really have no idea about life yet. And when you are 25-28 you will realize just how little you knew at 15. I just hope for your sake that you aren't caring for a 8-year old with AIDS at that point.

Answer 6

maybe ... condoms are anything but 100% eeffective against pregnancy and STDs (please note that I am not saying that they are not effective ... of course they are ... but they are definitely no guarantee).

peoples view of the world generally changes quiet a lot between the age 14 and 21 ... take it from someone who has "been there, done that, got the t-shirt" and especially the view of things like sex and relationships. I am not sure I know anyone who thinks sex is not fun but a grown up view puts it in the right place and right time with the right person. most people can spot the really bad cases but I personally know smart, careful people who have got really burned when things went wrong. also check the "age of consent" laws for your area carefully ... you might well find that having sex at 15 is illegal, like it or not (and if you pay attention to the news you will realize that the consequences can be unreasonably harsh, like it or not)

bottom line is ... it sounds like people are giving good advice, whether or not you like it is another story.

Answer 7

Here's a few things to think about.Condoms are only 97% effective and some people don't know how to use them correctly. Alot of people out there have kids b4 their ready and the child always end up suffering. Alot of women have 3 kids by 3 different fathers. If people have STD and use a condom there's still a 3% chance that they will infect there partner. Sex is something special and should not be treated like a sport.

Answer 8

Yes sex is an enjoyable experience. You are only 15 and have very much to learn about life though. I was 17 when I lost my virginity, I am 23 now and I regret that I didn't wait. Sex is one thing but making love is SOO much better. Condoms are not 100% effective they break, tear, slip off, and don't always prevent the spread of STD's &/or pregnancy. I suggest do you more research on the subject.

Answer 9

Its not that everyone is puritananical. You are looking through the eyes of a 15 year old..Its fun and you want to play. There is nothing wrong with sex if you have the maturity and commitment to deal with it. It takes some age to realize that you need that maturity. Until then it is nothing more than a game. When you get older you realize that you have wasted something special for so little reward. It is much better when approached less like a fun game and more like a total commitment. Less hurt feelings and less emotional distress later.

Answer 10

That's your opinion that there's nothing wrong with pre-marital sex. Everyone has the right to their opinion and I totally disagree with your opinion. I'm a Christian and I know that pre-marital sex goes against God's rules. I'm not saying that I'm perfect and don't sin, but at least I know what is a sin and what isn't. Also, even if people aren't a Christian, maybe they just have morals and don't think that sleeping around like a cheap ho is a good idea.

You are only 15. Maybe when you're in your 30s and have seen the affects of pre-marital sex you'll think differently.

P.S. - Just because something is fun doesn't make it right. If that were the case then what's wrong with killing a person you don't like, after all killing them might be fun. What's wrong with stealing what ever you want, think how fun that would be to go to the mall and just take what ever looks good.

Answer 11

Look most of the people on here are adults. and any adult is going to be just like your parents and tell you if you are not 18 do not have sex. For one yes sex is enjoyable but I do not want to think about a 15 year old child (yes i said child) Having sex. You will not be an adult until you are 18. You are still a kid. You can not even hold a job right now because you are not of legal age yet. Sex is not just something you do it is an emotional commitment and something that should only be shared with someone you truly love not just a little boy who thinks they are a man. Please try and understand it is children like you that have accidents and start posting things like I am pregnant how do I tell my parents. Condoms are NOT 100%. Nothing is. Hope this helps you to understand.

I was just like you when I was young and thought I knew everything. I really found out that I knew nothing when I found out I was pregnant at the age of 17 and yes I was on birth control. Nothing is for certain. I did have a miscarrage at 3 months.

Your right sex is great and feels wonderful but not at that age of 15. please take it from someone who knows. and by the way if you think it makes the boys like you better. Just think of what they are saying about you when your back is turned. Like she is easy, she is a whore, she will give it up, go out with her. That is the only reason they will call

ADDED: By the way I have looked at your other question and girl you have alot of growing up to do. Please you are way to young to be having sex