I am 18 almost 19 and i have no life at all and my mom refuese to let me go to parties and all that shiznit! Any one got anything i can do?
2007-09-12 03:22:13 · 12 answers · asked by caucasiongirlnativeworld 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your Mom is having separation anxiety. You have always been her girl, her baby. She will always be looking out for you and what she feels to be your interests. Humor her as best you can without hurting her feelings. Womanhood is a learned and earned thing. Just keep your head on your shoulders and do what you know to be right and responsible and your Mom will be bubbling with pride.
2007-09-12 03:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are still living in her home, and she is providing you with shelter, food, etc... you ARE a kid - and a bratty kid at that...
If you want to be able to do whatever you want - then take the responsiblity to get a job, move out, and pay for all the things an adult would have to pay for - rent, clothes, food, utilities, transportation, insurance, etc... Just realize that, just because you do this, this doesn't make you mature. You may be considered an adult in the eyes of the law because you are 18, but that doesn't mean you are capable of acting like an adult - or at least a MATURE adult.
And if your mom is paying for your college and you are wanting to move out and do things she doesn't approve of... then if she's smart, she'd stop paying for your college as well.
Perhaps you need to find a healthier way of interacting with others instead of thinking that parties are the only way to have fun.
2007-09-12 04:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by Mama's on the half tip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats up see when i was younger my parents where very over protective i couldnt do the things a normal teenager would do because the woldnt let me it got to the point where i started acting out i was only 15 hanging out with guys sneeking out doing and selling drugs and all my parents would do was punnish me it wasnt untill they asked me why i was behaving like that that things changed now years later being a single mother myself i realize how important it is to have trust and have an open line of communication with my children just try talking not screaming talking the more mature you are the more mature you will be treated its all about respect my daudgter and i have great mutual respect and communication we talk abot everything from school to religion to sex being open is the key because my daughter is open and honest with me i trust her to do anything and because i am open and honest with her she feels comfortable telling me everything and sometimes as a mother it can be hard hearing about your baby girls personal and sex life but i would rather have her come to me than go somewhere else because atleast from me i know she is getting the rite advise and it never hurts to compromise try this if your mother wont let you go to a party or something try asking her to host one at your house in stead this way she will get to meet your friends and see what goes on at these things first hand and then mabe next time she will feel more comfortable letting you go out to one somewhere else well good luck hope this will be of some assistance remember communication
2007-09-12 03:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by @!#$%^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you have done some stupid things in the past. do you act like and adult or a child. Just because you going to be nineteen dose not mean you are read to go out in the world. do you have a good job do you have an eduction are you going to collage. If you have a good job move out of the house and get your owen place.
2007-09-12 03:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Move out on your own, If you want to be treated as an adult you must do what adults do............. support themselves. Becoming an adult has both the positive and negative aspects make sure you realize both sides before moving out. You may decided to wait. Try to sit down with your mother and have the kind of communication that you need to have with her about your feelings and your need to be treated as an adult
2007-09-12 03:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well are you kidding she doesn't wish for you to get into the booze/drug scenes. Too many in society would love you to mess up your life for various reasons and your mother is most likely aware of that. She is also aware of your age...where did you get the idea she isn't? Did someone *manipulate* you into believing that or are you just *assuming*? My advice is to stay away from both. She knows you are a young adult.
2007-09-12 03:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
⥠Are you responsible?? Do you have a job? Do you help around the house? Are you in school or college? etc.... if you are home, lounging around the house [[without a job]], mooching off your mom then you are being irresponsible.
⥠If you do have a job try and get your own apartment... you are 18 years old she can't stop you from leaving the house, but she can say you can't come back either. So show her you are mature & responsible.
Good Luck!
2007-09-12 03:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to live in your mother's home, i suppose you wil have to live by her rules.
Maybe it's time to start saving money, and get out on your own... even look for a roommate.
You will always be a "little kid" in your mom's eyes! take care.
2007-09-12 03:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is the parental care/motherly attitude and emotional attachment to u she cares for u but now u better talk to her and befriends to good people whom she may accept and permit u to parties and outings...but u should be taking care of yr self because of the worldly atmosphere and environment all around...once yr mom is assured that u could protect yr self then see will surely accept yr going out....
2007-09-12 03:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by mukesh30jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your almost 19 so move out get your own place and your own life.
2007-09-12 03:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋