Family & Relationships - 12 September 2007

This is so long and drawn out, i probably couldnt fit the details in here. here goes, my husband has a friend, only one friend, we left the navy and settled in this town because there is a good job for him, and i guess a friend for life. the problem is, we have gotten everything this guy has planned for, for his family, he let his finances slip down the tube, sold his car with no thoughts how to get into work, just assumed my husband was driving him. we have a house, 2 new vehicles, and my husband wants to hand him the title over to our 3rd one which we need the money on to pay back credit, i suggest my husband staying a lienholder and he told me that i wanted him to be a dick to his best friend. after this guy agrees to paying monthly payments on our car, he calls up my husband, who has been searching for his new truck for a long time now, finallly has it and says he saw the same truck my hubby just bought and wanted to see about financing it. there is much more, but im out of char

2007-09-12 03:43:25 · 11 answers · asked by Evie 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, well look at my past question "my sister is getting married to a guy my family hates, what should i do?" that will give you a little info from before. well, he found out that no one in our family likes him. it made my sister sad, and it made him mad. he called me the other night, woke me up, and started screaming at me. I was so confused at what he was saying, and he wouldn't let me get a word in to explain. i was so frustrated that i started crying, and my mom heard me from the other room, so she came in and asked what was wrong. he was still yelling, so i put him on speaker phone, and she heard what he was saying. so she took the phone from me and told him that he needs to calm down, and let her talk to my sister. he wouldnt give the phone to my sister, and he started yelling at my mom. he was cursing, and calling her a liar (totally disrespecting her). and finally he said that my sister said she dosent want us at her wedding. i know my sister wouldnt say that. should i go or no

2007-09-12 03:41:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

She is a total wich and she is hungry for control of him and I

2007-09-12 03:38:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

knowning what you been through raising your children
if you could start all over
would you have children again?

2007-09-12 03:38:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

A friend of mine has a RHW Sex Swing, and she loves it. I sat in it once (fully clothed), it is very comfortable and I can see it having some great potential.
The price is a bit steep .
Has any one used one before??
Is It worth the extra money??
How dose it compare to the other cheaper brands??

I'm getting married in October...do you think it'd be inappropriate to add one to our gift registry?!? heh heh

2007-09-12 03:37:54 · 10 answers · asked by HappyForever 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I don't know who put this propaganda together,but in essence it says that a housewifes chores of cooking,cleaning,laundry and shopping, etc. have a value of $75,000 a year.
I say that is a load of crap!
First off, even if her husband did not provide her a house to live in, she would still have to do the very same chores where ever she lived.
Additionally,house keeping is minimum wage work at best,If one were to subtract housing, food, utilities,health care, car and insurance, cell phone, jewelry,clothes, vacations and more, those expenses would far exceed the value of any house keeping.
Further, using this same premise, If the services provided by the man were assigned a cash value, I.E., auto mechanic, handyman, landscape maintenance,heavy lifting,security and body gaurd,accountant, etc. a woman could not even afford to have a husband.

I believe this suggestion that a homemakers services are worth 75K is self important ,over estimated propaganda by women, Comments?

2007-09-12 03:32:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Before I married my husband I already had a little girl whom he knew about. My little girls Dad visited her regulary but has stopped because my husband did not like the idea of my ex coming into the house to see his child. My husband wants my ex to pick up my daughter if he wants to see her and my ex has since then picked her up once in a while. My husband is still not happy because when my ex picks my daughter up he steps foot in the house. This has brought a lot of problems and I am worried this could have effet on my little girl. My husband has issues with my ex calling, has issues when my ex's mum calls to check up on her grand daughter and says he doesn't want me to be around my ex. I also have a baby with my husband and I dont like the idea of bringing up my children in a tensed environment. I have told my husband my little girl has bonded with her dad and I'm not willing to put any boundaries between them either he accepts it or we separate. Is my husband's behaviour right?

2007-09-12 03:32:45 · 28 answers · asked by Lin 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-12 03:32:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He's 43 and I'm 40...And I just think having a big fancy wedding is not for us...more for the younger generation...But I do want something nice and intimate w/ friends and family.....Give me some ideas to toss around or work from...Please...He's talking about a church and I'm talking about a tent in our huge lawn but I wanted to see what other ideas we could work with.....We are not getting married until next April at least....

2007-09-12 03:31:36 · 22 answers · asked by karens lovinlife 6 in Weddings

Married six years, husband stays with a job about a year - and during that year makes little money because he works commission; financial responsibilty, bill paying, housework (even tho I have a full time job) everything falls to me; he naps (leaves work during the day to take naps) or plays computer when home; we pretty much live as roommates (no intimacy); I have finally gotten to the point where I am saying how unhappy I am and he says that he does not want to be by himself (he only has one friend - no circle of friends); he starts saying he is a failure at everything and that if we cant work it out that he has no reason to live. This puts a huge burden on my shoulders. I want to leave (our son wants me to leave) and even though I know he's manipulating me, I still feel like I'm supposed to take care of him/make sure he's okay because he has no one else. Who has been through this and gone ahead and LEFT anyway? What happened? Do you feel guilty for leaving? Thanks...

2007-09-12 03:29:25 · 28 answers · asked by FD27 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Im shy/self conscious, and Bf and i think its about time for us to move on to the next step with having sex.I'm ok with this but with my shyness i dont think ill be able to without screwing up or freaking out.how can i overcome this what should I do?

2007-09-12 03:26:01 · 6 answers · asked by Arc_Angel 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

We had goths when I was younger, all I know about emos is that they dress in dark clothes, wear lots of makeup, some cut themselves and make suicide pacts. Write depressing poetry. Ah you see, I'm stereotyping already! So would someone please put me straight....

2007-09-12 03:25:04 · 16 answers · asked by Janey 6 in Singles & Dating

I am 18 almost 19 and i have no life at all and my mom refuese to let me go to parties and all that shiznit! Any one got anything i can do?

2007-09-12 03:22:13 · 12 answers · asked by caucasiongirlnativeworld 1 in Family

I have a boyfriend and well he wants me to switch things up. he told me "I seriously want you to play hard to get". and Well, I for one am sick, i mean SICK of ME calling HIM all the time and him not coming to ME. that is what i want more than anything else. I saw him sunday and I haven't picked up the phone to call him since. I'm wondering if he is even going to call me by this weekend. Is this what you do to play hard to get? Or should I have said i was going to call Tuesday and then not called? so then he'd be thinking about me? Does he call you to make plans and then you see if you are free or not because you might be hanging out with one of your guy friends to kind of make him want you more? I don't really understand the rules or ways anyone plays hard to get. Because I have teased him but then after a while it just annoys him and i don't think that is playing hard to get. help!!!

2007-09-12 03:22:05 · 1 answers · asked by shadylady1187 1 in Singles & Dating

My bf and my besf friend are friends. Just normal friends.
I trust my best friend.
Just a few minutes ago, i received a text from my best friend.
She told me that my bf just texted her.
Should I worry?
My bf's a flirt sometimes.
Btw, I didn't text my bf tonight cause I was busy studying for a test and I didn't tell him.

2007-09-12 03:18:00 · 5 answers · asked by Isabelle 3 in Singles & Dating

What would you do if your husband confessed that he helped a female co-worker get a car because she had problems (credit, financial etc.). If your husband was supportive, loving and took care of you and the household would you divorce him if he had done this with this female co-worker? He did not pull monies from the account you all had but from a small checking account he has.

2007-09-12 03:17:57 · 37 answers · asked by stergre1975 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I am of 58 years and want to marry a girl of 24 years ? Can I manage the affairs or I should leave the idea

2007-09-12 03:17:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I met this guy online and we instantly connected. We could talk about anything and everything for hours. A few months later we exchanged pics. and set up a time and place to meet. I am not at all physically attracted to this guy and he wants to meet up again. In the past, I would just tell him the truth that I wasn't attracted to him, but all that has gotten me in the past is hatred. I'm interested to hear how some of you would react to this.

2007-09-12 03:16:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I got in touch with my father 2 yrs ago. he use to call me every sunday. one sunday he called and asked what i was doing. i told him my friend was over my house and left. in what i would call an intimate tone(he lowered his voice) he asked me if it was my boyfriend. it made me feel uncomfortable. fast foward to my graduation night . wer were riding around in his rental car. he's asking me all these questions. he asked me if i had a boyfriend. i replied no and he asked if i was gay. he asked me the same question on the phone a month before. i got hte same feeling of uneasiness. it just did not feel like something that should be coming from a father. we wnt to the mall and he took me to victoria's secret. me him and my mom (who are not together) were in the store while i was looking at bras. my mother was telling me to pick a bigger size because the one i picked she thought was too small. he's gonna ask me what bra size do i wear? i ignored him. i bought a cd. a sexual song was playing

2007-09-12 03:16:19 · 49 answers · asked by ch@L@nt 1 in Family

and why do people say congratulations for getting married?

i really dont get it. congratulaions for getting someone to marry you?(or what)?

i think it is a little bit pathetic!

2007-09-12 03:15:29 · 27 answers · asked by girl24gr 3 in Marriage & Divorce

We have a 4 year old son and my husband has been working out of the country for the last 2 months. He called me 2 weeks ago and told me over the phone. I went to the country where he is working and found out that he has already had papers drawn up waiting for me to sign. I am so hurt and angry, but I do not want to drag this out if he really does not want to be married anymore. He is offering me a very generous settlement, but I really just want to keep my family together. Does anyone have advice?

2007-09-12 03:12:48 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-12 03:12:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-12 03:09:53 · 7 answers · asked by Sophie Jeter 1 in Singles & Dating

My wife appears to be normal in every way. She is intelligent, attractive, has a great job and is a wonderful mom. We have been married for over ten years. We have what I have always considered a fun sex life, but recently she said that she wanted it a bit rougher. I won't bore you with all the details, but she likes having her hair pulled, some spanking. I've been more than okay with all of that, but lately she has asked me to start slapping her in the face during sex. I mean really HARD sometimes. She has even gone so far as to say that if it resulted in a bloody lip, it would be easy for her to lie at work about how it happened. She'll make comments the next day, "My cheeks still hurt from last night", or talk about body parts that haven't recovered from all of the pinching and slapping. Man, this is all new to me. Part of me is really turned on by the whole thing, but on the other hand I'm worried about hurting her. Now she has hinted at a whole rape 'fantasy'. Anybody?

2007-09-12 03:06:32 · 33 answers · asked by George 2 in Marriage & Divorce

If they love eachother and both work

2007-09-12 03:05:45 · 18 answers · asked by Cybele 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I have split about a month ago and I have went ahead and started the divorce. We have been having problems since February and have gotten to this step but never past it, well we never filed. We I have filed now and am meeting with the lawyer today. Well 2 days ago my husband says to me that he wants one more try to make this work. He says he is really going to work at it this time and prove to me that he loves me and wants us. He is leaving for Germany in December and my question is: Should I believe him, drop the divorce and give him a chance, or should I make it a legal separation and give him 6m to figure things out and then move out there if they do work, or should I just say forget it and carry on and if we get back together then we do? I have carefully considered every option and my heart is torn between all 3 and I really don't know what to do! Any advice would be great!

2007-09-12 03:00:49 · 8 answers · asked by Kimberly M 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am a happily married man with an awesome wife. We have what I consider a great, adventerous sex life. I started taking 'naughty' pictures of my wife about a year and a half ago. Just lingerie shots at first, then nude and eventually pretty much everything we did in bed. I really get into editing the photos and seeing her on film. A few weeks back I introduced a video camera into bed. I was suprised how much she got into it. She really played to the camera. I keep all of the discs, ect. under lock and key, and we have no intention of ever letting anyone else see it. Is anyone else into this type of thing, or is it just us?

2007-09-12 02:49:36 · 18 answers · asked by George 2 in Marriage & Divorce

how can i understand which of my friends are honest and fake?

2007-09-12 02:46:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

my bf n i has been datin for alomst 8 months...and we broke up now..well not actually broke up..but we not talkin to each other ..
well i used to go clubing, n smokin...but i no longer do tis stuff since my bf dunt like it... i already change my lifestyle..i have been a better gal
i tell everytihng to my bf...everything honestly... i dunt keep secrets from him
and the reasom for us to break up is...he said tat he cant get over wat i did last time ...and he ask time so tat he can forget how i were last time
and he asked me to stop smsing him anymore
d thing is i cant get over him..i love him alot
wat should i do? i want to talk to him but i dunt know how n i dunt know wat to talk to him.. please help me
i wants him back

2007-09-12 02:44:59 · 1 answers · asked by misz_thila 2 in Singles & Dating

Question asked by female colleague that I have no answer to as I don't read these types of magazines (have a solid relationship with a great girl), would appreciate thoughts....

Also, what do girls think of their boyfriends who read these magazines full of scantily clad women? does it upset you? why?

2007-09-12 02:42:34 · 26 answers · asked by Derek J Kered 2 in Other - Family & Relationships