Ok, well look at my past question "my sister is getting married to a guy my family hates, what should i do?" that will give you a little info from before. well, he found out that no one in our family likes him. it made my sister sad, and it made him mad. he called me the other night, woke me up, and started screaming at me. I was so confused at what he was saying, and he wouldn't let me get a word in to explain. i was so frustrated that i started crying, and my mom heard me from the other room, so she came in and asked what was wrong. he was still yelling, so i put him on speaker phone, and she heard what he was saying. so she took the phone from me and told him that he needs to calm down, and let her talk to my sister. he wouldnt give the phone to my sister, and he started yelling at my mom. he was cursing, and calling her a liar (totally disrespecting her). and finally he said that my sister said she dosent want us at her wedding. i know my sister wouldnt say that. should i go or no
2007-09-12 03:41:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Instead of wondering if you should attend this wedding or not, I think it would be best if you had a good long heart to heart with your sister.
Find out from her exactly how she feels about things, and ask questions about why she is marrying this guy.
It seems pretty clear from your question that you don't like him. Try to express your concerns with your sister in a calm and loving way.
As this is the man she has chosen, calling names, or saying anything too negative will only push her away. So speak from your heart about your hopes and fears for her.
Hopefully it will bring the two of you closer together and help her see her situation from another perspective.
Sisters are special. I hope the two of you can remain close as you both work through this.
I hope that helps.
:)
2007-09-12 03:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by Reiki Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, no wonder your family doesn't like this guy. You'd think your sister would realize that if NOBODY likes him - she's made a bad choice.
He's a controlling jerk and will make her miserable I'll be willing to bet she's seen the trouble signs already and is just ignoring it because she wants to get married at any cost. Getting married is more important to her than actually finding the RIGHT man to marry.
I say no one from your family should go. A wedding is supposed to be the union of a man and a woman in something that is holy, and this appears to be an unholy union to me. If this was a good match, I'd say the family needs to show their support. But he's not a good MAN, he is a spoiled bratty little BOY who has probably finally found a group of people who won't cater to his "I'm-so-wonderful-you-should-worship-me" attitude. I wouldn't support this in any way shape or form. It will send a message loud and clear to your sister. She's making a huge mistake and I do feel very sorry for her - but she's going to get what she asked for.
BTW - it's never too late for her to back out. It would be the smart thing to do. And you don't have to talk with her by phone. I'd be running my butt to wherever she is and find her and just tell her the reasons why it's a mistake and that she can back out - there's no reason why she should continue to marry someone like this - she's not obligated just because she said yes at one time.
2007-09-12 11:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Mama's on the half tip 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't attend the wedding.
Weddings are supposed to be celebration. In this case, you guys would just end up feeling upset and super emotional. He has majorly disrespected you and your family--and while you love your sister, this kind of behavior should not be condoned, even for her sake.
Do remember, however, to let your sister know that while you guys don't necessarily agree with her choice of a life partner, you will all be there for her should she need your help in support.
2007-09-12 11:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's marrying quite a winner! Can you talk to her alone and find out what's really going on? I'd be concerned that he's being abusive to your sister, both mentally and physically. Make sure that marrying him is really what she wants and isn't being pressured into it. She may just be too frightened of him to back out, and may need your help. If she follows through and actually marries him (which she should not do), I'd bet that it won't last long.
2007-09-12 10:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by N L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your sister to the side and see what's up. Tell her what her b/f said. I guarantee you that she didn't say that and would love for you to go. By all means go to her wedding, and if the b/f doesn't like it, then tough chitterlings! Go just to support you sister even if you don't like the b/f. And as for the calling you up and jumping down your throat, the next time he does it, hang up on him and then take the phone off the hook.
2007-09-13 10:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Karen K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister needs to rethink this wedding thing. But i would still go cause i'm sure your sister would be really hurt if nobody from her family showed up.
2007-09-12 10:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♠♥His wifey♥♠ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate this for you...I am in the same boat, we ALL hate my brothers wife, she is NUTS, jealous, manipulative, and a bit**. Well he got with her, got her pregnant, they broke up on again off again for 2 years, and last month they went and got married....She didnt say we COULDNT come, we just DIDNT b/c we do not support their marraige.
Now with you...You ask YOUR SISTER if she wants you to come, and if she says yes, GO screw him, he is a ********! If she says NO, you CAN respect her request, you dont have to though, they wont call the law! Just be there for her however you can....He obviously has her brainwashed. Hopefully one day she will figure it out, but for now she is blinded by him.
2007-09-12 10:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by brooklyn7582 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait and talk to your sister, what is she doing here and does she know about all the h--- he is putting you and your family thru? Sadly I would not go and cause my sister more trouble, she has enough with that person, to whom she is pledging her whole life full of ignorance and pain. So sad...
2007-09-12 10:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by Conrey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to your sister before you did any thing , and I would let her know he was screaming at you and your mother . if she does not care and know what he said , I would not go ! if she is going to let him talk to her mother like that , maybe she should rethink about marrying this guy sounds like he is a jerk ! you got a Small sample of what kinda life she is going to have in her marrage. .
2007-09-12 11:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firt ask ur sister if she wants u 2 go then go. Just forget him! It's ur sisters big day, 2. Wouldn't she go to ur wedding?
ur gonna regret it if you don't.
Hope that helped.
2007-09-12 10:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by Kayla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋