I have been persued by men since jr.high.But I'm really friendly and ougoing,so me being nice to guys I'm not sexually attracted to at all has given them the impression that I will want to date them.I don't believe you should ever date somebody unless you are attracted to them from the beginning in some way or another,otherwise you just string the guy along while trying to force an attraction(have seen this happen to my nice but not attractive guy friends too many times).So now I'm 21 and have never dated,yet I always have guys comming after me, just not the ones I'm attracted to.Should I just get it over with and date guys I'm not sexually attracted to at all,or try persuing the kind of men I'm attracted to?(although I believe men should do the persuing).Before you call me shallow, could you REALLY imagine kissing or ******* a person you have no attraction to?(not just once either!). I'm also really shy around hot guys,but super friendly to guys I feel nothing for.
2007-09-16 07:30:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with dating guys you're not attracted to. I mean you have to start from somewhere. How do you expect to find your "match" if you dont date around. If you date guys that you're not attracted to you will find out what kind of guys you are attracted to. And you're not shallow, you just want to find someone you match up well with. But before you find your prince you have to kiss a few frogs...Good luck
2007-09-16 07:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by DoLz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
five years is could appear like plenty among a sixteen 12 months historic and a 21 12 months historic (and it's), however within the fine scheme of matters, that is not anything. Would you care if she were 20 and he used to be 25? Probably now not. I suppose it is simply the concept of it (and the truth that it is unlawful that they'd intercourse) that she used to be a little one and he used to be an grownup. He used to be naturally in it for the intercourse, and she or he used to be clever ample to wreck it off. That does not make her a nasty character. You are not able to maintain whatever like that in opposition to her. If you are going to have disorders whilst she's sincere approximately whatever from her beyond, you then must simply finish it now. At the equal time, if you are became off approximately matters she does like dressing skimpy for Halloween (which I discover obnoxious irrespective of age) or having man peers, do not count on that to difference for those who date or have intercourse. This lady naturally KNOWS she's hott and she or he needs the concentration. Just on account that she does not get dressed skimpy generally and would not cheat on you doesn't suggest she does not wish concentration from men. Trust me, I recognize. I've been there. I certainly not dressed like a slut, however who does not wish to think horny and desired? She could have well intentions with those man peers, however till she realizes that THEY could now not have the ones equal intentions, she's now not going to difference. (I did not observe it till two of my man peers kissed me the week after I broke up with my boyfriend!) Not that each one men are unhealthy, however they are now not striking round for not anything... The predominant factor that I discover ridiculous is that you'll be able to maintain your cock to your pants. You've been relationship one million week and you are already short of to have intercourse?? What is your hurry? Trust me, matters can difference in a courting after that. Don't make her think like she has to have intercourse thus far you. Just have amusing with every different and get to understand every different extra!
2016-09-05 16:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A date can be a friendship date. It doesn't have to be romance. Dinner and a movie works well. Try it. No one but kids expect fireworks on the first date... they can happen, but no one expects them.
2007-09-16 07:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be silly to date someone you don't fancy,just for the sake of what you see as convention. Your happy waiting for the right guy,ythen wait for him,hopefully,you'll meet him in the pub tonight or soon
2007-09-16 07:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by keeprockin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The time will come, yes you can talk to guys YOU fancy. Don't go for second best! and again I'll say it happen, don't worry
2007-09-16 07:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋