Family & Relationships - 16 September 2007

it like she has a grudge against me

2007-09-16 08:22:09 · 2 answers · asked by BabyGirl1988 2 in Family

Have any of you ever made the tough decision to either have to place your parents in a nursing home or have decided to care for them in your home?

And I am referring to the point where you have to take care of their physical needs too. Diapers..baths..feeding..etc.

After taking care of my father at home for 3 years, I finally placed him in a nursing home and the guilt is killing me. He is 86, and although he has been there 2 years he still wants to come home. I only see him on Sundays, but I do bring him home for dinner, and he sometimes spends the night, but then I avoid him for the rest of the week because of the guilt.

But I still feel selfish. I know someday I will regret this. But I'm not happy with him at home, and I'm not happy with him in a nursing home. I feel so frustrated, but I can't see a good answer to this.

I live alone and have to work, so when the caregivers leave at the end of the day it would only be me.

2007-09-16 08:16:50 · 12 answers · asked by Mystic 2 in Family

Maybe I'm just different, but I was never that worried about having a boyfriend at school. There were quite a few guys who liked me, and yes I kissed a few boys at parties, but I never got upset over them. I did very well at school and I also did lots of sport, drama and music. That was more important than a serious relationship and I don't regret a second of it. Now I'm 24 with a really good job, and very much into guys!!!!! Just wondering what other's thoughts were on this. It upsets me that kids are growing up too fast.

2007-09-16 08:16:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

JUS ANSWER I NEED TO NOE BECUZ I GET THAT ALL DA TYM.

2007-09-16 08:15:47 · 3 answers · asked by iluvmuhbby143 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-16 08:15:09 · 8 answers · asked by ShineOn 4 in Marriage & Divorce

She gave me pants telling me that " i wore them in highschool, 34in waist should fit "......she was 5'9 tehn and REALY thin, i'm 5'7, and chubby in the waist. Wehn i pointed that out, she said that since my arms and legs are thin(true that) it makes my waist look smaller.

I'm kinda insulted that she gave me pants that will fit BARLY and she said i'd probably need a belt.

Is this a hint that i should drop some weight or just her usualy obliviouls-ness?

2007-09-16 08:14:14 · 5 answers · asked by Crazygirl ♥ aka GT 6 in Family

did you ever go back to pursuing your dreams or did your life take a different turn and you never went back.

2007-09-16 08:12:43 · 7 answers · asked by Sarah J 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm a twenty-two year old male. When I was younger I had a sexual experience with a cousin of mine. I was around twelve and he was around four or five. Basically we had all of our clothes on and he was ontop of me humping me, and i put my hands underneath his pants and proceeded to grab his but. That is all that happened. This memory fadded within time and has recently come back. I know I'm not gay or bi. I'm actually engaged to be married. But with this repressed memory it's like now everytime I see a child I think of this experience. But it dosn't plessure me, it makes me sick to my stomach. I don't want to have these thoughts anymore. I don't want to feel like I'm gay or a child molester when I know for a fact that I would never do anything to a child. I'm just so confused and angry, because I want to get rid of this memory and stop thinking about this experiece whenever I see a child. It is driving me crazy because I want to be happy and enjoy a healthy life.

2007-09-16 08:11:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

are secret peadophile sickos who are secretly imagining that their girl is under age?


I had to try and word that so as not to cause to much offense to people! But someone is trying to tell me that shaving is sick and for porn and prostitutes, because men have underlying mental issues and that they are really peadophiles??

I find this quite strange and want your views. I for one am all up for it shaven and certainly have no underlying issues with peadophilia.

2007-09-16 08:10:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

if i called my dad an idiot and he slapped the back of my head very hard, is that abuse?

2007-09-16 08:07:46 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

ok so there is this one guy that i have feelings for and a couple months ago he had a girlfriend and he was caling me a s**** and that i get paid for it and then just last night he called me and said that i hurt him and that he loves me but i alway f*** it up. and when he was going to hang up he told me that if i send him a naked pic he will maybe be nice to me and then he was like well babe good night sweet dreams and i will talk to you later and well my question is why do guys like to cause so much pain when they know how much feelings you have for them .

2007-09-16 08:07:07 · 27 answers · asked by highmoon252006 2 in Singles & Dating

If somebody I just started dating asks me why did my last relationships ended, what can I say. The truth is that I haven't had many relationships. The most significant for me was with this guy that just walk away without giving me a good reason he just said he had problems after almost 3 months. And the last one wasn't a real relationship, just a friend with benefits, but I ended that because I want a serious fullfilling relationship now. The problem is if the person Im dating asks me about my last relationships why they ended, what can I say? I don't want them to think that Im difficult to get along with and run away. And if they ask if Im virgin like on the first date, should I answer or not? Its ok to let him kiss me without first asking me to be his girlfriend?

2007-09-16 08:06:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-16 08:04:58 · 2 answers · asked by Aaron 1 in Marriage & Divorce

okay here's the deal: im in love with this beautiful girl who means a lot to me. we went out for a few dates, ate dinner, went to movies. we talk all the time. she's always saying how much she loves me, but whenever i ask her out anymore, she says no. she insists it has nothing to do with me, but im starting to suspect it is. what should i do??

oh an by the way, NO smart *** remarks please. this is a serious issue to me and i'd like some sincere answers. thanx.

2007-09-16 08:00:53 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well ive seen this person once and i have a crush on them but im afraid to tell them how i feel i even considered writning a note to them but i have no clue on what to write i need HLP PLZ!!!!!!!

2007-09-16 08:00:41 · 14 answers · asked by hollister 2 in Singles & Dating

To be honest, I've got slight facial hair in a lot of areas on my face (cheekbones, cheeks even, etc.) and I've got dark hair, so you could say it's noticeable. But in certain lights, it looks really light.

I've seen blondes (just using an extreme comparison) who have probably more facial hair than I do but I guess it doesn't bother them.

I don't feel like waxing my entire face lol, so this is ok, right? i mean there's like this semi-dark shade when i look at my face from certain angles because of the hair but i think it's pretty normal so...

guys, input?

2007-09-16 07:56:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my lil bro lives with my mum and shes an evil *****, anyway my brothers only 12 and he lives 120miles away from me and his dad, we are trying to make him live with his dad, is there any way at all of making my brother come to live with his dad without my mums permission?? coz i ran away when i woz 12, two years ago and i got taken back by the police, a little help here!!?!?!??!

2007-09-16 07:56:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

is it ok to fancy your cousin????

2007-09-16 07:50:12 · 9 answers · asked by Monkey 4 in Friends

Especially if this friend is someone he confides in a lot and he also enjoys really long conversations with her and her personality?

2007-09-16 07:50:00 · 6 answers · asked by moosekid 2 in Singles & Dating

Well, I started dating this girl a year & 3 months ago and it was pretty much love at first sight. Everything was perfect & things moved really fast but she & I both loved eachother very much. Recently she got a job which is ruining our relationship cus she has no time for me nemore. I showed up at her work one time mad & since then she claims she's scared of me. Thurs. night everything was perfect, she was asking for kisses saying she loved me. After not having heard from her for 4 days I decide to meet her after work to say Hi. She sees me and starts freaking out running away and then calls the police on me. I am so confused, everything was fine an next thing i know cops are called on me? I love her so much & want to get back with her but I am angry, hurt and my trust has been betrayed from this. I have been letting my mom and her mom try and communicate things since she is too immature to talk to me herself. Should I get back w/ her? If so, how should I go about getting her back?

2007-09-16 07:49:29 · 4 answers · asked by Jae L 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-16 07:44:35 · 13 answers · asked by REM 2 in Weddings

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 9 months. He is a really nice guy he buys me just about anything I want I also love him. However there is a problem with our sex life it is awful. although he goes down and all that is great .but when he is hard everything is great when he is in side but after 2 min he comes. and it is not pre becasue alot of it is in the condom. We have gotten in agruements about this and he said it is not me its him what could i do to help him stay up longer. Serious answers only please!!!

2007-09-16 07:36:30 · 4 answers · asked by cute1 2 in Singles & Dating

Just wondering,because isnt it earier for men to move on?Ive known a few marriges where the hubby is still with his wife..even after all the unfaithfullness,and whatnot.

2007-09-16 07:35:28 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been married for 5 years now we have 2 kids. We married young b/c no one wanted us to be together. We loved each other more than anything. After a year of marriage we had our first child. then a year later our 2nd. I feel we married to early. He doesnt treat me the same anymore almost like we just live together. I dont feel we "love each other" that way anymore. I dont feel I can divorce him b/c Divorce is not an option in our families. I dont know what to do. I try telling him how I feel and he puts it back on me. Were not the happy family everyone thinks we are. Its a pretend Fake smile I have had to give the last few years now. I dont want to hurt him by leaving him but I feel I'm hurting myself by staying. I dont know what to do. I'm young still.

2007-09-16 07:35:15 · 14 answers · asked by iRock 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I want to tickle my BFF because she says she is really ticklish, but I don't want to be ovious.

2007-09-16 07:34:11 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

OK, I have been with this guy for over 15 months now and we have never met. We met through a mutual friend of ours....he lives in VA and I'm in CA. We both have made arrangements in the past to meet but unfortunately other things came up. He has been battling cancer for years. We love each other to know end but the other day I told him that if we dont meet within the next 4 months I might want to date. No serious relationship but more of a companion to go and out with here and there. I am a single Mommy of a three year old son and he has a daughter as well, which lives with her Mom. My question....how much longer should I wait to finally meet him in person??????? I'm willing to wait forever if I just knew it would happen one day or should I move on and let him do the same??????? I'm so confused at this point and I'm getting kinda lonely at the same time.....

2007-09-16 07:30:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been persued by men since jr.high.But I'm really friendly and ougoing,so me being nice to guys I'm not sexually attracted to at all has given them the impression that I will want to date them.I don't believe you should ever date somebody unless you are attracted to them from the beginning in some way or another,otherwise you just string the guy along while trying to force an attraction(have seen this happen to my nice but not attractive guy friends too many times).So now I'm 21 and have never dated,yet I always have guys comming after me, just not the ones I'm attracted to.Should I just get it over with and date guys I'm not sexually attracted to at all,or try persuing the kind of men I'm attracted to?(although I believe men should do the persuing).Before you call me shallow, could you REALLY imagine kissing or ******* a person you have no attraction to?(not just once either!). I'm also really shy around hot guys,but super friendly to guys I feel nothing for.

2007-09-16 07:30:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I think society with a mixture of personal views have left me mentally a bit lost!

I fear marriage because i fear eventually i will want a divorce because i am a quitter and would happily walk out when the going gets tough. I fear divorce because i'm watching men around me have their lives torn apart...financially! To work for so much by yourself and then get screwed over, i heard one comedian call it "expensive prostitution"

Then people always say, well you dont have to get married you can be a partnership whatever, but i personally believe when i do have kids i want to be married, and if i said to my girl, i dont want to be married (because of the reasons above) that hardly shows i love her. Kind of undermines her etc etc. I have hurt my girl before and walked out (more than once) maybe that has an effect on me thinking well if i get married i might walk out again. But i keep going back because i love this person.

Only this situation hasnt just occured with this one person.

2007-09-16 07:25:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

okay so november of last year my dad told us (me my bro and mom) told us he had an affair. ok so they're divorced like most ppl rite? wrong. He came home for abt 4 months. My mom was leaving me (12 at the time) home alone on Saturdays from abt 7 am to 10 or 11 at nite. My brother had so much anger that he was never home either. and then we found out he started seeing "her" again. He got an apt and OMG my mom was such a suck up. she was calling him all the time and blah blah blah. THEN he was STILL seeing her and my mom wantied to "work on things" so he came home for a week and left AGAIN. now he is living with "her" My mom found out he took out a $20,000 loan with half her income to buy "her" a harley. My mom says she's gonna leave him but when ever she sees him she melts into him and acts like i dont matter. When ever i trry to talk to her she says "just leave me alone, this is none of your buisness!" I dont know what to do and i cant sit here and let her hurt me and my bro (18)help!

2007-09-16 07:19:42 · 19 answers · asked by ily912 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-16 07:18:05 · 6 answers · asked by Violet 4 in Singles & Dating