I'm a twenty-two year old male. When I was younger I had a sexual experience with a cousin of mine. I was around twelve and he was around four or five. Basically we had all of our clothes on and he was ontop of me humping me, and i put my hands underneath his pants and proceeded to grab his but. That is all that happened. This memory fadded within time and has recently come back. I know I'm not gay or bi. I'm actually engaged to be married. But with this repressed memory it's like now everytime I see a child I think of this experience. But it dosn't plessure me, it makes me sick to my stomach. I don't want to have these thoughts anymore. I don't want to feel like I'm gay or a child molester when I know for a fact that I would never do anything to a child. I'm just so confused and angry, because I want to get rid of this memory and stop thinking about this experiece whenever I see a child. It is driving me crazy because I want to be happy and enjoy a healthy life.
2007-09-16 08:11:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, I don't think this makes you either gay or a child molester. This was rough-housing and your young cousin was behaving like a chihuahua.
I would say that if you were gay, you might feel very sexually attracted to photos of pretty men or something like that... try looking at some of the swimming-suit calendars at the bookstore to see what grabs you.
The other thing you might do is go to the sex-education course at Planned Parenthood... they seem to know everything... or at least schedule an appointment with one of their counselors.
Cut yourself some slack and find some nice people your own age to hang out with. Maybe check a local special interest group at www.meetup.com
2007-09-16 08:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen man, you know who you are and what you are, we do things in life that make no sense sometime. Maybe your sexual being was being awakend and your cousin was the closes person to you. When it comes to sex, we as men don;t always use good judgement. If you have to seek some counsling so you can get this out on the table, and let your gril know most of all, you can;t keep things like that from her. It might screw with your sex life with her. I think your alright and just had a stupid childhood sex act that didn't even come close to being called sex. Move on my friend , it's ok!
2007-09-16 08:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may just be a little cold feet. Depending on how close you are to the big day, it may just be an unconscious thing going on inside of you that is showing you that you are scared. And, I don't know any person who isn't scared even a little about being married. I would recommend finding a counselor or such to speak to, or even a helpful friend, if you feel these thoughts may be something more than the cold feet. I hope I helped even a little, and feel free to write me with any questions or concerns you may have.
Most importantly,
CONGRATULATIONS! I hope you have a long and happy marriage! = )
2007-09-16 08:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by Memigen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an unpleasent encounter as a child and I was affected the same way that you are right now. I finally got over it by thinking about the most positive (funniest that I could think of) childhood memory everytime I had that thought and I completely blocked it. I don't think about it anymore. I hope this helps you also!!
2007-09-16 09:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by Smiley_luvs_hondas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Goodness...that was "Not" a sexual experience....you dope! so, if you give a baby a kiss on the cheek, is this a sexual experience too? (i think you been reading too much Sig.Frd.!) you guys were just "horsing around" and you grabbed his butt....ever watch the NFL coaches around the team? or base ball coaches? or just the guys? or moms with babies? get over it! or dads? we play with our kids..and we don't mean anything by it, it's just them having fun with us...so, if you were just "playing" and nothing else..ok, and if jerk0off is trying to make something out of it that wasn't intended, beat the crap out of them!...lol..bye
2007-09-16 08:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. "Diamond" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wtf?
2007-09-16 08:20:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋