ok..so me and him broke up about a week ago. and we dated for 7 months..i still really like him..but i dont think he cares anymore. he doesnt talk to me anymore and he did say he wanted to be friends. i mean like i dont know what to do. i really do want to be his friend and it would help if he actually cared. i mean like he wont even look at me anymore and my friends tell me that it probably hurts to look at me...and they keep telling me that i need to move on. but i dont want to..i just cant..not yet. its just to soon. but i need help on what to do and how to tell if he honestly wants to be friends still.. i just dont know.
2007-09-18 06:18:58 · 9 answers · asked by help when you need it. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2007-09-18 06:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, this is difficult to say but okay here goes nothing. Okay it has only been a week you need to give it more time because the reason why he won't look at you is because he still has feelings for you its just that he won't admit it. However, if you still want to be ONLY friends then give him a call but if he doesn't answer to you thats okay he will call you back. If he choses not to call you then the only thing I can say is either keep trying until you see something going with his life (for ex: if he is dating another girl or really busy with his life etc.) or move on because right now those are your options at this point. Only you can decide what you want and if you know what you want then be persistant and give it your all to achieve your goal. Believe me I know I've been down that road and I'm still with the same girl for 4 years. We have our moments but we get over the silly arguments we have. Anyway, take care and I hope I was helpful.
2007-09-18 13:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by Roger P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend: reality? this relationship is gone. You need to accept this, if he told you he just wanted to be friends is just a way to make it easier, but he doesn't want a relationship anymore, he's showing you this by as you say, he doesn't even look at you anymore. You need to let this go, because if you get stuck in something that won't be, you'll be hurting yourself big time.
You can't allow to hurt yourself, that's not advisable, for your own good. Really, don't be suffering for someone who is not showing you any care at all.
Let him go, if you don't, you'll make harder and harder and harder on you only, not on him.
When you see him, don't be nervous, everything is cool, treat him purely as a friend IF he ever talk to you. One thing that hurts is when you show total indifference. Now, don't do this on purpose, because he'll notice you doing this as a revenge,and consequently you are telling him that you are dying for him, something is not true, he doesn't love you, why would you be loving something who hurt you.
Move on my friend.....by staying on a page with a looser, you are waisting your time to meet a real Prince.
2007-09-18 13:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now it's probably pretty hard for him to deal with you now, since you broke up. Give him space, he wants to be friends I'm sure, but needs space from you. I know it's hard, but most guys after a break up, need time to just be themselves and get back into their routine. Don't push him or try to talk to him, if he wants to remain friends it'll happen, just not for a while. Guys think that if they become friends right after a break up then you'll think you're getting back together. Another thing to look out for is he's probably going to start dating girls or hanging out with them. It's going to be hard next couple of weeks/months, but stay strong and enjoy your single life!
2007-09-18 13:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know how you feel. but the easiest thing that i cant think of that can help you. try to talk to him alone not around any of his friends. and then try to get him to hangout with you soon, and maybe then that will make you realize how low he is. and you can do better than him. i know you hate hearing when people tell you to move on or how shitty he is to you now. but i hear it everyday now and i have a boyfriend who treats me like ****. so i mean ill be in your situation soon. im still trying to figure out what to do. he acts like he doesnt care either but trust me he probably does. :D
2007-09-18 13:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Brianna g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read "The Rules" you can find it in any bookstore or on Amazon. It will help you get over this relationship and find any new ones. Take care of you self and do not depend on any one else for your happiness. Get out and do stuff, keep your mind off of him. Whatever you do, leave him alone!!! The more you push yourself on him, the more he will pull away. Even if he does call you, don't talk to him.
2007-09-18 13:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by alizemuffin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether he is hurting or not is questionable, it is having an effect but what that means is hard to say. Your friends are telling you right and that is to move on and if you are ment to be together then it will happen.
2007-09-18 13:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what u have to do... u can be his friend but right now take sometime to get over him and than u can start talking to him
2007-09-18 13:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by ro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your friends advice move on.
2007-09-18 13:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋