and he cheated befor and we worked though it and a month ago i found out he had been still cheating what to do?
2007-09-18 06:16:35 · 35 answers · asked by Stacy J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, but sounds like it is time to move on unless you can cope with it.
2007-09-18 06:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by astralpen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship for 8 years and last year on our anniversy we finaly broke up. It was soo hard to have been with someone for sooo long and that is all u know. feeling afraid of the unknown but yet wanting it because ur so unhappy. Why would u want to be with a man that does not only desire u? U derserve to be the only one wanted.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. Its time to let go. this is only a pattern cuz he knows he can get away with it. he wants his cake and eat it to. Dont let him have his way. U have to be strong and move on
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street. You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship con
2007-09-18 06:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by louise23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my fiancé for 7 1/2 years and I think he is my soulmate. Still if he ever cheated on me that would be the end of him because we made a pact 7 years ago that we would never sleep with anyone else. (We had both just gotten out of less then faithful relationships.)
That's a serious blow to trust, one of the major foundations of a good relationship. I think he's shown his character, unable to control himself, which usually means there are OTHER problems in your relationship unrelated to cheating...
I would say either leave him or realize that he is going to continue doing this, especially if you forgive him for it twice...
2007-09-18 09:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by Tempus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheat!
2007-09-18 06:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say buh bye darlin...you don't need to waste more energy on someone not willing to make an effort. In order to have a relationship with someone you MUST trust them. I truly believe everyone deserves a second chance, not a third. You tried, gave good effort, sucked it up when you could have walked and you ended up looking like the donkey butt in the long run. You have better self worth than that....go find someone that respects you. Don't waste your energy looking back either, he's not worth it
2007-09-18 06:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him...once a cheater, always a cheater. I personally would have left him for good the first time he did it. Sorry you've wasted 8 years on him, but it doesn't sound like he's learned a thing, and he probably never will. Time to move along before you waste another day on him!
2007-09-18 06:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on! You deserve to be with someone who will not cheat on you. If he cheated once before and he is still cheating, whose to say that he has cheated many more times yet never got caught. No matter how hard it is to move on, it will be much harder if you continue to be with him and he continues to cheat.
2007-09-18 06:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how many times he cheated you before? If he happens to have cheated you just once and again cheating on you , better talk to him and let him know your concerns as chances are he might not be cheating on you.
Any case talk to him today.
2007-09-18 06:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by pk_thunderbolt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well evidently he's not looking to get married if its been 8 years and he's cheating. You should have dumped him years ago.
2007-09-18 06:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by bobby2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some self respect and get a new boyfriend that won't cheat on you! You gave him his one more chance and he blew it! Unless of course you like being treated like dirt.
2007-09-18 06:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if he's done it once he'll do it again, don't waste anymore of your precious time with that loser. You deserve better. Once, ok everybody makes mistakes, but now 2 times, that just goes to show you how much he really cares and respects you. Good luck.
2007-09-18 06:22:22 · answer #11 · answered by newmommie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋