Family & Relationships - 11 September 2007

Hey you guys it turns out the guy that i like doesn't like me, but forget about him. How can i be more confident and feel sexy and radiant in myself. He doesn't really have to tell me that he doesn't find me attractive, and he never could. The nail in the coffin was it would be cool if you were a guy, and saying that my friend (big boobs, model walk) and me combined would make the perfect woman. I don't like the idea that to him, i'm not enough. People have told me that i could be a model, but he sees that i'm pretty but nothing in comparison to other girls that he likes. Fair enough, i want to look and feel sexy for me and attract other guys that will acknowledge me as beautiful and sexy, and all the things he doesn't see. I can't chase him anymore it breaks my heart, i cant be the little sidekick that appears desperate for his attention. Does anyone have any tips for building self esteem and sexual confidence, i'm done with chasing this guy for love, theres a whole ocean of men.

2007-09-11 18:48:47 · 30 answers · asked by lotus flower 1 in Singles & Dating

So I prefer to date interracially and so does one of my friends.

She has a body more like Nicole Ritche and I have a body more like Beyonce. We are both black females, both 5'5 and I am lighter skinned.

I notice that black men tend to get upset or give ME more bad looks when we are both walking with white guys.

I think this is due to my body type being more desirable to black men than hers is.

I mean I never hear a black man complain that Nicole Ritche only dates white guys (even though she is mixed) But if Beyonce did it I am sure they would get mad.

2007-09-11 18:44:08 · 4 answers · asked by Okay Hero 2 in Singles & Dating

The floor plan sucks, there is a manhole in middle of back yard, looking across the street- neighbors are slobs. Good points- near vo-tech school- and is my mans pet project. Big con is I was left out of the decision making, and didn't see the house til it was bought. I absolutely love my house now, its so right for me. even if its rented and not owned. I need advice cause I am stressing this situation.

2007-09-11 18:40:41 · 21 answers · asked by silversaralee 1 in Marriage & Divorce

lately i have been complaining to my boyfriend about his wrong doings..and how i feel he doesnt appreciate me..BUT every single damn time, he finds a way to twist it in a way it seems like its my fault..(like one time i caught him lying..he said why listen to other ppl and hes getting mad at me)..im just so damn tired of the blame always being on me.if i say something, he says something back and says im selfish.. .sometimes i just want him to just say hes sorry or something..im very dissapointed in him and everytime i say something..i just wanan give up now cuz i think in my head..(oh my god, its happening again because im thinking i did nothing wrong..but the blames on me.. am i stubborn? is he?..i really dont know what to do.. our two year anniversary is coming up..and i was very excited.. please help someone =(

2007-09-11 18:40:15 · 2 answers · asked by girl 1 in Singles & Dating

About a year a go me and my wife decided i stay home and raise our son when she got a promotion. Im a painter and with me working full time she makes double i do. I Cook(no microwave stuff, im ont food network evry night pulling up new recipes :), i clean, do laundry, take care of our 19montn old son, take care of the bills, everything. When my wife comes home there so nothing for her to do but relax and enjoy the rest of her day and enjoy my hour long foot rubs every night. And i still do side jobs on the side to do my part of paying the bills. But i feel like im not doing my role right, i feel like people look down or bad at me for being a stay at home dad, and not my wife like the norm is. are we all looked as if were mess ups, or lazy *** or drunks, by the way i dont drink or do drugs. so knowing all that, do you feel im playing my part. and is my style role excepted.

2007-09-11 18:40:12 · 11 answers · asked by aaronsdada 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He married me knowing I have two teenagers... He has no kids of his own. He ignores them, complains constantly about little things that they do and doesn't make an effort to have a relationship with them. It's come down to snide remarks about them whenever he gets the chance, and I'm getting REALLY tired of it! Every time he complains about them, it pushes me farther away... I feel that he should not have married me if he's not going to at least try to like them. He's 45 and behaves like he's 13... Definitely NOT the man I married!! Oh, and the kids are good kids. One is 18 and respects him as a stepdad, and he still gets the passive agressive attitude.. I never would have married him if I had known it would be like this... Is it over??

2007-09-11 18:36:25 · 24 answers · asked by A W 5 in Marriage & Divorce

if i bring my gf to mardi gras in feb 08 is it likely if she flashes she will be groped or is that rare

2007-09-11 18:33:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I havent spoke to my childs father in almost a year. He left me when I was preggers to go do drugs and party. I tried to maintain a civil relationship with him after the baby but he continued to threaten me and put our child in danger. It ended in I have full custody and he couldnt do anything even with the cops. He filed a suit against me to get custody but I retained a good lawyer and he cant afford to procced so I assume. He is really a bad person, am I bad that I dont presue this?I do want my child not to have a father but he is a bad person. I really can afford it on my own

2007-09-11 18:19:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I don't understand why men give much more affection to their daughters and are much more tougher to their sons. My hubby is the kind of tough, unemotional, cold man, but I love him and I know he has a great heart! We've a 3 year old boy (so sweet and cute!) and one time, while my husband was sitting in the couch, my son jumped on him and tried to hug his father. My h/b put him away, saying that «men don't hug other men». He's crazy! I think it's perfectly normal and beatiful to see a father hugging his son. He never cried in front of me and he doesn't say «I love you». The deal is that he does his tasks, is very intelligent and helps with house chores, but it's also a pack of ice. Am I maried to a feelingless man?

Thanks a bunch in advance.

2007-09-11 18:18:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We are both in our twenties and have been friends for 2 1/2 years.

He has had trouble getting a gf for most of our friendship. I was always the one that talked to him about his problems. He would tell me everything about his life all the time and I would help him work it out.

Even though all that he would ALWAYS try to sabatoge my relationships and say that "he was the jelous type" or that my boyfriends "reminded him of the guys that use to tease him in highschool". And I still was his friend.

So now he has a gf and guess what? He stopped talking to me. We did not end on a bad note but he has been avoiding me. Everytime I call him he doesn't answer and when he does answer it is because I have called him on private.

He ends my call early saying "he has been busy" and "we have to hang out soon, but he has to go"

I think this is really inconsiderate as I have been so considerate to him throughout our friendship despite the unwelcoming he has showed my bfs. I know he probably liked me

2007-09-11 18:17:27 · 7 answers · asked by Okay Hero 2 in Friends

2007-09-11 18:05:22 · 14 answers · asked by jdd_tn 2 in Weddings

Where have all the cute YOUNG hick boys gone?! :[

2007-09-11 18:00:47 · 6 answers · asked by omfgbeky 2 in Singles & Dating

what would you do? and you strickly had a guest list..If you were to have someone be at the door and let people in -only on the guest list who would you have to do that? I am thinking about doing that for my wedding b'cuz my family-mom/sisters/etc. are inviting people i don't want at my wedding and not on the list.

2007-09-11 18:00:19 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

which do you prefer? Shaved, trimmed or natural and why?

2007-09-11 17:57:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-11 17:56:33 · 21 answers · asked by cmarti 1 in Marriage & Divorce

every argument i have with a friend of mine leaves me resentful. she ends up crying and i end up putting aside my irritations because i feel bad. however, i just end up feeling even more mad the next time something happens and the tears reappear. i also dislike the "thanks for forgiving me" gifts. i definitely know i'm not as nice to her as she is to me. is it better to just end it?

2007-09-11 17:52:31 · 9 answers · asked by dylan 2 in Friends

the ceremony. Does that include talking on the phone? Is it bad luck to speak to the groom before the ceremony too?

Also, I often see the bride and groom giving each other gifts before the wedding (not seeing each other, but gifts are delivered to them). How common is this?

Please, I want to know the traditions. NO, it's your day, do it the way you like.

2007-09-11 17:50:10 · 13 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5 in Weddings

Now I will admit that sometimes I do think stuff about girls. But, I don't think that alone means I'm a perv. How would I know if I am a perv?! I'm 14 BTW

2007-09-11 17:49:25 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1 in Friends

2007-09-11 17:48:01 · 8 answers · asked by beingMe22 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

First of all, this is not just a momentary crush. This has been an issue for me for for over five years now.

Second, I'd like to admit I was a romantic idiot. In high school, I was completely inexperienced in relationships. I had a crush on one of my good friends that eventually grew into something more. I think I may have exaggerated it in my own mind; I wrote her some really serious letters confessing my feelings. I don't remember exactly what I wrote. We hung out together a little bit after high school, having lunch together and stuff. I finally got up the nerve to ask her out, and she turned me down. We grew apart after that, but we remained friends. I've seen her only once in the past year.

Half a decade later, and I still can't get her out of my head. It's not deliberate at all. But I have recurring dreams and I miss her very, very much. I feel that if I can't resolve this in my mind, it's going to affect my mental health and/or future relationships.

What can I do?

2007-09-11 17:47:59 · 23 answers · asked by Satellite_K 2 in Singles & Dating

My bf & have been together since high school for 4 years on and off. At the beginning I would hear that his mom would say stuff about me behind my back & when I would leave the room, scream about how much she hates me. I felt that it was ridiculous that she was talking about me considering she was like 30 years older than me, but whatever. When we take breaks she says its about time its over & that its time for him to move on. I think that its very rude of her that she talks about me to everyone, especially since they tell me! I am not saying I have never said anything bad about her but i just hate being around his parents, mainly her. She thinks that she knows everything and it always wrong. She just drives me crazy about everything and how FAKE she is towards me. He wants to marry me someday & I just don't know if I can handle it. I know that it would take a lot for me to like her and I hold grudges forever! My friends thought I was exaggerating about her but after met, they agree

2007-09-11 17:46:17 · 10 answers · asked by Liana 2 in Family

We been seperated for only two weeks and I thought maybe he would change and get a job so he rescue our marriage.
I found out he's been talking to new girls and telling them lies like "Im trying to get back on my feet so give me a chance and ill prove myself" or " I have pictures on my cell phone call me or give your number" which is really his little brother cellphone he dosent own a cell phone.
He tells girl that he has all this money and owns all these things when really he dosent even have a car, house not even food for his own dog. Now I know that I wont ever take him back but is there any chances of him changing .... Also he hasnt called to see about his daughter or to see if she needs milk or anything. Why do yall think hes like that is it true that a cheater is always going to be a cheater hes done this before !!

2007-09-11 17:45:02 · 11 answers · asked by Raw1987 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Is this normal? How do you deal with it? Sometimes I can't catch my breath thinking about it.

2007-09-11 17:39:49 · 11 answers · asked by Corona 5 in Family

From my experience it is the best way to tell how good a person is.Uglier women tend to be more hateful towards the world.

2007-09-11 17:38:19 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

you live with your mom and dad

2007-09-11 17:31:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What are some ways to gain confidence? I am a very insecure person with very few (maybe even none really) friends, and I get nervous whenever I meet people, and I have trust issues. People have been really mean to me throughout my life mainly through jr. high and high school and it has ruined my self-esteem. How do I get it back? I try to fix myself up, but I guess feeling good about the way you look doesn't compensate for the way you feel about who you are. Someone please help!

2007-09-11 17:30:56 · 3 answers · asked by Miss K 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I can't wait the usual order time so it would have to be stocked or rushed.

2007-09-11 17:30:38 · 3 answers · asked by John M 2 in Weddings

My brother's friend, sara is married and has two tenn children. Sara loves her husband; however she does not feel that she is a connection with her husband. A family friend, Tim. whose profession is a radiologist or doctor, has found interest in Sara and sara has found interest in Tim. Sara and Tim love each other, but Sara does not want to hurt her husband. She is lost, confused, and disoriented. This is a kept secret and no one knows about it. Tim continously tell sara that he loves her and that he has found his soul mate even though sara is a married woman. Sara shows feeling for Tim, yet she does not want to hurt her husband, children, and friends. PLEASE...anyone have any suggestions on what Sara should do? Should Sara tell her husband or keep it a secret forever. Sara KNOWS that she and Tim can never be together...please any suggestions on what she should do?

2007-09-11 17:29:34 · 18 answers · asked by imagination_inevitable 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What does he think? Does he get freaked out by it? Esp. if the mom is very very good to her and seems like she likes the girl alot....

2007-09-11 17:29:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

women don,t obay like it said when tie the knot,, whats up with that,,

2007-09-11 17:27:04 · 17 answers · asked by rocketman 3 in Singles & Dating